Why do sons and fathers generally have a bad relationship?

It is difficult to handle the relationship between father and son at home and abroad, which is caused by several factors. One is because of the hormone secretion system of male animals in animal nature, while men don't have the flexible chemical part of female estrogen, no matter from other aspects such as voice, appearance, momentum, behavior and expression, including action. In the traditional culture of farming history, father is the absolute main figure in family status, so father has a great influence on children when they grow up. China's traditional history and culture value boys over girls, so the father (male) is the absolute mainstay of the family, and the main economic responsibility for raising children is borne by the father alone. Therefore, the father is always condescending in the family, and the children are also cautious or shy away from the father. With the growth of children's age, their feelings with their father are becoming more and more alienated, and even there is nothing to say between father and son. Today's society is completely different from the old one. Today's children are more enlightened and independent, while the old father's way of thinking is often solidified. The so-called generation gap and indifference are quietly produced in the family.

How to avoid such cold violence in the family? It's really hard to say It is better to have more dialogue and communication between parents and children. Although the topic is about father-son relationship, in fact, in real society and life, kinship and consanguinity will change: the relationship between mother and child, mother and daughter, father and daughter will split or even deteriorate anytime and anywhere because of some problems in reality. There are more and more single-parent children in divorced families now. How to deal with the relationship between divorced parents and children is a new social science. Personally, the first choice is to communicate with children actively and often. There is no better way to have a heart-to-heart conversation and exchange ideas between people.

Many people think that father and son seem to be natural "enemies", that is, all fathers should play the role of strict father. So most fathers do it for this purpose. Coupled with the anxiety of hating iron not to produce, children are often extremely harsh, always deliberately playing the bad COP, keeping a straight face, and even hitting children.

After a long time, the child is really afraid of his father and dares not tell him anything! I'm always afraid of my father's harsh criticism.

Finally, the child gradually habitually stopped looking for his father. That is, I accidentally closed my heart completely to my father.

In this way, the gap between father and son was established.

It can be seen that this gap is generally formed because of children's fear. The "root" of this gap is the lack of tolerance in the role of father.

Finally, I hope all fathers can be kind, flexible, principled but tolerant, dignified but kind, let go of their lofty father role and actively communicate with their children.