The mother of Mencius is a good example for mothers in home education.

As we all know, parents are the first teacher of the child, among the parents, the mother's role in home education can not be underestimated. The influence and education of the mother on the child plays a vital role in the child's life.

This is a passage written by Liang Qichao at the beginning of "Advocating the Establishment of Girls' Schools", which shows that Liang Qichao also knew that the role of mothers in a family is very important.

For the vast majority of people, they have to go through three stages of education: family, school, and society. In these three stages, family education is throughout, as the first stage of life education, parents as the child's first teacher, how to let the child have a good start in life? This question is a must-answer question in front of parents, and of course, this question is also confusing to many parents.

According to big data from scholars, the role of mothers in family education is very important to a family, and before the secondary school stage, the role of mothers is much more than fathers. This is the key period for children to form the "three views" and to develop good learning and behavioral habits. Therefore, as a mother, do not be immersed in the phone all day, the energy spent on jitterbugs, fast hands, only care about their own play happy, and on the education of children above the energy and time is really very little.

Yesterday, I went to Zoucheng, a city of a thousand years, but also the hometown of Mencius. After finishing his business, he went to the Temple of Mencius, and y felt the profound Confucianism, in which the story of Mencius' mother's child-rearing is even more thought-provoking.......

On the trip to Zoucheng, the Temple of Mencius is a must-visit place.

Inside the Temple of Meng there is a landscape, that is, the stone monument of the three moves of the mother of Meng, the mother of Meng to break the machine at the monument, the stone monument has five, triggered me to think about it or these two pieces.

Behind these two steles are the high hopes of a mother for her son's growth and success. The story of parenting more than two thousand years ago is still very relevant today.

The Three Moves of Mencius

Mencius was born in the state of Zou, after the nobleman Meng Sun of the state of Lu. However, Mencius had an ill-fated life, losing his father at the age of three, and was raised by his mother.

According to historical records, Mencius did not start studying until he was about 15 years old, which would be the second year of junior high school according to the current age standard for children to study.

Mengzi's mother attached great importance to the environment in which her child grew up, and knew the truth of the saying that "the nearer one is the red, the nearer one is the black", and she moved three times in order to provide a good environment for Mengzi to study and grow up.

Mengzi's earliest home was very close to the village cemetery. The cemetery is the place where the dead are buried. Whether it is a dead person or a grave, the bereaved family, according to custom and etiquette, should kneel down and burn incense and paper, and most of them are crying because the loss of a loved one is heart-broken and very mournful.

The young Mencius was at the age of knowledge, curious about everything in the world, and when he saw the scene of the sacrifice, he imitated it with the children in the neighborhood, with a look of deep concern and a perfect resemblance.

Mengzi's acting talent did not make his mother happy, but rather worried her, she thought the environment was not conducive to Mengzi's healthy growth, so she made up her mind and moved her family to Miaotouying village, a western suburb of the capital city of Zou.

She thought that the move would provide a good environment for Mengzi to grow up, but what she didn't realize was that her new home was in the middle of a bustling city, with people coming and going. Once, the young Mencius even imitated the butcher's call of those selling pork at home. Meng's mother heard this and was anxious, she began to worry that some of the bad habits in the streets of the city would be detrimental to the growth of Meng Zi, and decided to move again!

This time, Meng's mother summarized the lessons learned, and after some field research, she decided to move her home near the school, because the school is a place to learn knowledge and etiquette, and the people around it are all cultured and polite, and in such an environment, Meng Zi can be nurtured by the good cultivation from it. Thus, Mencius decided to settle down here.

Breaking the machine of metaphorical learning

After moving to the new home, in his teenage years, Mengzi's ability to familiarize himself with the new environment was still quite high, and soon he mingled with his peers, reading, studying, and playing together. This is how the days went by, day by day.

One day, Mencius even skipped school. When Meng's mother found out about it, she was very angry, but she did not take a simple and rough way to educate Meng Zi, and neither physically punished him nor disguised corporal punishment.

What measures were taken?

Mencius' mother called Mencius to the loom, took a knife, and cut the cloth on the loom. When Mencius looked at it, he asked in astonishment, Why is this so?

Meng's mother replied: By skipping school, you are terminating your studies, just as I cut off the cloth I was weaving. When Mencius heard this, he was y touched, and from then on he never skipped school again.

Killing a dolphin does not deceive a son

The allusion to Zeng Zi's killing of a pig is familiar to all.

The story is summarized as follows:

One day, Zeng Zi's (Zeng Sen, one of Confucius' disciples) wife was going to a market. As a child, Zengzi's son saw his mother going to the market and wanted to follow her. Zengzi's wife didn't want her son to follow her, so her son started to cry. Zeng Zi's wife in order to coax the child to obey, casually said to the son: you first home, when I come back from the market, I will give you to kill pigs, stewed pork to eat.

When Zeng Zi's wife came home, Zeng Zi was ready to kill a pig he had raised. Zeng Zi's wife rushed to stop: this is a joke with the child, do not take it seriously! Zeng Zi said: children are ignorant and should follow the example of their parents. If a mother deceives her son, the son will not trust his own mother, and this is not the way to educate a child.

After saying this, Zeng Zi killed the pig in his house and cooked the meat for Zeng Zi's son to eat.

In fact, in the story of Meng's mother's parenting, there is also a legend about killing a pig and eating the meat.

One day, Meng Zi's neighbor's family killed a pig, and listening to the sound of the pig's squealing, Meng Zi asked his mother: why did the neighbor's family kill the pig? Meng's mother did not care about Meng Zi's question, so she casually said: the neighbor kills the pig, it is to invite you to eat pork!

As soon as the words came out of her mouth, Meng's mother was y regretful, thinking how could she lie to a child? In order to make up for her mistake, she had to take out money from her house, buy some pork from her neighbor's house, and give it to Meng Zi when it was ready.

Homeschooling is important, but not mysterious. Family education is not a matter of whim, but a matter of influence and spring.

In family education, parents must be a good example for their children. A parent who does not know manners and is not civilized should not expect to raise a civilized child; a parent who does not seek advancement and only knows how to eat, drink and play should not expect to raise a well-educated child.......

Through the story of Meng's mother's child-rearing, we can get some inspiration:

Firstly, we should recognize the importance of the child-rearing environment, and we must be aware of the importance of the child-rearing environment, and we must be aware of the importance of the child-rearing environment.

First, we must recognize the importance of the parenting environment, in order for children to grow up healthily, it is necessary to create a harmonious, healthy and upward atmosphere for them;

Secondly, when the parents, we must keep our promises;

Thirdly, when the child makes a mistake, we must take an effective education method, rather than simple violence, not to mention the stick, the pain in the heart is far more important than the pain in the body.

There is a way to do this, but there is no fixed way, and home education should be based on the principle of seeking truth from facts and making the best use of the situation.