Many parents in China like to give their children a hard-hitting education. What is the reason?

The reason why many parents in China like to give their children a hard-hitting education is because they have high demands on their children. If the child can't meet the parents' norms, parents will have a lost psychological state, which will be vented to the child according to the blow of culture and education. I have been expecting my son to succeed. I didn't expect how hard this process was. Strong expectations did not give me a relatively high degree of attention and help. This kind of education is deeply rooted in the hearts of many parents. Some parents use repressive education to show their children the cruelty of reality.

At the same time, I worry that praise will make children more proud, but I forget to stand in the child's psychological state and consider for the child. In the absolute traditional educational thought, don't praise children easily, and children will beat and scold if they make mistakes. Believers believe that filial sons and grandchildren are born under sticks, and children should not be rewarded for such achievements, but should be criticized to make him think about why they can't be stronger. This traditional educational thought actually puts children in an extremely depressed natural environment, and their self-confidence is denied and they are in the shadow of inferiority for a long time.

Most of the children educated by traditional repression feel inferior, or they are constantly looking for higher education in order to prove that they can get affirmation and praise from their parents, but they have been in a process of self-affirmation because they can't get it. Such children are psychologically imperfect and it is difficult to live happily. Although their children are likely to be excellent in the eyes of parents, they are not happy. Some parents are particularly addicted to criticizing and attacking their children, because we have long formed the habit of not praising their children and ignoring their own experiences. Once addicted, this habit is hard to change.

Under such circumstances, mom and dad are completely seeking self-realization, just like writing a graduation thesis. If you have to write an inappropriate article about children, it can be regarded as realizing your own cultural education. This smug parent will never feel that there is anything wrong with him in the future, nor will he reflect on what is wrong with his education process, because she has always put her thoughts above the children's feelings. Such parents are also a disaster to some extent.