How to deal with family problems

The position of the duty, so do not know how to deal with problems in the family, and even always go to find the shortcomings of others, always think that they are right, which leads to difficulties in communication, and thus the formation of grudges, a long time on the eruption of a great contradiction.

In fact, it is not difficult to solve family problems, everyone from their own body to find the problem, the problem is very easy to solve, and then on each side of the road. Here is how to build a harmonious family and cultivate a good next generation.

The old man has no virtue, a family disaster, children are unfilial, there is no blessing, the man has no will, the family is not prosperous, the woman is not soft, drive away the wealth.

The old man should preach the family style, the parents should demonstrate the family style, the husband and wife should helm the family style, the children should inherit the family style, the grandchildren should be obedient to the family style, and the siblings should compete with the family style.

Morality is the law of heaven and earth, and propriety is the law of the individual; when we violate the law, there is disaster for man.

Preface

As the saying goes, all things prosper in the family. As small as the strength of the country, the peace of society, as small as the happiness of personal life, career prosperity, physical health, are dependent on a harmonious family as the basis.

This book is based on the quotes, writings, and lectures of Mr. Wang Fengyi and Mr. Shi Renhuan, the famous modern farmer thinker and educator in China. The text uses simple language, from the ethical and moral, traditional etiquette, etc., to talk about each person in the family should do their part; call on everyone to do their own way, each is the right place, and the basic reason to live in harmony with their families. What is harmony? Harmony is mutual respect and harmony is mutual courtesy. In this family ethics, we can only compare ourselves and reflect on ourselves; if we take this ethical way to compare and accuse those around us, it will definitely be counterproductive. In the family, we should know how to know, be grateful and repay kindness, "not to see if others are good or bad, but only to care about their own right or wrong"; for parents, "no matter whether their children are filial or not, but look at their own mercy or not"; for children, "no matter whether their parents are merciful or not, but look at their own mercy or not"; for children, "no matter whether their parents are merciful or not, but look at their own mercy or not. In the country's concerted efforts to establish a harmonious family, harmonious society today. This book may be of some help and benefit to you and your family.

There is virtue only when there is virtue, and there is no virtue when there is no virtue, and there is blessing only when there is virtue, and there is no blessing when there is no virtue.

The Way of the Elderly

1. The elder is the star of heavenly virtue in a family, with virtue as its root. "Virtue" is to bear the family's faults, and to make peace with the family's faults.

2, the old man's nature is like ash, gentle, no fire, less talk, no nagging, do not talk about the length of the family, the leading edge must look at each other's benefits, but also to be full of the family pocket.

3, the blessings of the full, gentle and heavy is called sex like gray.

4, contentment, at home to take care of life. They will preach family customs, praise the virtues of their ancestors, and educate their children and grandchildren to know, be thankful for, and repay their kindnesses.

5. Don't mind your own business and don't worry too much about your children and grandchildren.

6, the children's affairs do not interfere, let go of the position to the younger generation to take charge, do not set the old qualifications.

7, there is a problem at home, first of all, the old man behavior has a loophole. First, they do not abide by their duties, and second, they are excessive.

8, there are problems at home, the old man should be ashamed: I'm not a good old man, there is a lack of virtue, did not educate the family well.

9. No matter who is at fault in the family, and no matter what disasters and rights and wrongs occur, they should not publicize the family's shame.

10, do not make right and wrong, do not say right and wrong, do not pass on right and wrong, do not listen to right and wrong, to take on right and wrong, not afraid of right and wrong. Reconciliation of a family does not create right and wrong, or the old man is a lack of virtue.

11, whether a family is developed, whether the children and grandchildren are prosperous, and the old man in the hall with or without good fortune directly related. The old man has virtue, the children and grandchildren prosper; the old man lacks virtue, a family disaster, the family way is not prosperous, the decline of incense.

12, the old man how to make a family prosperous? It is to do more good deeds, widely accumulated virtues. On the one hand, you can repair the virtue of sin, on the one hand, for the children and grandchildren to cultivate the virtue of the roots, sheltering the children and grandchildren.

