What's the present for engagement? You should be ready to get engaged once and for all.

In the process of preparing for the wedding, newlyweds must be familiar with the preparations for the "Six Rites and Twelve Rites". I often receive private letters from netizens saying that these gifts are about to collapse, but what are the "six gifts and twelve gifts"? What do they mean?

First of all, the so-called "Twelve Rites" originated from the fact that when men and women were engaged in ancient times, the man had to prepare a bride price and so on. In order to express gratitude and sincerity to the woman's family, the woman will also prepare a gift for the man. This is the origin of the custom of "Twelve Rites".

However, this custom has become more and more simple nowadays. The "Six Gifts" simplified from the "Twelve Gifts" is the most common gift-giving form at present, but it must be noted that even numbers should be prepared when giving these gifts. After all, being a couple is a happy event.

Can you tell the difference between six wedding ceremonies and 12 ceremony? Take you to analyze the wedding auspicious day. 1. What six gifts should a man prepare? What's the point?

1? Boxed cake → Chinese cake or western wedding cake refers to boxed gift box cake and wedding cake gift box. Western-style wedding cakes are now the mainstay.

2? Sun cakes → Chinese pies are mostly mushrooms, meat, pineapples and coconuts.

3? Incense, fireworks, candles → boneless foot green, firecrackers, dragon and phoenix candles are used to tell ancestors and wish each other good luck and peace.

4? Six-color candy → winter melon candy, rock candy, orange cake, candy, longan, peanut (rice flavor)

Among them, "longan" can be eaten secretly by the bride, which means that the groom can only look at the bride after marriage, and it also symbolizes perfection, sweetness and fertility.

5? Engagement gold jewelry group → cash gold jewelry is divided into "big engagement" and "small engagement"; Small employment is a general employment. Usually, women will accept small employment and withdraw large employment.

6? Head and tail ceremony → 6 dresses or 12 dresses for the bride from head to toe. It is customary to put red envelopes (even numbers are enough) in all clothes pockets and wallets, symbolizing wealth and good luck.

These are the six rites, and the "Twelve Rites" are the six rites mentioned above plus the six rites introduced next. I don't know how to prepare, please keep watching ~

Second, the twelve rites prepared by men and their meanings.

1? Wine → wine (the quantity is self-determined) usually 24 cans (bottles) of wine are prepared, because there are 24 solar terms in a year, which symbolizes the peace of the year.

2? Face line → face line (even number) symbolizes the marriage of both parties, which means "a thousand miles of marriage is a thread".

3? Glutinous rice, brown sugar → Glutinous rice and brown sugar (sugar) are provided to the woman's family bag jiaozi, symbolizing a happy reunion. If jiaozi is not included in the wife's house, white rice can be used instead.

4? Whole pig or ham → When writing a letter, you can give the whole pig, half pig or pig's feet and ham to the woman's relatives and friends to show wealth and sincerity.

5? Capon → raw chicken or capon, duck mother chose 6 capons or duck mothers in ancient times, which symbolizes vitality and entrepreneurship.

6? Happy flowers, canned flowers → happy flowers (the accompanying flowers on the bride's head), canned flowers or dry goods are traditionally used more, indicating good luck. Now that the concept of health care has improved, many new people have turned to dry goods instead of bird's nest and abalone.

This is the "six rituals and twelve rituals" that the man needs to prepare. In order to show reciprocity, the woman also needs to return gifts to the man to show her sincerity. There are some differences in the preparation of gifts, and some will return some gifts from the man as gifts. Let's see which six gifts the woman should prepare!

Three, six gifts that women need to prepare and their meanings

1? Boxed Cake → Chinese Cake or Western Wedding Cake Ask the man how many wedding cakes he needs. Usually it is better for the woman to give him 6 or 12 boxes in return.

2? Sun cake → Chinese cake Ask the man how many wedding cakes he needs. Usually it is better for the woman to give him 6 or 12 boxes in return.

3? Incense, fireworks and candles → boneless and green, firecrackers and dragon and phoenix candles are used to tell stories to ancestors and wish each other good luck and peace. Cake shops usually provide two copies and need to return half to the man's home.

4? Six-color wedding candy → winter melon candy, rock candy, orange cake, wedding candy, longan and peanut (rice fragrance) wedding cake shops generally provide two copies, and half of them need to be returned to the man's house. In addition, it is also appropriate for the bride to receive two longan.

5? Gold jewelry → cash, gold jewelry Usually, the woman will accept small employment and extract large employment.

6? Head and tail ceremony → 6 pieces of clothes or 12 pieces of clothes from head to toe of the groom. It is customary to put red envelopes in all clothes pockets, wallets, etc. (The amount can be even), which symbolizes wealth, wealth and good luck. Among the six gifts, there are two pairs of socks for the man!

The above are the six gifts that the woman should prepare, plus the six gifts to be introduced next, which are the "twelve gifts" that the woman should prepare. Let's take a look ~

Four, the woman prepared twelve gifts and their meanings.

1? Charcoal → charcoal (a small bag is enough) not only symbolizes the prosperity of the family business, but also indicates that the newlyweds have a good relationship after marriage and are burning like fire!

2? Wheat, cereal → wheat, cereal, which means that food and clothing are intact, and the woman can safely marry her daughter to the man's house.

3? Brown sugar → Brown sugar can be replaced by sugar, which symbolizes sweetness.

4? Qian Yuan. A thin sheet made of lead wire → lead looks like a copper plate. The bride's family will use Qian Yuan to boil sugar water for the groom to drink, which symbolizes that they will get along well with her husband's family after they become attached.

5? Abdominal circumference → Fold the scarf into a navel pocket, and put a handkerchief and a red envelope inside, symbolizing great success.

6? Lotus and taro leaves → Lotus and taro leaves can be replaced by lotus roots or taro, symbolizing many children and grandchildren.

This is the "six rites and twelve rites" that women should prepare. After reading the gifts to be prepared by both parties, are you dizzy ~ ~ In fact, there are many people who use red envelopes instead, and about 30,000 to 50,000 can perfectly solve this custom! After all, some gifts are hard to buy in the city or both sides can't eat so much. It is also very practical to replace it with a red envelope, but the amount depends on the wishes and discussion of both parties ~

In addition, whether it is the Six Rites or the Twelve Rites, or even simpler, the most important thing is to communicate well with the elders of both sides. Basically, it is not difficult to hold a wedding!