Not having children is the biggest responsibility I can take!

Scholar: Having children is not a must-choose topic in life

Getting married, having children, and continuing the blood of the family have always been considered the most important things in people's lives.

However, in recent years, people's thinking is changing. The 2019 "China Fertility Report" shows that my country's fertility rate is gradually decreasing, and even the second-child policy cannot be improved.

So what exactly causes this?

Xiao Zhou is born in the 1990s and is an only child. After she and her husband got married, neither of them was willing to give up their jobs.

The two of them considered that they would have four elderly people to support in the future, and the current financial situation was not enough to cover future expenses, so they thought about working hard for a few more years to have a baby.

But the elderly at home couldn't wait any longer. They urged them to have a baby every day, and even bought "tonics" for Xiao Zhou, which made her dumbfounded.

After three years of marriage, Xiao Zhou still hasn't had a child. Some time ago, her mother-in-law couldn't bear it anymore and directly scolded Xiao Zhou and her husband for being unfilial!

But the reality is that Xiao Zhou’s parents-in-law have worked in the countryside all their lives and currently have no retirement salary or other sufficient savings.

Although Xiao Zhou's own parents have retirement pay, their income is meager.

The young couple had just bought a house and had to repay the mortgage. Under such circumstances, they really did not dare to have children at will.

Xiao Zhou believes that since you have given birth to a child, you must be responsible for the child's life. If you cannot give your child the best, you might as well not have the child.

This sentence made my mother-in-law very angry. Is it necessary to consider so many things when giving birth?

Today's young people are no longer so traditional in their ideas. Some people joke to themselves, "Not having children is the biggest responsibility I can take!"

In fact, there are difficulties behind saying this.

Most people born in the 80s and 90s are not willing to have children. This is actually due to the general environment.

1. The inability to afford the expenses of children is different from the past. Nowadays, children face a lot of expenses as soon as they are born, including milk powder, diapers, various care products, early childhood education, future study, marriage and childbirth, some people think

To make an account, raising a child until he graduates from college will cost at least one million.

This expenditure is undoubtedly a heavy burden for young people with unstable incomes and mortgage and car loans.

2. Don’t want to lose your life. In the eyes of the older generation, having a baby is an obligation, and they don’t feel that life is lacking anything because of this.

But today’s young people have more ideas.

In addition to real life, they also need poetry and distance.

After giving birth to a child, you are destined to be surrounded by the baby's milk powder and diapers, and there will be no freedom at all for the next ten years.

Some couples attach great importance to spiritual enjoyment and are unwilling to lose their lives, so they choose DINK.

3. Afraid that you will not be able to educate your children well. As people’s overall quality improves, everyone is thinking more about having children.

Even if they are materially wealthy, many couples still dare not have children.

Especially people who are relatively introverted themselves, they are always worried about not being able to give their children a healthy life, and they are not willing to let them face a complex social environment.

The reason is that they are worried that they cannot educate their children well and cannot give them a good life.