How to learn independence?

Animal World: Independence can make you stronger.

CCTV's "Animal World" program: Both birds and animals, as parents, care for their children in every possible way and even risk their lives to protect their growth. However, once the child grows up, even the fox parents will expel the adult child from the house.

Look at this picture: a young fox is driven away by a mature fox. This is the father encouraging his children to go out and stand on their own feet. My son was reluctant to go back to the house, but the door was blocked by his mother and he couldn't get in. The father caught up with him again, and the fox's expression was incomprehensible, wronged, sad, painful, wailing and howling. I couldn't help it, and my tears suddenly fell down. However, the fox's parents were cruel, once, twice and three times, until the fox cried goodbye to his parents in despair and walked away with his head down. His parents just watched his son die slowly. I think that expression is more touching than that of the movie actor, because it is true.

After I finished reading it, I couldn't calm down for a long time. I can't figure out where the fox's parents accepted this survival culture and were so determined. I don't think it is enough to explain it simply by lack of food. Because it's not too late to catch up tomorrow, I don't care about letting the children stay at home for one more day. How did they decide? Take the children away today. They are not human beings. The children have been admitted to the university and have to leave today. Hi! Another picture, with a commentary: that's the African leopard father punishing his daughter. The rule of African leopard is that when children grow up, they must open up their own food territory and defend their territory. But this lovely little leopard may not be able to do this, or she may be really hungry, so she invaded her mother's territory. Papa Leopard's punishment was cruel, and the lesson was enough, but he was merciless until he bit his daughter to death. The bloody scene is unbearable. Even then, I was flustered and painful when I wrote it.

I can also show you countless documentaries about how parents of African leopards caress and take care of their children, and that kind of picture will also make you cry. However, why are children so cruel when they grow up? At this time, I really hate that I can't write prose, otherwise I must write a paragraph, and I will shock everyone and make them cry. I thought about it and came to a conclusion: maybe their parents treated it the same way when they first grew up. Faced with the brutal competition for survival, their ancestors had to use this tradition to force the next generation to exercise their independent survival ability. The poor inherit the wind, and the godson takes pains to be alone.

There are also three films starring people and real animals. One is called lion and me, the other is called leopard traveling around the world, and the third is called sea lion. A group of animal scientists adopted a little lion without parents, three white children and black children adopted a little leopard without parents, and a family adopted a little sea lion without parents. Don't mention that intimacy. But after spending a lot of time with people, I stopped hunting. Until people find out that if they just spoil their cubs blindly, it will harm their lives. So people assume the responsibility of animal parents and try their best to train lions and leopards to live independently. Finally, they will drive adult lions, leopards and sea lions back to the forest and the sea. Can't take it off! I drove it back. I'll catch up when I get back. After half a year, like a child dressed to go home, the lion gave birth to a son, and the sea lion came back to visit twice a year. Just as people sing: a chicken in the left hand, a duck in the right hand and a little doll on the back, this is the daughter's reward for her family. Listen to the explanation of the animal world again: what is this for? In order to make children independent and self-reliant. When any animal comes of age, it must enter the world independently, survive in independence, acquire skills and develop in independence. When did you contract the comedian Zhao Benshan to say in the play "Blind Date": "When you were young, you took care of your parents; when you grew up, you took care of your children. When can I contract myself and make my own decisions? " I also heard a friend say with emotion: I only know that I am someone else's son, someone else's subordinate and someone else's husband all my life, but I don't know what I am. 1992 In the spring, I happened to meet the late King Fazang at Lingyin Temple in Hangzhou and talked with him for two nights and one morning. I told him a lot of puzzles in life and asked if these puzzles could be solved in the teachings of Tibetan Buddhism. I said to him: There is a Nobel Prize in Literature winner named Singh in the United States. He wrote an autobiography, which is divided into three parts: first, the boy looking for God; Second, a young man looking for love; Third, a man who seeks himself. After pondering, the Tibetan king said sincerely, "I am looking for myself, too." Wow! I suddenly realized that a reincarnated living Buddha is still a person! He is also looking for himself. Haha, if I am confused again, I can solve it myself.

