Which version is better to accompany children through primary school for six years?

& gt& gt Playing with toys doesn't necessarily mean losing heart. In the process of playing, children can easily learn knowledge that is impossible to learn in class. In fact, at home, we should give children a research environment and a broader world, so that children can learn through experience and practice, instead of just bringing textbooks and workbooks home.

"Game Time" and "Family Day" in my family.

& gt& gt Failure is the mother of success, and "can't afford to lose" is an excellent quality. Children who can't afford to lose in games can't afford to lose in other competitions.

& gt& gt Once the habit of muddling along is formed, there will be endless troubles.

& gt& gt Today's children are mostly only children, without brothers and sisters to play with, and parents can only play the roles of parents and companions at the same time.

& gt& gt Many times, it's not that children don't have time to play, but that parents don't want to play with their children on weekends, because it requires parents to pay a certain amount of time and energy. Since they are parents, they have the obligation and responsibility to help their children build a sound personality. Raising children is like growing crops. Only by giving specific nutrition at specific growth stages can children grow up healthily. Some opportunities are missed and can never be made up, because every sensitive period of children's growth is fleeting.

Nature is a book without words.

& gt& gt Then let the children get in touch with nature as much as possible during the formative period.

& gt& gt The magical power and magnificent beauty of nature will never be heard there. Only by letting children experience and feel personally can they feel deeply. Only by personally feeling the power of nature can children truly love, fear, love and protect the environment, thus forming conscious behavior habits.

& gt& gt You know snow when you play with it, and you know trees when you see them. Facing a natural world, children put their body and mind into it to feel its beauty. Such a process of experiencing happiness and exercising courage is also a process of helping children build their personality.

A puzzle that took a month to complete.

& gt& gt There are many things in life that cannot be accomplished overnight. Achieving goals requires persistence and patience. It is very beneficial to cultivate children's willpower and good habits of doing things to the end from an early age.

& gt& gt "Delayed gratification" is a psychological concept, which means that in order to pursue greater goals and gain greater enjoyment, you can restrain your desires and give up the temptation in front of you. "Delayed gratification" is often a manifestation of a person's psychological maturity and an important part of emotional intelligence. Michelle, an American psychologist, has proved through years of follow-up experiments that those children who can "delay gratification" have stronger self-control ability. They can properly control and adjust their behaviors, resist impulses and temptations, and persistently ensure the realization of their goals without external supervision. Those children who have insufficient ability to "delay gratification" will have some deviant behaviors, such as watching TV while doing homework, making small moves in class, playing around after school, being impatient and impatient, being shy and stubborn in social life after puberty, being easily agitated when encountering setbacks, shrinking or being at a loss when encountering pressure, etc.

Exercise from an early age has many advantages.

& gt& gt sports can make children healthy and energetic, help children improve their learning efficiency, increase their self-confidence, enhance their popularity in the group and narrow the distance with their classmates. Sports can also exercise children's cooperative spirit and prepare for the future society.

Calling friends is very popular.

& gt& gt "Lack of peers is more terrible than not getting into the exam", an education expert once said, and I agree with this view. The growth of children is a process of socialization, and the ability to communicate with others is the foundation for children to stand on the society in the future.

Reading is immersed in the ocean of books.

& gt& gt Parents create a reading atmosphere for their children, and children may like reading; Parents create an atmosphere for their children to watch TV, and children may like watching TV. For reading, what parents should do is: first, let children have books to read, and second, let children read. "Having books to read" means having books suitable for children at home; "Reading a book" means exposing children to books.

Create a reading atmosphere for children

& gt& gt I hope that all parents can create a reading atmosphere for their children no matter where they are and what the conditions are. Parents who study can study with their children, so that their children can study hard and grow up with them.

& gt& gt What is even more worrying is that the lack of knowledge caused by poor reading affects the quality of the whole people.

& gt& gt In fact, in addition to exams, children's spiritual nourishment, sentiment edification, knowledge expansion, etc. It must be supported by a lot of extracurricular reading. The market can be utilitarian, but our parents should consider their children's long-term development and let them read books that can really help their children's mental growth, instead of just staring at teaching guidance books.

The bookstore is my family's "second study"

& gt& gt Relatively speaking, reading is a very good way of extracurricular activities. It can not only broaden our horizons, expand our knowledge, cultivate our sense of language, cultivate our sentiments, but also improve our intelligence. While reading words, children will give full play to their imagination and turn the contents of books into pictures and images. This transformation is actually a kind of re-creation. In the process of this transformation, children's thinking ability has been exercised. When reading, children's attention and memory can also be fully mobilized. When children are absorbed in a book, they can forget all about eating and sleeping, and they will unconsciously remember the plot in the book. In other words, in the whole reading process, children's imagination, thinking, attention and memory have been exercised, which are all very important intellectual factors.

