The importance of etiquette for young children in rural areas short

Etiquette is people agreed upon, to people, to themselves, to ghosts and gods, to nature, to express respect, reverence and prayer and other ideological consciousness, a variety of customary forms and behavioral norms. The following is a small compilation of the importance of etiquette for young children, together with a look at it.

Etiquette is the behavioral norms and guidelines for people in social interaction activities. It is an important part of moral education is, the external embodiment of moral cultivation, is a symbol of civilization of a country. Our country is commonly known as the "state of etiquette", since ancient times, there is "do not learn etiquette, not to stand" said. However, nowadays, many parents have neglected this point, so that in the process of children's growth, such as arrogance, selfishness, impoliteness, greed, laziness, temper and so on a series of problems. The reason for this is that parents have adopted ways and means of raising their children that are contrary to the nature of their children's development. As parents are submissive to their children, unlimited coddling, resulting in children become a family of the little princess, the little emperor, so that they do not know what is etiquette, manners. In public *** places and daily life, it is not difficult to find littering, swearing, answering the phone uncivilized and other rude phenomena. In the long run, the children's bad habits can not be effectively corrected, not only on the children's own physical and mental health development hinders, but also on the development of society as a whole has a negative impact. Therefore, etiquette education is urgent, must cause the family and society enough attention, for this reason, we must combine family education and school education, two-pronged approach, maximize the correction of young children's bad habits.

I. Analysis of the current situation of etiquette education for young children

In recent years, China has made great efforts in the ideological, political and moral quality education of students, and has made considerable achievements. But there are still many problems in carrying out conscious etiquette education for students. From 98.7% of the people on the current situation of China's etiquette education with a negative attitude can be seen, China's etiquette education is not optimistic about the current situation. There are three main reasons for the analysis of the current situation:

1, since the reform and opening up, the country's material civilization and spiritual civilization construction has made brilliant achievements, but due to a certain degree of emphasis on the construction of the political ideology and ignoring the traditional morality construction, the lack of students of a minimum of general knowledge of etiquette has become a weak link in the school education;

2, the importance of etiquette education in the process of education. Insufficient. Although quality education has been mentioned for many years, but part of the teacher's education concept is still affected by the traditional education to the test, the moral education of the students do not pay enough attention to the phenomenon of focusing on the intellectual over the moral still exists. In rural schools, teachers for students' etiquette education is less consideration, students' etiquette and modern social requirements have been seriously out of touch;

3, family education on etiquette education neglect. Now most of the students are only child, only child peculiar selfishness, capricious, self-centered, only my thoughts, with the core idea of etiquette - respect, care for others, strict discipline is incompatible! In the development of family education, parents generally do not pay attention to the children's etiquette education, and even more, only focus on the children's academic performance, there is no ideological and moral education, etiquette is indifferent attitude. In addition, part of the rural parents of the etiquette of the quality is not high also seriously affects the improvement of students' etiquette.

Second, learning etiquette will bring children what benefits

1. conducive to young children's concentration, the cultivation of a sense of order

Quiet, orderly learning environment is the basic guarantee of children's learning. A toddler who understands etiquette and forms good behavioral habits will politely ask for advice when he wants to intervene in other people's work, such as: "xx, can I do the game with you?"" xx, can you give me your toy to play with?" Similarly, when he knows that others want to intervene in his area of work, he politely agrees to intervene. At this point, the child will focus all his attention on the thing he is doing, which improves his concentration, and in turn, the efficiency and quality of his learning. Research by psychologist John Gottman has also shown that children who know how to be polite and courteous are physically and mentally healthier, and they care about others, are more compassionate and make more friends. This shows that children's etiquette education not only improves their concentration and sense of order, but also allows them to make more friends, which in turn promotes their healthy physical and mental growth.

2. It is conducive to the development of independence, self-confidence and respect for others

A person with high quality and education must have a good civilized cultivation, such a person will be respected and welcomed by others, and psychologically, the higher the degree of acceptance by the public, the more conducive to the establishment of harmonious interpersonal relationships, which is conducive to the opening up of the situation, the development of the cause. And when a child knows how to respect others, understand others, and form good behavior, he will be accepted by others, welcomed by everyone, and will have a lot of friends. The increase in the number of friends undoubtedly increases the child's self-confidence, and these friends can indirectly or directly bring him more and better opportunities for development, so that the child gradually form a sound personality and interpersonal skills.

