Traditional education in China is strict.

In recent years, some people often regard the strict education of "tiger mother" and "wolf father" as the traditional education in China, which not only discredits the traditional education in China, but also pits some confused parents and innocent children.

The so-called "strict education" is an act of compulsory reform of minors by means of beating, scolding, punishment and humiliation. Although its goal is good, I hope children can do better, but because it doesn't respect children, doesn't care about their physical and mental development characteristics, and doesn't conform to human nature, it can't actually play a positive educational role, but is just a destructive force.

Pedagogy and psychology have studied the damage of severe education very well, but up to now, people are still not alert to the damage of severe education. In the current educational discourse, people are still particularly willing to talk about rules and rarely talk about freedom. Which teenager has problems often comes down to parents' lax management and overindulgence; On the contrary, which teenagers grow up well, especially in one aspect, will be attributed to the strict education of parents and teachers.

However, people refuse to think deeply. If strict education can really make children become excellent, isn't this world full of talents? It's not easy for adults to pick up a child? Save worry and effort. But education is a matter of "settling accounts after autumn". Planting poppies will not bear cherries, but I don't know which branch the consequences will bear.

A parent heard that children with problems must be strangled in the cradle, so she has been strictly disciplined in all aspects since her daughter 1 was in her teens. If the child doesn't eat well, dump all the food in the child's bowl; If she can't recite ancient poems well, she will slap her hand with a ruler ... Under strict education, this child is really well-behaved, eats on time and recites many ancient poems, but she is afraid to play with children outside, and she is timid and will show incredible cruelty to small animals.

Children who are often criticized learn to be harsh; Children who are often beaten and scolded learn to hate; Children who are often criticized can easily become inferior; Children who are often restricted will become more and more rigid and stubborn ... example is more important than words, and strict education itself is a demonstration. If adults often criticize child abuse, how to cultivate confident and peaceful children?

There is nothing wrong with children, only immaturity. If you always think that the child is "wrong", it is actually your own fault. I think education needs to be solved by "sneaking into the night with the wind and moistening things silently". Makarenko, a Soviet educator, said: "If the family life system is developed reasonably from the beginning, there is no need for punishment. In a good family, there will never be punishment. This is the most correct way of family education. "

The "good family" mentioned here is not always harmonious, but contradictions can always be properly solved, which contains the art of education. Everything in life can produce good results only by proper means; This is especially true in education, and there is no wrong means to achieve positive results.

All the children in the world are excellent, and no child needs to be beaten and scolded-only when parents have such confidence in their children can they put down their sticks and then put them down. Children are fragile, growth only needs encouragement, not punishment, and all severe treatment hides some kind of harm. A tolerant and sincere education will always be the most beautiful, moving and influential for children.