There are books to read, but also let the children read.

& gt& gt Children like reading. After all, the world in the book is novel and can satisfy children's natural curiosity. What parents should do is: first, let their children have books to read; second, let their children read. "Having books to read" means having books suitable for children at home; "Reading a book" means exposing children to books. Only in this way can children's reading interest be cultivated slowly. Moreover, because books are everywhere in the house, the possibility of children being attracted by books is greatly increased. As long as a child likes reading, the attraction of TV and computer will be greatly reduced.

A rotten encyclopedia

& gt& gt In the face of children who are extremely eager for knowledge, it is impossible for parents to know everything and answer all questions. Therefore, I think it is very necessary to prepare some reference books for children, so that when children ask endless questions, they can find answers with them. In the process of seeking answers, children's curiosity is satisfied by exploring the root causes of things, and their sense of accomplishment is also satisfied when they solve problems themselves. For a child, the satisfaction of curiosity and sense of accomplishment is a magic weapon to improve his interest in learning.

& gt& gt When choosing reference books for primary school students, we should consider readability and interest. Such reference books can not only solve problems for children, but also be good reading materials at ordinary times. In short, when choosing, we should consider whether the content and style are suitable for children's tastes, and try to choose reference books with better paper quality and comfortable appearance.

Children from poor families can also have books to read.

& gt& gt 12 years ago, I came to Beijing with my parents, and my first stop was10/the small courtyard at the gate of the middle school. I rented an 8-square-meter cabin and started a completely different life from my hometown. Since then, the yard has become a paradise when I was 3 years old, and every corner is printed with the shadow of my running and jumping. The old courtyard gate is a simple house built of bricks. In the yard, jujube trees, Chinese toon trees and apricot trees are hidden from each other. There are countless happy memories and that innocent childhood buried in this small yard.

& gt& gt Let children develop the habit of reading, just like installing an engine for children.

& gt& gt's daughter has been in the middle and upper reaches of her class since she was a child. She stood out in her second and third year of high school and was finally admitted to Peking University. I feel that it is because she has accumulated a lot of reading knowledge since childhood, and finally achieved the effect of many a mickle makes a mickle.

Mom's "Going into the Water" Composition

& gt& gt From my daughter's first composition to all the words in high school, including diaries, weekly notes and essays, I cherish them one by one. When she was in senior three, my husband and I compiled these words into a book, printed it into a book, named "Ye Fu Ji", and gave it to her as a bar mitzvah. Holding an adult gift that embodies the love of mom and dad and witnessed 18 her growth and mental journey, my daughter hugged us and was moved to tears.

& gt& gt once listened to a lecture given by Sun Ruixue, who was called "the first person in Montessori education in China". She mentioned that in her school, children in the first and second grades of primary school wrote their compositions with the help of their parents. Their practice is that children say and parents write. When a child tells a story to his parents or describes a person orally, parents should write down what the child said word for word. After the children finish speaking and the parents finish writing, the parents will read the composition just finished by two people to the children, so that the children can feel whether it needs to be revised. If the child feels that it needs to be revised, the parents will listen to the child and revise it on the basis of the original text. Parents are allowed to write because there are still many words in the first and second grade children who can't write and their writing ability is not strong enough. In this process, parents are just assistants and don't give any advice to their children. Instead, fully mobilize your imagination and creativity to "write" a true composition that belongs entirely to your child. After this "writing" for a period of time, children will leave their parents and write their own compositions. Teacher Sun said that the compositions written by the children in her school were sincere, vivid and touching.

Learning is a kind of candy.

& gt& gt Primary school students like learning on the premise that they love school, teachers, classmates and their own interest in learning. Only in this way can he be full of enthusiasm for learning and keep growing and making progress. Therefore, there is no need to deliberately spend too much thought on children's learning, but to find ways to make children fall in love with school and learning.

Patiently waiting for beginners.

& gt& gt Children in Grade One and Grade Two are in the toddler stage of their study career. All learning activities are new to him and need to be cultivated bit by bit. Many poor performances are caused by difficulties in learning unfamiliar content. No child is born with writing and arithmetic, slow in writing, unable to finish exams and even unable to remember what he has learned. These are the normal performances of many children. Maybe some children of the same age perform better in some aspects, but that's only because children are different and there is no difference between good and bad.

& gt& gt When helping children through the initial stage of school, parents are both mentors and companions. The premise is that parents should help their children in a way of acceptance and love.