3. It is conducive to promoting the socialization of young children

Individual socialization requires a process, a social environment, and more importantly, the role of education." Rituals control people with the help of universals and are made second nature to people through education." The socialization of young children cannot be separated from the intervention of etiquette education, and "knowing books and manners" is a representation of the socialization of young children. Through the education of social life style and the etiquette of social morality, young children form social habits and gradually tend to be socialized. Therefore, etiquette education plays an important role in the individual socialization of young children.

4. It is conducive to promoting the development of young children's aesthetic ability

Etiquette education can also promote young children to appreciate the beauty, discover the beauty, create beauty, so as to improve the aesthetic ability of young children. Elegant dress and grooming, beautiful walking and standing posture exudes beauty, which not only has a great effect on creating a good social environment, but also can purify the hearts of young children. Through etiquette education, so that young children to do know the etiquette, to achieve etiquette, respect for etiquette, with etiquette, shaping a new self, multi-faceted to promote the development of young children's aesthetic ability.

Three, the necessity of etiquette education for young children

Many studies at home and abroad have shown that: in the development of the individual, the acquisition of certain behaviors have a critical period, in this critical period, the individual is in a state of active preparation and acceptance, if given the necessary stimulus and help, these behaviors will develop rapidly and have a long-lasting impact. Pre-school children, plasticity, easy to accept all kinds of information from the outside world, and therefore is also the ideal period to understand society, learn all kinds of behavioral requirements, but also etiquette and other good behavioral habits of the best period. The essence of etiquette education is to cultivate people's upbringing, teach them how to respect people and how to get along with others. People are social beings, which determines that the ultimate goal of our education is not simply learning knowledge and intellectual development, but to make people adapt to the needs of society, promote the development of society, and realize the overall development of human beings. People live in society, only learn to respect others, can truly stand on their own feet in society, can achieve self-respect and self-love, in order to create a harmonious and harmonious humanistic environment and civilized society.

Modern educators have put forward the concept of education, "the first thing to be taught is to be a human being". Therefore, our education to cultivate people, we must first focus on cultivating educated, know the etiquette of the people. Advocating etiquette education has a strong practical relevance, especially today, for the "three thousand favorites in one" of the only child, from a young age by too much care or even spoiling, a lot of children in the social interaction, often accustomed to self-centered, often lack of a humility with others, the idea of cooperation, do not know how to respect, care for, and sympathy for others, and sometimes appear to be more than the intellect and insufficient upbringing, the lack of the necessary Sometimes they seem to have more intelligence than upbringing and lack the necessary etiquette. There are also some children who are not good at socializing, lonely and without companions, and formed a bad character such as withdrawn, introverted, paranoid. In our modern life, what we need most is the team spirit of mutual respect, tolerance and solidarity among people. Therefore, the introduction of etiquette classes in kindergartens, so that children from an early age to start learning how to behave, how to get along with others, interaction, cooperation, is not only conducive to the improvement of the child's upbringing and the sound development of its personality, but also conducive to improving the comprehensive quality of the next generation, and ultimately promote the civilization of the whole society. As a kindergarten teacher, you can exchange and share educational insights and experiences with children or their parents, and summarize the experiences that are conducive to the development and growth of young children and then reuse them in the actual teaching process of early childhood education, which will provide a good educational environment for children to improve the overall quality of the child, the child will always maintain a positive psychological condition, which will promote the harmonious physical and mental development of young children. development.

Four, how to implement the etiquette of early childhood education

1, pay attention to create a good environmental atmosphere

Early childhood is the enlightenment period of ideological and moral education, etiquette education is an important part of ideological and moral education. And the early childhood of young children's plasticity, easy to develop a variety of habits, adults such as attention to cultivate civilized manners from childhood, young children will benefit for life, if in this period of time neglected to young children's etiquette education, grow up to change the difficult. As the saying goes, "If you become less natural, habits become natural." Today's one-child family, the child set a thousand favorites, pampered at home, became the family's "little emperor", "little princess", they grew up playing alone, and toys to make "friends", easy to form withdrawn, wilful, afraid of difficulties, lack of self-control and perseverance, rude to others and other character traits, a lot of families to the child's etiquette education of the lack of children in the home, resulting in children without the size of the distinction between, and the children. In the long run, it is not good for the child's growth, and may even evolve into a bully, bossy, egotistical, the slightest bit worse than the elders punched and kicked the evil consequences, if left unchecked, the consequences are unimaginable. In kindergarten we will strengthen the education of polite language to children, and parents should be from the details of daily life to educate children, such as meeting acquaintances to take the initiative to say hello; respectively, say "goodbye"; mom and dad do not disturb the work, study and rest; mom and dad should not interrupt when talking; do not interrupt other people's speeches; influence the other people to say "sorry". Say "I'm sorry" to others; don't touch other people's things without permission; say "please" when you ask for help. Parents should also teach their children basic manners at home, such as how to sit when sitting, how to eat, how to behave when guests come, and how to be a polite and understanding child. In this way, day by day, from the details to start, often can receive good results.