13, the old man lifted up a family's blessings, create a family's blessings. Blessing is stronger than one generation, blessing is more prosperous than one generation; children and grandchildren are stronger than you, it means you have virtue, otherwise it is no virtue.

14, the old man, such as the earth, silently carrying everything, tolerate everything, nurture everything. The old man's heart is broad, the family's blessing is big.

15, the old man loves people and things, family children and grandchildren will prosper. If the old man is greedy, he eats up all the blessings of the family.

16. It is the best feng shui, the highest feng shui, for an old man to be virtuous.

The Parents' Way (Middle-Aged Way)

1. A family's heavenly blessing is rooted in Zhi. That is to say, to benefit the whole family with the comfort and happiness of the whole family.

2. Honor the old at the top and love the young at the bottom. Perfect everything with gratitude, so that the family will be in harmony up and down.

3, to the children to preach the merits of the elderly, the old ancestors, to do respect for the elderly filial piety example to show their children, with gratitude to the forefathers of the grace, to enlighten the future generation.

4, do not arrange for the elderly to do things, what they like to do something, but to be more concerned about the elderly, often advise them to rest.

5, parents are the beginning of human relationships, the way of yin and yang, yin is the mother, yang is the father. Yin and yang and, in order for everything to grow, yin and yang, mental anguish, love is not in agreement, that is, the birth of children, the nature of the children must be bad, or lack of children.

6, parents are the child's first teacher, the family is the child's first school.

7. Whether a child is healthy has a lot to do with his mother, whether he has wisdom has a lot to do with his father, and whether he is blessed and dignified depends on whether his parents always do things and behave with happy love.

8, the children do not listen, not filial piety, first of all to ask themselves whether they are also not filial piety to the old man, whether there is not doing the right thing. To the upper does not recognize the merits of parents (elderly), to the lower (children) how to educate are not in place.

9, the child does not understand reason is tantamount to the fruit is sour. The fruit is sour to work on the roots of the tree.

10, do not resent the children, not to mention scolding the children, because the success or failure of the children is also related to the parents' own heart and virtue, and secondly, we should consider whether the method of their own education is inappropriate.

11, education of children in five steps: raising, educating, teaching, leading, guiding, but not allowed to control. The focus should be on cultivating morality and educating morality well.

12, "control" is parents let their own temperament, find fault with their children, against his nature, so often the more control the more control is not good. For if you use your temper to control your children, not only will you not be able to control them well, but you will also provoke their temper, and they will become angry with you, and even turn father and son into enemies, because the parents don't understand the way of the Lord.

13, the child does not need to control, all depends on the virtue of probation. Understand his personality, help him cut down the small branches and keep the big branches. Do not spoil, do not spoil, do not hit, do not scold. More encouragement, often affirmation, less criticism, without material temptation.

14, positive people first positive self, parents should first remove for endowment, nourishing nature. Knowing how to first self-restraint, can teach children. Regardless of whether the children filial piety, but ask yourself whether the mercy.

15, the child is their own, but also the community, is the world. If the children are not taught well, it will affect their families in a small way, and society in a big way, and it will be a negative for the grace of heaven and earth. It is a great responsibility to educate your children well.

The Way of Husband and Wife

1. Husband and wife are the heavenly auspicious stars of a family, rooted in love.

2. The whole family is established with love as the root, and without love the family that cannot be established, love is the first condition to become a family.

3, have the destiny to love a person, first of all, to understand each other's original point. To fulfill each other, perfect the original. Enlighten each other to play their own. Do not control each other's right to freedom, should give each other happy, should not give each other trouble. Mutual fulfillment and mutual understanding of each other's physiology and psychology.

4, the standard of love: true love is selfless, conscious love without frame (price), fraternal love unconditional, real love without prejudice.

True love is selfless: respect each other, do not give each other trouble.

Awareness of love without frame (price): not to elevate the status, not to treat love as a sale. Understand each other's benefits, praise each other's benefits; understand each other's difficulties, forgive each other's faults. If the other party has had, can enlighten and guide the other party to change.

