Why can't WeChat live broadcast be killed with a stick?

Because of the funeral culture in the Chinese world, "mourning" has a long history. In the Confucian tradition, crying is not only an expression of emotion, but also an important etiquette. Some families of the deceased can't cry because of grief or other reasons. Relatives, friends and neighbors will think that the families of the deceased are not filial. Therefore, some family members will ask their bereaved daughters to cry for them and create a sad atmosphere for the funeral. This tradition has continued to this day.

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Six years ago, Miss Wu, a citizen of Wuhan, left home because of marriage and love problems. For the next three years, her mother inquired about her whereabouts everywhere, but there was no result. The year before last, my mother died of liver cancer. Because the family couldn't contact her, she couldn't be there when her mother was buried. Now that Miss Wu has settled in Beijing, she has to work and take care of the children. When Qingming couldn't go back to Wuhan to offer sacrifices this year, he contacted the tomb area and asked to offer sacrifices on his behalf. She also asked the cleaners to "pretend to be sad and cry". The cemetery finally met Miss Wu's requirements, and the process of sacrifice was broadcast live to her through WeChat video. She really shed tears for the customers (according to Wuhan Evening News yesterday).

In recent years, during the Qingming period, the business of sweeping graves on behalf of customers has quietly emerged. Many businesses aim at business opportunities to expand "business", and even some part-time college students. This phenomenon has been criticized by many people. Opponents believe that the Qingming grave sweeping is sincere. China has a tradition of "filial piety first" since ancient times. "What do you think if you even cheat on sweeping graves and your ancestors know everything?" Family ties can't be commercialized anyway. Some netizens bluntly said that Miss Wu's practice is "very fake".

Is it good or bad to invite people to the grave to cry live? I don't think we can generalize. Business is pervasive, and it is worthy of criticism to turn the original intention of ancestor worship into a formalistic show, but we should also consider that people in different situations may face different obstacles when remembering the deceased. Mr. Chai, who sacrificed his mother for Miss Dai Wu, said that he was disgusted when he first entered the business. "He is not my relative. Why don't you come yourself? " Not my parents, why should I kneel? "However, after contact, he found that every guest who can't come to pay homage in person has his own difficulties and necessity. Miss Wu used to have many contradictions with her family, but now she shoulders the responsibility of taking care of this small family. Although "the dead are the biggest", it does not mean that Miss Wu is wrong to choose her own path. Asking people to make sacrifices, cry for graves, make peace with the past and seek peace of mind, in modern terms, is called outsourcing part of emotional labor as a last resort.

In fact, the funeral culture in the Chinese world has a long history of "mourning". In the Confucian tradition, crying is not only an expression of emotion, but also an important etiquette. Some families of the deceased can't cry because of grief or other reasons. Relatives, friends and neighbors will think that the families of the deceased are not filial. Therefore, some family members will ask their bereaved daughters to cry for them and create a sad atmosphere for the funeral. This tradition has continued to this day. "Mourning" gives filial piety and memory to future generations in some external form. Without the "sense of ceremony" created by mourning, people's minds and even the values of "pursuing the future with caution" cannot be expressed; The pain of losing a loved one is also hard to vent. In my opinion, in recent years, valet crying grave and WeChat live broadcast are just new varieties of "mourning" under the new era and new technology conditions.

It is certainly not advisable to sweep the grave and cry just to cope with external pressure, put on a facade and pretend to be a dutiful son and grandson; But if you have the "heart" and are willing to spend money to perform a "ceremony", I think it is not bad. In the final analysis, Miss Wu invited someone to "sweep the grave" not to show her relatives and friends that "I am a filial daughter", but more out of her inner needs and not to hinder others. Times are changing, so is the connotation of "filial piety". It used to be said that "parents are here and don't travel far", but now it is a mobile society. How many people can meet the standards of filial piety? As the saying goes, "Although ancestors are far away, sacrifices should be sincere", but honesty is acceptable. As for the external expression, we should conform to the times and respect the individual.