What do you mean by looking for God? When we were young, we believed that the world of myths and fairy tales was so real. American movies miracle on 34th street and Santa Claus all say that children will never believe that Santa Claus is not real. Since then, I have grown up and received education. At home, I have been a parent, a teacher at school, a judge at work, a believer in God and books, and I have lived my life. In short, we should find an external thought, an external force to dominate our choices. I think this may be the meaning of finding God. If a man is still looking for God when he is old, he is still a child. When will you sign the contract for yourself? This sentence seems like a joke, but what a profound meaning it has! Billionaire's Children: Independence is the charm. In the United States, both the president and the children of billionaires have long established a sense of independence. You have 100 million, I have 5 million, and we are not far apart in life. It is said that Rockefeller's grandson once fell in love with a beautiful woman. But the beauty asked him: You have a lot of money, but how much did you earn? Sun Tzu couldn't answer at the moment. The girl thinks that if a man has no working ability and working ability, he will not have the charm of a man in front of a woman. This grandson is deeply inspired. He didn't want Rockefeller Financial Group's money, but he got a job anonymously as an ordinary person and earned money by his own labor. It feels great. This self-awareness is the source of charm. Later, he finally practiced. His personal wisdom, ability, courage, frankness and enthusiasm, together with the wealth he earned, constitute the super charm of his man and win the love of that beautiful woman. In Hong Kong, Chow Yun Fat starred in the movie "The Lucky Star is High", and he played the son of the richest man in Hong Kong. But he was not willing to accept his father's money, but went to work in a food company that produced cakes anonymously. He was also scolded by the boss there. He worked hard and established friendship with his colleagues. But also impressed a smart, beautiful, hardworking and affectionate girl with her own personality and personality charm. This girl is the boss's sister. In order to help the young master fall in love successfully, the old housekeeper of the young master's family bought real gold jewelry for the girl, but the girl refused to accept it. But when the young master bought a fake jewelry for the girl with the salary of an ordinary worker, the girl accepted it gladly.

Monroe is a Hollywood superstar. She and two other stars starred in the movie "They are going to marry a millionaire", which translates as "willing to marry a rich husband". Three beauties longed for to marry a millionaire, but they never succeeded, and they couldn't find a satisfactory man. But in the process, I met an ordinary employee, who felt that this young man was very good-natured, hardworking, brave and persistent, but unfortunately he was not a millionaire. But after many twists and turns, beautiful women realize that it is better to have a loving and independent man than a millionaire. When a girl married a real millionaire, ordinary staff appeared. She finally realized that she couldn't force herself to marry the old millionaire. She immediately stopped the wedding and married the ordinary shop assistant because they really loved each other. When they got married happily, they found that the ordinary clerk was the real billionaire. He disguised himself in order to get true love by the charm of his independent work. American Declaration of Independence and Global Independence Movement1April, 775 18, the American people fired the first shot for independence. 1776 On July 4th, the Continental Congress adopted the Declaration of Independence drafted by Jefferson. Marx called the Declaration of Independence "the first declaration of human rights". The Declaration of Independence lists all kinds of tyranny of the British government, and finally solemnly declares to the world: "These United colonies have since become, and should become, free and independent United States; They broke off all contact with the king of England. " The Declaration of Independence became the flag of the American War of Independence, marking the birth of an independent America. After July 4, it will be designated as the National Day of the United States.

If the thirteen States, the predecessor of the United States, had been attached to the British dynasty, then the United States could not be as powerful as it is now. American independence inspired and promoted the independence movement of colonial countries all over the world. Once these independent countries got rid of the status of dependent countries, they immediately developed greatly and became stronger and stronger.