Brotherhood is unconditional: no matter what people, do not bind each other. Give each other the right to freedom.

True love without prejudice: true faith, do not doubt, do not suspect each other.

If you can do these things, you will have peace in your home.

5. Love is the origin of harmony and the general outline of harmony, without love it is impossible to build a harmonious family.

6, husband and wife are united by three karmic causes: first, to take care of each other in life, and to care for each other; second, to have children, to pass on the family name, and to leave a good human root for the world; and third, to better care for and take care of the parents on both sides, so that the old man can rest assured and rejoice.

7, husband and wife to do to make up for each other, rather than complaining about each other.

8, was the husband's thing, but the husband forgot to do, the wife should not complain, to seriously put things have to do well; in turn, the husband should also do so. The other side can not do their own make up. This is to make up for each other's shortcomings.

9, after the family, if the man can not lead the woman to the road, can not be filial piety in-laws, in the brothers and sisters of brotherhood and sisterhood, under the mercy of the children, is their own very filial piety, the elderly also do not rest assured. If a woman can't help her husband to become a virtuous man after marriage, she is filial to her in-laws, and the old man is not at ease.

10, husbands take care of more in-laws, wives more filial piety in-laws; for example, to buy things for the elderly, should be son-in-law personally to the in-laws, daughter-in-law personally to the family in-laws.

11. Equality between men and women means equality in power and equality in enjoyment. They should never be equal in terms of propriety and etiquette.

12. Men have men's duties, women have women's duties, and yin and yang have their own positions. The man is the most upright; the woman is the most gentle. "Just" is the immobility (no temper), "just" is in line with the right reason. "Soft" is to be like water, and "harmony" is to be in line with reason. Therefore, to be upright is to be soft, and to be soft is to be upright. Although the terms are different, the spirit is the same.

13, husband and wife are in conflict, one is against the grace given by heaven and earth; the second is against the love given by parents; the third is against their own destiny of many lifetimes and many robberies of their own karma. Against the karma of the original life, life will lose the positive reward of dependence. The division of husband and wife is the division of life.

14, husband and wife, that is, the yin and yang road, husband and wife righteousness, yin and yang qi smooth, each other, not only do not get sick, do not die young. It is also possible to have a family, children and grandchildren. Therefore, the man should understand the woman's way, and the woman should understand the man's way, so that the family can be happy.

15, sex (nature) together, heart together, body together. Only then is there true harmony between husband and wife.

16. A couple in the realm of will is grateful to each other and never complains. Couples in the realm of the will are happy; the husband leads his wife into the Way, and the wife helps her husband into virtue, and is never angry. The couple in the heart realm is a couple of ceremonial couples, and they will have jurisdiction over each other! Couples in the body realm are couples who fight and scold, and are disturbed throughout their lives.

The Way of the Husband

1. A man is a man of his word, one is one, two is two, and he does what he says he will do.

2. If you can't do it, don't say it. If you don't count on your words, you have no dignity.

3, the man is Yang, Yang is selfless. Selflessness is the expression of love for a family.

4, there is selfishness will secretly do things against conscience, so that the whole family troubles, this is not a good man.

5, men should be "just". Just not to beat and curse, beating and cursing the man is incompetent man.

6, "just" is not only do not hit people scolding, and was scolded also do not answer, do not refute, do not worry, such as immovable, was scolded also immovable sex (not temper) is just. If you are not in a state of tranquility, you are a great man.

7. There are three kinds of men: the weak, the violent, and the husband.

8, the weak man is also called a coward, can not support the family. Only promise, say but do not do, do not dare to take charge of things, push the woman to the front, listen to the woman command.

9, the violent husband is not hit that is scolded, not reasonable. Do not understand their own responsibility, so they dare to act recklessly.

10, the husband is brave enough to take responsibility for a family, to convince people, the family has a fault in turn, they are ashamed.