& gt& gt Dear parents, we send our children to school. How to get him to do everything well as soon as he enters school? People should make mistakes in their studies, learn lessons, accumulate experience and grow up slowly. Therefore, please treat all the performance of the child as a normal performance in growth and wait patiently for him!

Caring for and satisfying children's curiosity

& gt& gt Parents send their children to school with the ultimate goal of letting them learn a skill and gain a foothold in society in the future. In primary school, it is more important to make children interested in learning than temporary academic performance. In fact, there is not much homework in primary schools. As long as children can keep up with and master what they have learned and maintain their interest in learning, they will continue to want to acquire knowledge and eventually have the ability to live. Therefore, in primary school, parents should pay attention to the cultivation of interest in learning. The cultivation of learning interest must first satisfy children's curiosity.

Constantly inspire and realize children's self-confidence

According to Maslow's "hierarchy of needs" theory, the highest demand of human beings is the realization of self-worth. For children, when the sense of self-worth is satisfied, they like to do one thing very much, and the constant recognition and praise of adults will make children feel "I am strong", which is the feeling of self-confidence.

A good mood is a magnet for school.

& gt& gt's temporary good mood is certainly helpful for children's study. And a sustained good mood can keep children interested and motivated in learning for a long time. The so-called "mood", in layman's terms, refers to a certain emotion that lasts for a long time. For children, if they can have a sustained good mood and be in a happy state every day, they can devote themselves to their studies. And to let children have a good mood, harmonious family relations are more important.

It's time to cultivate study habits.

& gt& gt study habits include daily preview and review, periodic summary and extracurricular reading. Once these habits are developed before the child 10, they will be of great help to his future study and even his future work and life. So we should cultivate habits as early as possible, and don't wait until there is a problem.

& gt& gt "A little man's will becomes nature, and his habits become nature" is a famous saying of Confucius, which means that the habits he developed as a child are as natural as those he was born with. For primary school students, it is very important to form good study habits from grade one, which is very important for his later study career.

& gt& gt It takes 2 1 day to form a habit initially, and 90 days to form a habit basically, that is, 3 months. If a habit is to be fixed, parents and children need to stick to it for three months. Moreover, it is best not to repeat these three months. Too much repetition, all previous efforts were in vain. So the cultivation of children's habits is actually a test of parents' patience. If parents pass this, children will pass that.

& gt& gt The so-called "dedicated time" means doing certain things at certain times. For example, we discussed with our daughter that 7: 00-7: 30 pm is the time to do math homework, so this time is dedicated to doing math homework, and we are not allowed to wander out of the house during this half hour, not to disturb her, and not to send her fruit, water, etc. If she has any questions that she can't answer, keep them for the first time and ask her parents after the homework of this subject is finished. After finishing one homework, you can have a rest, change your mind and start writing another homework. Similarly, I only did that one thing during that time. This is very important for cultivating children's concentration, and children will also develop a good habit of focusing on things. Because, after all, during school classes and exams, there is not so much freedom at home, and it is not allowed to go to the toilet and do other things casually. The child is still young, so long as his parents' words don't hurt his self-esteem, he will listen to his parents. Once a habit is formed, children will not go out for a drink, watch TV and go to the toilet for a while, as some parents say.

A Good Way to Learn Chinese —— Reading and Writing

& gt& gt We should practice "children's skills" in reading and writing, and lay a good foundation in primary school, which will save a lot of energy after entering middle school. Therefore, parents should cooperate with the school to guide their children to read more books and practice calligraphy in primary school, so that children can fall in love with reading and writing as soon as possible.

The choice of extracurricular classes should consider the actual situation of children.

& gt& gt First, respect children's talents, that is, outstanding performance in intelligence. It is necessary to determine whether the child is learning the material of the course, and then make targeted choices; Second, respect children's interests. Only when children really like it can they learn something. Third, respect the critical period of children's growth. Children of different ages have different needs. Missing the critical period may be difficult to remedy for life.

Honor your parents and start with adults.

& gt& gt 1. Young parents who live with their parents should take the initiative to say hello to their parents before and after leaving home every day. This is what the Disciple Rules says: "You must tell them when you leave, and you must see them when you come back." Self-reliance, take the initiative to assume the housework and financial responsibilities at home, and don't be a "neet". Second, if you live apart from your parents, you should always call your parents to say hello, so that children can feel that although grandparents are not in front of them, their parents still care about them. Take the children home on holidays to see if there are conditions. Third, when parents are old, they should do their duty to support them. All this seems to be our responsibility and obligation as children, but for children, it is teaching them how to treat their parents.