The civil war led by President Lincoln of the United States is a war to liberate black slaves, liberate blacks from slavery and gain independent citizenship. Only when African-Americans become independent people with equal political status with whites in China will there be so many black politicians, entrepreneurs, lawyers, sports stars and so on. China used to be a semi-colonial and semi-feudal country. After 100 years of opium war, revolution of 1911 and civil revolutionary war, it embarked on the road of independence and became strong. Mrs Gandhi: Non-alignment means national independence and freedom. Gandhi also won the Best Film Award, which describes the biography of a great man who led India's struggle for independence.

1983 March 7 to 12 March 7, the seventh summit of the Non-Aligned Movement was held in New Delhi, and Mrs. Gandhi, Ying Gandhi, succeeded the Indian Prime Minister and was elected as the chairman of the meeting. In her opening speech, she comprehensively expounded India's foreign policy and the guidelines of the Non-Aligned Movement. She said: "Some of us come from countries with a very long civilization and culture, while others come from young and dynamic countries. India has experienced many ups and downs. On this tortuous road, the Polaris guiding us forward is the philosophy of' forbearance'. It is this philosophy that unites our vast and diverse country and makes it last for thousands of years. An old proverb says:' There is only one truth, but sages reach the truth through different channels, and the essence put forward by the Buddha is compassion. King Ashoka's teaching in the 3rd century AD,' If we don't respect other people's religions equally, we can't really believe in our own religion', has been engraved on cliffs and stone pillars, and it is still our principle today. This was also the policy of Akbar, King of Mughal Empire in the 6th century. In our time, our great leader Mahatma Gandhi gave a new life to tolerance and fraternity. He successfully used non-violence as a weapon against powerful foreign empires ... When my father Jawaharlal Nehru took charge of the Indian government in 1946, he declared India's determination to "stay away from groups that are opposed to each other and form alliances". This kind of group has led to two world wars in the past, and may lead to a war that will cause even greater disasters in the future. Later, he further clarified: "Once the control of foreign relations is dominated by others, the independence of the country will be lost in a corresponding degree and scope ... Therefore, our policy should not only continue to stay away from the alliance group, but also strive to open the way for friendly cooperation. We communicate with the world on the basis of friendship. " "

As more and more countries gain freedom, more and more countries believe in peace and hope to get rid of military alliances. Naturally, these non-aligned countries will gather together, not to form another group, but to speak for millions of exploited people through a moral and political movement. The number of countries participating in the Non-Aligned Movement has increased from 25 countries in Belgrade to more than 65,438,000 countries at present, which proves that the Non-Aligned Movement has met the deeply felt needs of people on all continents. Its far-reaching significance is not measured by the number of divisions we have or the trillions of destructive power, but by our strong desire for peace and freedom, development and international justice. Non-alignment means national independence and freedom. Latin America's independent revolution Latin America covers an area of about 265,438+000 square kilometers and was previously ruled by Spanish and Portuguese colonists. Nobles born in the suzerain country went to the colonies to serve as senior officials, embezzled and accepted bribes, extorted money, monopolized trade, and even committed heinous crimes. The people are destitute. If Latin American people want to be happy, they must first gain national independence and get rid of colonial rule. /kloc-In the late 8th century, the Haitian revolution started the Latin American War of Independence, which was inspired by the victory of the American War of Independence and the French bourgeois revolution. 179 1 One night in August, the slaves in Haiti sounded the drums and launched an armed uprising. Toussaint L'Ouverture, the black leader, led everyone to build an independent revolutionary army and defeated the colonial army in panic. 1802, Napoleon sent nearly 30,000 soldiers and 54 warships to Haiti, but he still failed to put out Haiti's war of independence. So, the colonists pretended to hold peace talks, used the bait hides the hook, hosted a banquet at Hongmen, invited Lu to negotiate, arrested Lu at the negotiating table, and finally died in a French prison. But his comrades continued to fight, forcing the French to surrender in June 1803. 18 1 1 year, most parts of Latin America have established independent regimes. 18 15 years, the Spanish army counterattacked and the independence movement suffered serious setbacks. However, in 18 16, the war of independence resumed, and the Latin American people established an army under the leadership of Bolí var and San Martin. Fighting in the south and fighting in the north, cross-border independent armed forces cooperate. 1826 65438+ 10, the Spanish colonial army in South America finally surrendered to Bolí var. As a result, some newly independent countries have been established: Haiti, Mexico, Colombia, Chile, Peru, Argentina, Brazil, Bolivia, Uruguay, Paraguay, the United Province of China and the United States.