11, as a husband, from the "three outlines" on the fixed position, three outlines refers to the nature of the outline, the outline of the heart, the outline of the body; do not move the endowment (do not lose their temper) for the nature of the outline; do not want to be selfish for the outline of the heart; no bad habits for the outline of the body. To be angry is to have a bad sex program; to curse is to have a bad heart program; to hit is to have a bad body program. "Program" is the meaning of the lead, must lead the woman on the road, filial piety in-laws, in-laws and sisters-in-law, under the mercy of the children.

12, the man is the backbone of the family, to be able to understand, have the will to lead the wife regardless of wife.

13, if the man to do a good job, the family less disaster; if the man does not do a good job, the family more disasters and difficulties.

Wife Road

1, the woman is the mother of the country, the wife of the family, the wife of man.

2. A woman should be soft, peaceful and smiling, and a family's people.

3, such as water in general, with the round square, with the five tones and five flavors, the original quality is always the same. With the peace of mind, with the poor with the rich, can be high or low, such as water can nourish all things, and not compete with all things, in the lowest place, low on the next, often recognize that is not, is the woman's duty.

4, the woman is a lot of things, the man is silent; women are not soft, the family wealth is not prosperous.

5, don't be violent, don't be impatient, don't nag and talk too much, and don't bother with men's business. Should help husband not tired husband.

6, for the wife, since the first from the "three from" on the fixed position, in order to help the husband into virtue. The "three from" refers to the nature from the heavenly reason, the heart from the reason, the body from the emotional reason. What does it mean to be "obedient to reason"? Doing what should be done personally. Being filial to one's parents, reconciling with one's sisters-in-law, and teaching one's children are all one's own duties. I am not afraid of suffering or difficulty. After doing so, you will not be angry, complain or regret. "Mind from reason": refers to removing the selfishness of greed and disturbance. All I think about is how to repay the old man's kindness. How to harmonize with sisters-in-law and how to teach children? With the good of the whole family in mind, one's actions are naturally in line with the Way. "Sex from the heavenly reason": not to move the nature of the main, but also to eliminate the endowment, complete the nature, in order to be able to be generous and virtuous.

7, women have three women: shrew, weak woman, daughter-in-law.

8, the woman just violent, control men, mentally oppressing men, talking like thunder, very tough, one hand, called the shrew. This kind of family yin and yang is bad, the husband will be old, or even die young, and the children born are not useful.

9, the woman does not do anything, all dependent on her husband, dependent on parents, called the weak woman.

10, the woman is lazy, complaining is a family of broom star, shrew and weak woman are not daughter-in-law.

11, daughter-in-law means to quell the family's discord, to be a good-luck messenger of peace and harmony in the family, to everyone equal, and Qi full of a family's blessings.

12, daughter-in-law when the nature of the water, the nature of the water to be contented, meaning the root, full of family, and happy. For a happy star, filial piety parents, and sisters-in-law, and children can help their husbands into virtue. So that the husband does not have to worry about the internal affairs, can serve the community, to establish themselves in the road, famous and obvious relatives. Not only the family so, that is, in the community work, can also abide by their duties, to build a successful career. This is the only way to have a long-lasting family life and enjoy good fortune.

13, whether a family is happy, whether quiet, whether prosperous, the role of the wife is very important. Women can be a sex like water wife, will be born, will be able to help the husband into virtue, the family is beautiful.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law Road

1, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law within the family, all from outside the family name, to the same home, as mother and daughter.

2. The way of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to use kindness and righteousness, to get along with each other, and to be able to serve each other for the rest of their lives.

3. If they are not, they will not get along with each other, and they will be separated from each other, and the family will be torn apart, and the family will not prosper.

4, the mother-in-law is when the daughter-in-law for many years to boil out, wait until the daughter-in-law, will be a mother-in-law. The daughter-in-law is a girl in the family, once out of the cabinet to the mother-in-law's house, will be a daughter-in-law.

5, the mother-in-law is early, all matters all understand; daughter-in-law is late, all matters all do not understand. And she shall lead her daughter-in-law to the way, and shall treat her as a daughter, and shall tell her what she knoweth not, and shall instruct her, and shall not make difficulties for her.