Cultivate children's sense of responsibility

& gt& gt A child's life will enter one relationship system after another. He entered the family system as soon as he was born, entered the school system when he went to kindergarten, and will enter a larger system of society in the future. Most of the time, he is dealing with the relationship between people. Therefore, cultivating children is not only to make children become responsible for themselves, but also to make children consider others and their own collective and become people with collective honor and social responsibility.

What is more important than achievement is harvest.

& gt& gt In the current educational environment of "learning well is a good thing", parents really need to have a normal mind, pay attention to their children's growth in all aspects instead of just focusing on learning, and pay attention to the gains in their growth rather than just focusing on grades.

& gt& gt In the plant kingdom, peony and hawthorn blossom at the same time. Peony flowers are very eye-catching in spring and are sought after by everyone; Hawthorn flowers are very inconspicuous in spring, which is dwarfed by peony flowers. But in autumn, peony leaves are bare, and hawthorn will be covered with red fruits, which will begin to attract people's attention.

Psychology lets angels fly by themselves.

& gt& gt Today's children also have a lot of energy. They can take care of themselves. They are not weaker than us, but we are weaker than our parents. Parents of senior children should change from the role of mentor in the past to the role of companionship and guidance. Children should be allowed to grow up in their own way and be guided at the right time, instead of imposing their will on them.

Let go appropriately and let the children grow up on their own.

& gt& gt Children have to face the road of life independently after all. Just like learning to walk, parents can only walk steadily if they let go of their hands; Just like learning to ride a bike, parents can only move forward quickly with their hands spread out. The road of life is not like this. Parents give their children opportunities to exercise when they are young, and children will become independent, confident and responsible people.

Give children the right and opportunity to choose.

& gt& gt Let children practice making their own choices from an early age, so that they will not be so confused when choosing a career, lifestyle and life partner in the future, so as to make decisions rationally, actively and calmly.

Parent-child communication needs heart communication.

& gt& gt Good parent-child communication requires conscious communication between parents and children. First of all, we should have time to communicate with our children, then we should get to know them and find a parent-child communication method suitable for our family, and finally achieve the goal of educating them to grow up healthily and happily.

When a child is "in a bad mood"

& gt& gt Everyone is emotional sometimes, and children who don't learn to manage their emotions will show everything. At this time, parents should understand and accept, help their children to sort out their emotions and finally find a solution to the problem. In the long run, parents will become children's "spiritual nutritionists", and children's ability to adjust their emotions will gradually be exercised.

& gt& gt Everyone has emotions, both positive and negative. Positive emotions include happiness, excitement, tranquility, satisfaction and relaxation, while negative emotions include sadness, loss, confusion, depression and irritability. Positive emotions can give children positive strength and stretch their body and mind. Not only is learning efficiency high, but children will also look healthy, happy and full of sunshine. Children in negative emotions will feel depressed and their physical and mental growth will be affected.

Scientific guidance, healthy internet access

& gt& gt I feel that my daughter is not so obsessed with the Internet for the following reasons: First, my daughter spends a lot of her spare time reading extracurricular books. Because my daughter has developed the habit of reading since she was a child, books are everywhere at home, so it is convenient to contact books, so she will read books whenever she has time. After all, books can't compare with those games or information on the Internet. I once read a story that a mother's child was addicted to TV all day (there was no computer at that time), which made her very headache. Later, she thought of a way to take her children to the nearby library. After several visits, the children no longer stay at home and watch TV, but prefer to study in the library. Therefore, cultivating the habit of reading is a good way to prevent children from indulging in the internet. I believe that children who like reading will never be addicted even if they surf the Internet. At most, they will turn the Internet into a spice of life. Second, after studying, we arranged colorful entertainment activities for our daughter. For example, take her to an outing, go to a museum, take a long vacation to travel on weekends, and even at ordinary times, she finishes her homework at night and encourages her to invite her children to exercise. These healthy and happy activities take up so much of her time that she has no time to take care of the Internet. My daughter has many such friends. Because of their colorful extracurricular life, they are not obsessed with the internet. Third, satisfy the child's inner desires. Every child's heart longs for love, acceptance, affirmation, appreciation and respect. If these wishes can be met, their words and deeds will be normal, otherwise there will be deviations. In daily life and study, we will be very satisfied with every progress of our daughter, appreciate and praise her. Even if she has some unsatisfactory things, we will ignore or encourage her. Mom and dad have always accepted and affirmed, constantly satisfied her inner desire, and constantly praised and encouraged her to have a sense of accomplishment. Therefore, there is no need for her to seek comfort in the virtual online world. Fourth, neither my husband nor I play games. Although my husband and I were both working in Internet companies at that time, we both used the Internet to work and never played online games. I think this is the demonstration and example of parents. If my husband and I don't play games, my daughter won't have a chance to learn about games, so she won't play much.