Without the independence of these countries, there would be no great economic development, great football glory and happy life in these countries in the 20th century. Military independence: If you are going to leave, your life will be somewhat unaffected by Sun Tzu's art of war: "You will be able, but those who do not guard against it will win." Sun Bin's Art of War: "The winner is five, and the winner wins arbitrarily."

The so-called winner is to gain independent command, while autocracy means that a person makes a special decision without the remote control and intervention of the monarch. "The Art of War Nine Changes" also said: "Where the law is used, there must be a monarch's life and a military gathering ... your life will not be affected." If the generals are interfered by the monarch, there is no way out.

Kutuzov, a famous Russian, had a brilliant plan to defeat Napoleon, but the czar refused to listen to Kutuzov with his personal expedition. As a result, the Russian army was defeated in the battle of Austerlitz. Later, Kutuzov was appointed commander-in-chief of the Russian army. He gained independence in military tactics and finally defeated Napoleon.

In 234 BC, the king of Qin sent troops to attack Zhao. Zhao moved Li Mu to be the general. Li Mu said, "Please allow me to act according to my own wisdom, and then I dare to be ordered." Zhao agreed to his request. This time, Li Mu won. Du was a shrewd commander in the Huaihai Campaign. He thinks Xuzhou has risks to defend. Chiang Kai-shek insisted on his withdrawal. He obeyed the order and stated his opinion: "If you want to withdraw from Xuzhou, don't continue to fight; If you want to fight, don't leave Xuzhou. " Chiang Kai-shek was noncommittal. Du went west according to his own plan. At that time, the Su Yu Corps of the People's Liberation Army couldn't catch up, and seven columns were not enough to annihilate Du's hundreds of thousands of troops. However, Chiang Kai-shek suddenly dropped a personal letter, which interfered with Du's plan and asked him to stop going west. Tu Mingyu said worriedly: "At every critical moment, he will come out to interfere, and hundreds of thousands of officers and men will be finished!" As expected, Chiang Kai-shek's interference in Du's independence strategy provided the PLA with time and the opportunity to be surrounded by soldiers. In the end, Du was wiped out and captured. American military experts later came to the battlefield of Huaihai Campaign and solved the mystery of this war miracle.

During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Bei was defeated by Cao Cao in Maoshan, leaving less than 1,000 soldiers. After Liu Bei's subordinate Sun Gan pleaded with Liu Biao in Jingzhou, Liu Bei took refuge in Liu Biao. Cai Mao, a general under Liu Biao, objected to Liu Biao's taking Liu Bei in, saying, "Liu Bei took Lu Bu first, then Cao Cao, and then went to Yuan Shao." Explain that Liu Bei has always been in a position of attachment to others. Although Liu Biao is very kind to him, Liu Bei still depends on others after all. On one occasion, Cao Cao led an army north, and Xuchang was empty. Liu Bei gave Liu Biao a plan to persuade him to take the opportunity to attack Xuchang, but Liu Biao didn't listen and missed the opportunity. Later, when Cao Cao's Northern Expedition ended and threatened Liu Biao, Liu Biao regretted not listening to Liu Bei's plan. Liu Bei is jealous of Mrs Cai, the concubine of Liu Biao. Mrs Cai and Cai Mao conspired to kill Liu Bei twice, and Liu Bei survived, especially in Tanxi, Ma Yue. This is a legendary story. When Liu Bei arrived in Xinye County, he invited Xu Shu first, then Zhuge Liang, and became an independent force. He could skillfully exert his strategy and achieve a three-point world situation. The history of natural science and technology in the world also proves that independence is the first scheme of all schemes.