6, originally the daughter-in-law is not born of the mother-in-law, if the mother-in-law does not understand the way, before the first grace, the first to raise the shortcomings, or to the big over the small, with the temper to control her, talk net seeding evil, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, how can happen good feelings?

7, each family should be envisioned as their own daughter married into the family, the mother-in-law should love the daughter-in-law as much as their own daughter. If she fails to do so, the daughter-in-law will treat her future daughters-in-law in the same way, creating a vicious circle.

8. Speak often of the daughter-in-law's strengths and appreciate the education of her mother's family. Daughter-in-law, if there is a fault, the mother-in-law to quickly pocket over, the first tolerance, and then behind the back to teach her, never quarrel with her, the daughter-in-law will naturally be grateful, repayment of kindness.

9, when the daughter-in-law, love their husbands must love their in-laws. Understand that without the in-laws, there is no self dear husband. Sympathize with your mother-in-law's previous toil and effort to raise your son to adulthood. You should no longer burden your mother-in-law, tell her what to do, or complain about what she says or does.

10, as a daughter-in-law should be in-laws as their own parents filial piety. As the old saying goes: "We all have double parents. So both parents should be treated equally.

11, mother-in-law's love of things, I love; love of people, I respect. The first thing that you need to do is to get your mother-in-law's heart to rejoice. If you can understand the old man's heart and obey his wishes, you have attained the Way.

12, when the daughter-in-law, to understand: in-laws is a family of real blessings. Not wanting the old man, resenting the old man, refusing to do filial piety to the old man is the same as not wanting their own blessings, and will not have blessings.

13. If you are unfaithful to your in-laws, you have planted such a cause, and when your children grow up, you will surely suffer the consequences of your children's unfaithfulness.

14The in-laws are like the roots of a family tree. If you want to flourish and have sweet-smelling flowers and fruits, you have to treat the roots well by fertilizing, watering, and loosening the soil on the roots.

15, the family and all things are good, to want to noble son Yin, we must teach respect for in-laws, the day will be able to develop. Otherwise, it will not last long.

Learning this is not to ask others, but to perfect oneself!

Children:

1. Children are the star of the family's day, filial piety is the root.

2. As a child, when young, it is difficult to help parents in livelihood, the most important thing is to let parents worry less. Not letting your parents worry is the best way to repay them. When you reach adulthood, you should do your best to honor your parents' body, heart, and mind.

3. As children, should be filial piety as their own responsibility. They should be able to carry on their ancestors' work, promote the family tradition, and aspire to surpass their predecessors.

4. To give material satisfaction to the elderly, that is an obligation, is not filial piety. "Filial piety" is to perfect one's own part, give parents peace of mind, do not give parents trouble, do not look at their parents, is the real filial piety.

5. "Obedience" means accepting the words and teachings of one's parents and giving them comfort and peace of mind. Even if the parents are obviously wrong, do not face to face. If your parents are wrong, not only will you not blame them, but you will also perfect what they should have done, which is called mending your parents' mistakes.

6. When parents have a fault, and the children are able to make up for their faults, then they are truly a family of heavenly blessings. If they are obedient, they will inevitably trap their parents in injustice, and they are not really filial.

7. Our life in this family, and so on, and the life of this family have a destiny. The good is the blessing of your life, the bad is also their own destiny. There are pains and troubles, it is this family in the achievement of you, honing you, fulfillment of your own reward. Likewise be thankful and repay your kindness.

8. No matter if your parents are merciful or not, but ask yourself if you are filial.

9. If you want to fulfill your filial piety, you have to start from the three realms of nature, mind and body. If you don't have the right nature, you can't be filial, if you don't have the right heart, you can't be filial, and if you don't have the right body, you can't be filial. If you want to be truly filial, you must clear the three realms.

10. "The three realms of filial piety are necessary for filial piety. The three realms refer to the nature, mind and body said. The body of filial piety must be attentive to the parents' clothing, food, housing and behavior, and to support the parents' body. The heart of filial piety should be obedient to the heart of the parents everywhere, what the parents love, I must love; what is close to me, I should be practiced; what is close to me, I should be honored. The filial piety service should make the old man's nature and happy, no sad face, not to make the old man move sex, and the grandchildren, in order to enjoy the days of the old man.

