Chinese-style blind date, our love really want to succumb to the money?

Recently, a TV program has been on fire, and the host of this TV program is the venomous Venus, who is known as the first transgender person in China, and the name of the program is also very Chinese called "Chinese blind date". Originally, China's television media dating programs can be said to have a long history, as early as the nineties, Mango Channel's Rose of the Covenant, Jiangsu Channel's Fei Cheng Do not disturb, for the Chinese people care about one of the most topics: marriage, no matter what the times will not lack of viewers, and will be in love with this way of exposure in the spotlight, but also become a lot of people used to things.

In this context, Ms. Jin Xing and Oriental TV have come up with "Chinese Matchmaking," which follows a similar path, and there seems to be nothing worth fussing about. I have not watched any TV since many years ago, and occasionally watching documentaries and movies through my computer has been one of the biggest nostalgia I have for TV. However, the fire of "Chinese-style dating" is also out of my expectation, I am surrounded by both married and unmarried female colleagues are talking about this program, but the focus of all the talk on the values of marriage, so that I had to open the computer to resist the urge to turn off to watch one or two episodes of this program.

Just to get one thing straight, what kind of conflicting values can trigger such an economic effect?

Conflict of values triggered by Chinese-style matchmaking

While as a person who is not married, I may not have much to say about marriage and love, but I don't want to say anything about what is love? What is marriage? This kind of too philosophical topic to get entangled, I want to explore the "Chinese-style dating" program behind the big hit, in the end, what kind of a conflict of values?

From the point of view of media economics, everyone who goes to watch TV is a kind of either to pass the time of boredom, or to maximize their own utility, of course, this is difficult to understand for most of the readers and friends, to say that in human terms, you watch TV to seek to be fun, that is, it is worth it. Compared to traditional dating programs, male and female guests single-handedly on the field, at most, plus a little video assistance, basically do is to give you the opportunity to meet more people, the so-called hand in hand is also the first from the beginning of love to try, if someone to statistics of so-called hand in hand successful male and female guests, and ultimately go to the end of the I'm afraid that is a small probability of events.

But for the "Chinese-style matchmaking" program, it is the most successful place, is originally a person's routing program, up to become the whole family on the matchmaking war, which leads to no longer a person's dating, but a family from the economy to the concept, from culture to status, from identity to work of the full range of competition, this conflictual emergence has to let people admire Jin Xing teacher's God! creativity.

And the question that comes up along the way is? Chinese people now marriage in the end is for love or for the transaction, because of this kind of door-to-door the whole family, the end result let the TV program has become a kind of marriage exchange, rich, cultivation, intelligence, value, figure, and senior enlightened parents, this kind of all kinds of conditions of all rows, really too much like the stock exchange. Isn't that exactly what happened in the early days of stock exchanges, especially primary market trading?

This is to make us can not help but fall into thinking, we in the end is for love, or for money material?

Chinese blind date behind the economic history of the connotation

Once, the author of many female friends and the author said, have talked about a lot of times in love, for love is first full of fantasy, and ultimately when the work of the fantasy after the return to reality, found that if you want to get married you have to recognize the reality that is the family is different from the people don't fall in love, if it is a love affair, the roar of fearless, but if it is a love affair, then it is a good thing that you have a lot of money, but if it is a love affair, then you have to be careful. But if it is a blind date, then the family status wealth all to be put on the agenda, which is back to what we said earlier the conflict of values.

In college, I don't think there is any boy or girl who thinks he or she won't be able to find a boyfriend or girlfriend, because it's a concentration camp for people of his or her own age, and it's not hard to find someone who can make a difference. However, after work is not the same thing, because of the serious refinement of the social division of labor, most people's social circle is limited to a very narrow field, therefore, many girls will say that their social circle is not broad enough, so they can not find in the material and ability to "conquer" her man. But is this true? In fact, not necessarily, because a person's character is determined by the environment of its long-term survival, these survival environment so that each person has a unique frequency, so many people say that not in a frequency do not fall in love, then to find a similar frequency how to do? The easiest way is to find a similar family environment, looking for the so-called "door-to-door", which provides the possibility of finding a similar frequency, from this point of view, dating does not seem to be a bad thing?

Then go to look at the thousands of years of history in China and the world, door-to-door almost long-term domination of the human thousands of years, the existence of the profession of matchmaker in China is to meet the door-to-door marriage appeared, by the matchmaker as an intermediary to match the economic strength of both men and women's families, the social status of the two sides of the eventual formation of a connection, and then the measurement of the birth date and eight characters, the bride price, the bride price, the wedding, etc. We can even say that Chinese-style matchmaking is a good way to find a similar family environment, which provides the possibility of finding a similar frequency. We can even say that the Chinese matchmaking model of door-to-door pairing is almost the traditional concept of Chinese people for thousands of years. So, where did our concept of love come from?

The author found a very interesting phenomenon in the study of economic history, even in the developed countries of the West, where Romeo and Juliet were so intoxicatingly in love, most of the time it was the door-to-door choice. The full emergence of the concept of free love, on the other hand, originated from the establishment of the social welfare system. When the German unification was followed by the introduction of the welfare state system by Bismarck, the iron-blooded chancellor, free love, which used to exist only in literature, stepped out of the literature and entered into everyone's life. Due to the gradual improvement of the state welfare system, most people's worries about love were eliminated, there is a very interesting phenomenon in economics, the more the state welfare of the country, such as Germany and the Nordic countries, as well as some of the U.S. states, because of the generous state welfare system, so that the girl's mothers as well as completely do not have to worry about how much the boy's family income, there is no room, the state will solve, so that free love of the The foundation appeared. According to statistics, as the highest welfare in the world, the number of relationships, the number of marriages and the number of sexual partners of the Nordic people is one of the highest in the world, which leads to the real economics of marriage, the freedom of love is based on the material freedom and security.

In fact, many countries with poor social welfare, such as China have a large number of irregular marriages, in which the relationship between the man and the woman has existed in name only for a long time, but since the family is a merged economy, if it is lost, for example, after a divorce, both the man and the woman have to bear the pressure of raising their children alone. the reason why they resolutely divorce after their children have gone to university. However, once the country's welfare reaches a certain level, this situation will be much better, men and women are more in pursuit of the feeling, the taste of love, rather than the family.

This leads us to the conclusion that the longevity of marriage, the theory of marriage as a family, is actually rooted in the material pressures of survival. And this is the problem in China, because China is a country that needs to struggle on its own for anyone to survive, so in order to resist these material pressures, the marriage through the door-to-door theory is often the historical root of the "Chinese blind date".

So what kind of love do we want? To say the simplest words, we believe in the greatness of love, we recognize the role of love, but do not speak lightly of love before filling your stomach, and do not speak lightly of marriage, matchmaking has its existence of historical inevitability, and love is the need for each of us to strive for the noble character, first do a good job of our own, live their own wonderful, and then say how love will come to it!

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