The most famous Cavendish laboratory in the history of science is the cradle for a series of teachers and students to win the Nobel Prize. Their basic conditions are independence, independent topic selection and independent enrollment, not researchers assigned by the national personnel department. In art, Chaplin's film company and Mei Lanfang's Peking Opera Troupe are also independent. Their staffing, performance evaluation, income and expenditure, and tax payment are all decided by themselves.

On August 5th, 1987, China Youth Daily reported a long introduction: "The success of four intelligence-intensive enterprise groups, Stone, Jinghai, Kehai and ICT, all have the same motivation-independent project selection, independent planning, independent management, independent distribution, independent adjustment, independent education, independent recruitment and independent promotion." The main managers of these enterprises used to be researchers of the Chinese Academy of Sciences. Because they can't make their own decisions on scientific research and development, there is nothing they can do. Later, it became independent, with an output value of several hundred million and annual profits and taxes of tens of millions. Modern Think Tank: A Think Tank Independent of the Government In the past, the fate of China's counselors, strategists, think tanks and military advisers, whether Zhuge Liang, Fan Zeng or Chen Bulei, was determined by their masters' emotions because they could not be independent. In order to save Wusha's life, more counselors can only look at the master's face and say nothing about it. In the end, they couldn't even think of it.

However, the emergence of think tanks in modern society has played a great role in the decision-making of government heads. The research of think tanks mainly focuses on "seeking" (that is, seeking clever strategies). It is only said here that think tanks are independent of the government, which is the basic guarantee for their ingenious ideas. Some of these think tanks are scholars' groups and some are independent researchers. They sign contracts with official and non-governmental organizations and individuals to raise funds and provide advice to customers. For example, the famous International Institute for Strategic Studies is a private association, which claims to be "independent of any government and does not follow any special interest groups". Han Feizi, the thought of autonomy more than 2,000 years ago, was the first person in China who clearly expounded the thought of autonomy in government, military and production management. He said in the article "Yang Quan": "Use one way and take the name as the head. The name is right. The name depends on things. Therefore, the sage is quiet, pretends to be famous, and makes things self-determined. It's right not to see it. So let it be, let it be; So, if you give it, he will bootstrap; Let everything be decided by yourself in the right place. Take it by name. "

Han Feizi used four concepts of autonomy: self-assertion, self-determination, self-management and self-guidance. That is to say, the first step for a country or a superior to manage the heads of subordinate departments, localities and the army is to "make a name for itself", and the following responsible persons put forward their own indicators and the nature of their work. In modern terms, it means "bidding" and "written commitment". Or "contract". The second step is to approve this "contract" and issue a letter of appointment for the contractor to decide what to do. Let the contractor do it. This includes the autonomy of the signing strategy. The third step is to give the conditions according to the contract. This is "giving in this way". The necessary inputs, grain and equipment are given to the soldiers, and the contractor himself is promoted and assigned to the post. This is "bootstrapping". The fourth step, the boss according to the indicators of the contract, check the results of the contractor presided over the work.

The thought of autonomy in the pre-Qin era, in the 1980s, when the China government carried out the reform, put forward the policy of "expanding autonomy". In this way, the vitality of enterprises has greatly increased, and a number of smart entrepreneurs have emerged. These entrepreneurs can make their enterprises flourish through strategy, first of all, thanks to their considerable autonomy. Once their business autonomy is interfered and tightened, their enterprises will immediately turn from prosperity to depression.

To sum up, independence is the first of a hundred miles. Whether it is a country, a group or an individual, if it is not independent and self-sufficient, there is nothing to do.