11. Filial piety is divided into rational piety, filial piety, filial piety: rational piety, that is, to respect and understand the old man; filial piety, that is, to do their best to provide their parents with material needs; filial piety of the heart is to forgive their parents for their faults, is the great filial piety.

12. To feed and clothe one's parents is filial piety; to make one's parents happy is filial piety; to keep one's parents in mind, to make one's parents at ease, to make one's parents happy, and not to make one's parents worry, is filial piety (sexuality).

13. Children who are unfilial will not be blessed. If you blame your family for being poor, you will be poorer than poor.

14. If the children are filial, the parents will naturally live a long life; if the parents live a long life and the children are not filial, it will bring great troubles to the parents in their life, and such children will become the star of defeat.

15. The old man in the world can make his peace of mind, happy, for the filial piety; the old man dying can make his peace with a smile and go, is the end of the filial piety.

Brothers and sisters:

1. Brothers and sisters are the heavenly helpers of the family, rooted in righteousness.

2. "Righteousness" means unconditional help at all costs. If one person is in trouble, the others should be in place to help, and those who are in good condition should try to help those who are in poor condition.

3. If the same room, the same root fried, will make the ancestors dust, and their own power is weak, isolated. If brothers and sisters can not love each other, parents must be worried, filial piety still can not be complete. Therefore, to honor one's parents, one must be at peace with one's siblings.

4. Brothers and sisters are like brothers and sisters, we must respect each other, sympathize with each other, help each other, and make up for each other's shortcomings.

5. If you get help from your brothers and sisters, you should know how to be grateful and repay them.

6．Brothers are half-parents and should set an example by helping their father to establish his business and assisting their parents in perfecting everything. They should carry on the will of their parents and the virtues of their ancestors.

7. Elder brothers and sisters should be as loving to their younger siblings as their parents.

8. Those who are younger siblings should treat their older brothers and sisters as elders. What the elder brother does not do properly should be made up for him.

9. Don't spread gossip about right and wrong, and don't blame your brother's parents.

10. Be lively and thrifty, and do what you are commanded to do, and do your best when you are obliged to do so.

11. Learn from the virtues of the whole family, and carry forward the good customs of the family. If you do this, your family will prosper.

12. When you have a family, don't compare your wealth, but compete with each other in the family style, so that each family can do better than the other.

13. Don't fight among brothers and sisters over the family property, and don't hurt your brotherhood by marrying a new wife. The way of brotherhood is the word "brotherly love", brotherly love is not enough, and the filial piety. If you do not fulfill your duty of brotherly love, you will be punished by heaven.

The Way of the Nun:

1. The woman is the source of the world, and if you want the world to be good, the country to be good, the society to be good, and the family to be good, you must be good from the girl.

2. If you want to be a good girl, you have to understand the way of the girl.

3. The girl is the noble star of the family, to the root of the will, sex like cotton, mention full family.

4. To be rooted in the will is to be determined not to fight and not to be greedy, to be determined to be filial to parents, to honor brothers and sisters-in-law, and to love and care for nieces and nephews.

5. The nature of cotton is like the white of cotton, keep your body like jade; like the softness of cotton, don't be irritable;

6. Like the warmth of cotton, don't be cold to others; like the longness of cotton, don't retreat from your ambition.

7. Anything can be done, without selection, without differentiation; this is the reason why nature is like cotton.

8. A girl at home is half guest and half master, and must know the good of all, and be able to lift up the spirit of harmony of the whole family, and make

a family bond.

9. The girl is the doorway to harmonious relations between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In the event of a conflict between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, she should be persuaded from both sides. In front of the mother

say the benefits of the sister-in-law, in front of the sister-in-law to comfort her heart, sympathize with the sister-in-law, mention the benefits of the mother on weekdays.

10. In this way you have fulfilled your filial duty before your mother, and the duty of brotherly love before your brother and sister-in-law, and when one family rejoices, you are mentioning the full family.

