How to face the mother-in-law's blame for unmarried pregnancy

I am a girl after 80 years. I have known my boyfriend for three years. After graduating from college, we live together. But because I didn't pay attention, I suddenly got pregnant. Unfortunately, we are not married, and some of my boyfriend's parents are very conservative. For them, I really can't imagine what they would think of me if they knew I got pregnant before marriage.

I was scared because I had been to their house earlier. I was dressed fashionably then, but then . My boyfriend said I was too fashionable that time.

So after that I realized that my boyfriend's parents are very traditional.

But what I didn't expect was that somehow my boyfriend's parents knew I was pregnant. Then asked me and my boyfriend to get married as soon as possible. At first I was happy because they didn't say anything indiscreet about me, which made me very touched.

But just as we were getting ready to get married, my mother-in-law and I had an argument over the wedding arrangements, and then she called me a bitch in front of a lot of people, saying that I wasn't decent enough, and that I was unmarried and pregnant.

I really don't know what to say. I really feel a bit aggrieved by my mother-in-law's brutality. I'm not married yet. What if you're married? Isn't she looking for me every day? Hongyan, what do you think I should do?

My boyfriend and I have a good relationship. We hardly quarrel. I'm the only one who gets angry when we fight, and he just spoils me. I really love him. So I don't want to break up with my boyfriend for such a mother-in-law.

Reply:

In fact, Redface thinks you should have a serious discussion with your husband. After all, it was the two of you who caused the pregnancy. You are not the only one who should take the blame for this problem.

From what you mentioned, I can tell that your mother-in-law is a very conservative old man. They are a bit unacceptable or slow to accept the new things that come out of this social development. If they reject you, I suggest you adapt to them in terms of clothing. After all, old people are already old and can't enjoy the happiness for a few years. So you can match them a bit.

But as for your habits, Redrock felt it was their fault if they still interfered. At least you have to give the young people a living space that suits them, instead of telling them that you have to arrange everything for them. Unless you're rich and you can give them a stable and prosperous future. You intend to interfere in this way, and they may listen. But if that's the case, I find such old people downright annoying. Think about it, it's your son who wants a wife, not you.

As human beings, you were all young once, and the impulses of your youth may have seemed indiscreet to your seniors, but you've all come a long way, so I would suggest that the in-laws review themselves.

And I wouldn't want you to break up with your boyfriend for such an evil mother-in-law. After all, you are both in love. So I hope you can be firm.

If your mother-in-law did not apologize to you in public, I suggest you marry your boyfriend and live separately from your in-laws. This way each other can keep their own living space. There will be less conflicts.