& gt& gt Fifth, don't put the computer in the children's house.

Communicate and express love in another way.

& gt& gt In the parent-child relationship, no matter how parents communicate with their children, what matters is not the form, but the final effect. Children's progress seems to be a natural and unstoppable process. It is enough for parents to love company wholeheartedly and wait and appreciate quietly.

My "mailbox" and "forum"

& gt& gt I read an article about the writer Qin Wenjun, which mentioned that Qin Wenjun and her daughter also communicated by writing letters. The effect of this communication method is amazing. It was my daughter who wrote to us first, and we replied. In the future, we will also take the initiative to write to our daughter and tell her our views on certain things. Even we will edit the good articles or paragraphs we see and put them in our daughter's "mailbox". Especially when children are emotional, we put forward our own ideas in this way, which will generally not hurt children's self-esteem. We will be more rational and peaceful if we express our thoughts and emotions in words. Therefore, my daughter has always been reading and writing letters for several years and enjoys it.

Dad's unique way of expressing love.

& gt& gt As Mr. Wang said, parents are willing to spend time with their children, and the message to their children is: "In my eyes, you are the most important!" ""Dad loves you very much! "For children, only when they feel the attention and love of their parents can they learn to value and cherish themselves. Only by attaching importance to and cherishing your children can you have enough self-confidence. And self-confidence is a prerequisite for a person's success.

& gt& gt Mr. mcdowell, a famous American family education expert, said: "The castle of love is built by' time'." Fathers, please spend some time with the children. After all, the growth of children waits for no one, so don't wait for the children to grow up and regret it!

"Contract constraint" is necessary.

& gt& gt There are many ways to make rules. First of all, parents should set an example. Parents are well-behaved, and children will naturally become well-behaved. Secondly, parents' oral education is also indispensable. Parents should teach their children the rules of doing things anytime and anywhere. Above two points, we must set an example.

& gt& gt Since the purpose of making a contract at home is to let children form good habits, it needs to be adhered to for a period of time, because the formation of habits is not a day or two. Theoretically, it takes 2 1 day to form a habit initially and 3 months to form a habit basically. In other words, after the contract is executed for 3 months, the child's habits are basically formed.

Don't be a "helicopter parent" on the desk.

& gt& gt Accompanied by parents, it seems that children complete their tasks well every day, but it makes them dependent and unable to exercise their ability to explore and solve problems independently. From the perspective of children's long-term growth, being used to relying on parents' "crutches" will also cause children's psychological powerlessness, making them unable to face the more complicated social environment in the future.

& gt& gt "helicopter parents" is a new popular word in the world, which means that parents hover over their children like helicopters and always monitor their every move. The overall performance of "helicopter parents" is that they care too much about their children, which leads to their dependence on their parents. In China, it is very common for parents to accompany their children to do their homework while they are studying. Many parents of school-age children, no matter how busy and tired they are, no matter whether their children need it or not, are willing to accompany their children when they do their homework and provide help at any time, thinking that this is the best way to express their love. In fact, learning is a child's own business, and he should and must learn to do it independently. It is enough for parents to help their children solve problems when they need them.

Collect the footprints of children's growth

& gt& gt>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> & This is indeed a very remarkable thing. In the process of writing a parenting diary, the inner love for children emerges unconsciously. Even if you have small emotions, you will vent them when writing, which can adjust your mentality very well. What is important is that these recorded contents are the footprints of children's growth and the best gifts for children.

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Give gifts to teachers on Teachers' Day.

& gt& gt As students and parents, it is proper to respect teachers, and it is not too much to give gifts appropriately. However, parents should prepare gifts with the purpose of respecting teachers, being grateful and loving teachers, conveying the true feelings of parents and children, without any utilitarian purpose, and should not measure the value of gifts with dignity.

& gt& gt In fact, for a teacher, what he wants most is parents' cooperation in school teaching and respect for teachers, and he also hopes to be loved and respected by students. Even if he receives gifts, he likes to receive commemorative gifts from his children. The more expensive the better. The last thing a teacher wants is for parents and children to be respectful to their teachers at school, and children will become passers-by as soon as they graduate.

A small prize presented by teacher Zhang

& gt& gt For parents, doing this with their children will record what their children have done well every day, and they will appreciate their children from the heart. When they look at their children with appreciation, they will like them more and their love for them will be sublimated. Then, the parent-child relationship will become more and more harmonious, and harmonious parent-child relationship is the premise of educating children.