11. If you talk too much at home, not only do you not know, you will not pacify the right and wrong, but expand the right and wrong, and make the whole family unhappy, then you are kicking the whole family, and you are kicking the whole family out of the house.

12. At home as a good girl, out of the cabinet can be a good daughter-in-law, can help her husband into the road, respect for her husband, harmonious sisters-in-law, filial piety to the in-laws, the whole family and happy, really is a happy star at home.

13. Later, if you have children, you will naturally teach them to be famous, and they will be good mothers.

14. When she grows old, she will become an old woman, and she will be able to bring up her family, and she will be a blessing to her family.

15. When a girl understands the way, she can do it, and the source is clear.

16. When you are a girl, you should practice and understand what it means to be a daughter-in-law beforehand, so that you can be sure of a happy marriage in the future.

17. Parents for their daughters, is the most intimate flesh and blood, mostly very cordial, so the daughter's speech and behavior, very free, and unrestrained, coupled with the woman's nature, weak self-control, in front of their parents, can not help but love love to pampered, parents can not bear to brush off their will, things are always obedient to her, can not help but develop a habit of inertia, there is a demand, a not to be satisfied, will be negative to make the nature of the not up to the The purpose will not be stopped. If, after starting a family, you still cling to the habit of pettiness and laziness, it will inevitably lead to family conflicts, and you will also suffer a lot. Therefore, when a daughter is with her parents, she should first learn the way of serving her aunt.

18. In her mother's home, the girl is not responsible for the economy, and if she worships enjoyment and develops a habit of extravagance, she will form a family of her own, and will be responsible for the economy of the family, either absolutely or relatively. However, if she does not change her habit of extravagance and wastefulness, she will certainly cause family conflicts and suffer herself. Therefore, in the girl's period, to develop simple living habits, cultivate the virtue of thrift and hard work, is to build the cornerstone of the future happy and fulfilling family.

19. When you are a girl, you should practice housekeeping. Such as economic domination, housekeeping, children's education and guidance, etc., are the future of the family must face and undertake, but also their own responsibilities within the original. If they are lazy to avoid, parents are also indulgent favoritism, the future sufferings or their own (girl) itself.

The Way of Friends:

1. Those who share the same path are friends, and those who share the same righteousness are friends.

2. A gentleman makes friends in morality and righteousness, a villain makes friends in right.

3. Can persuade good regulation, is a moral friendship, gentleman's friendship; friendship if focus on snobbery, meat and wine, favorable to seek to make friends, once the loss of profit, friends counted the end, is a small man's friendship.

4. Profit is harmful to righteousness, and a snobbish friendship can never last long.

5. As the saying goes, "Near Zhu is red, near ink is black." Therefore, we should be close to the good friends who have benevolence, righteousness and morality, and keep away from the bad friends who only know how to spend their time and drink.

6. When you get along with your friends, choose the good ones and follow them, and change the bad ones, then you can get the benefit of your friends and not suffer from them.

7. If you are indiscriminate, do not distinguish between right and wrong, and go with the flow, you will be tired of damaged friends.

8. A person with good sense, not tired of friends, but also good to change, not only to correct themselves, but also with the Taoist moralization of friends over, as much as the Tao of being a friend.

9. Responsibility for good is the way of friends, but blame good friends to stop, or friends do not like themselves not happy. The number of friends, the rusty.

10. If you want to be righteous first, you have to be righteous first, and your own behavior is correct and convincing, and your speech will be effective.

11. I've heard of anger, I've heard of honor, I've heard of happiness, I've heard of bad friends, I've heard of good friends; I've heard of fear, I've heard of happiness, I've heard of understanding, I've heard of friends.

12. It is important for friends to hold the road and leave appropriate space for each other.

13. The way of friends, the first in each other's beliefs, in order to be together with the same party, camp road with the same technology. The first thing you need to do is to trust each other, so that you can work together to achieve the same goal and the same technique. The first thing you need to do is to believe in each other.

A family that understands their respective roles, each in their own way, how can they not be happy? I wish you happiness!