2, parents lead by example

Children's polite behavior from parents and adults to learn and imitate, so cultivate children to speak politely must be started by parents. Parents also have to be strict with themselves, respect for the elderly, get up every morning to the elderly to ask for good morning, the child will naturally respect grandparents, grandparents are polite. If there are old people at home, parents can communicate with the elderly, tell the elderly the disadvantages of pampering the children, to have a rational love for children, I believe that the elderly will support the young parents' educational methods, parents at home on weekdays, whether they love to read or not, it is best to hold the book in the hand, to develop the habit of children love to read. Be filial to the elderly, do not speak foul language, and set a good example. At home, it is best to play some classical and beautiful piano songs, or some meditative light music, songs played by various ethnic instruments, which can cultivate the child's noble artistic sentiments. As the saying goes, if you don't teach your children, it's your father's fault. Parents should pay attention to their behavior at home. Children have a strong ability to imitate from a young age, and what their parents say and do will have a direct impact on them. Others say that "a child's mind is like a blank sheet of paper", and parents play a very important role in the daily life of a child, whether the "blank sheet" is good or bad. If your child has a habit of using foul language, don't assume that they are too young to understand. Although they are small children and don't even know what foul language means or what they are saying, as they grow older, their bad habits will slowly take shape. If a child is found speaking foul language, then he should be educated mentally and stopped from continuing in time. Scolding the child will have the opposite effect, the child has a strong rebellious mentality. You can let your child recite some classics every day, such as "Three Character Classic" and "Disciple's Rules". A long time will see the effect, see the child's different, so that not only let them learn to be a man of reason, at the same time can enhance the memory of young children. It can be called a two-for-one method. Therefore, from a young age to develop children's civilized and polite habits, learn to say polite words, play a great role in the development and growth of children; in the daily education, parents should work closely with the teacher to do a good job of education. In this way, we can better educate our children. And the education methods I proposed above are just my personal opinions and some insights in practice. In life, there are three most important things: life, time, and the word "faith". As long as there is morality and trust, the child's future life path will be more beautiful and more brilliant.

3, in daily life to be cultivated

In daily life, we always pay attention to remind the child to greet other people, see the children who do well, immediately give praise. In addition, after school teachers tell children moral stories, talk to children about etiquette, and let the children on the stage to perform, so that children can actually practice. Such as: how to receive guests, how to greet people, how to answer the phone and so on. At home, the child's habit of speaking politely depends on the parents' unremitting cultivation. Parents can use a variety of opportunities, a variety of occasions for children to get practice and exercise, for example, you can take the initiative to invite the neighbors of the small friends to play at home, teach them to treat each other politely. Never take your child as a guest because you are afraid that he or she may not be polite, thus depriving him or her of the opportunity to practice. You can also let your child start by doing chores. Let the child do housework, first, he will be grateful; second, the child will learn to develop the habit of hard work; third, to promote the child's interpersonal relationships; fourth, to enhance the child's willpower, the ability to do things to undertake, which is now the society of the children in the most lack of, so parents should also be in the life of the training child to do housework.

Children's etiquette is developed through social interaction and practice, and can be cultivated through a variety of ways. Combined with activities, etiquette education curriculum. Teachers should fully explore the content of etiquette education in all aspects of the kindergarten day, and formulate standards of etiquette and behavior for the day-to-day activities of young children of each age group. Weekly stories and life-oriented teaching as the content, so that early childhood etiquette education closer to the life and needs of young children. In the section of children coming to the school, we should start from the first class to select the little standard bearer of manners to receive all the children and parents of children in the school in turns from 8:00 to 8:30 in the morning every day. The civilized language and standard standing posture and gestures of the little standard bearers of etiquette not only set an example for the children in the middle and small classes, but also provide a good model for the parents of the children. The etiquette education activities are infiltrated into all kindergarten activities. Etiquette education is an important part of social education, so teachers should take etiquette education as a breakthrough in social education for young children and infiltrate it into all educational activities. At the same time, combined with the "Mother's Day", "May Day International Labor Day," "March 8 Women's Day", "Dragon Boat Festival", "June 1" Children's Day and other festivals for young children to love the motherland, love of the people, love of loved ones, love of companions of the thanksgiving education, so that young children understand the importance of etiquette education, and thus consciously and spontaneously to comply with the implementation.