See through the tricks of a liar

Why do scammers keep appearing around us, and they are all similar scams, and someone will always fall into them. What means have scammers used to make some people frustrated repeatedly, and they are willing to think that they are unlucky. Being cheated is just a hurdle of their own fate.

? Let me take you to Maria, an American writer who graduated from Harvard University. Konykova's book "Why Are We Cheated" reveals the cheating methods of swindlers and what kind of people are easily cheated.

First of all, let me introduce the author. Konikova graduated with honors from Harvard University and received a doctorate in psychology from Columbia University. She is the author of The New York Times's best-selling book Reflections on Sherlock Holmes, and has also published articles in many well-known media, such as The Atlantic Monthly, The new york Times, The Wall Street Journal and The Boston Globe.

? Through many international cases, the author exposes the process of cheating by swindlers, and analyzes the psychology of swindlers and the means adopted by swindlers:

? According to scientific research, people with machiavellianism, psychopathy or narcissism are more likely to become liars. If you meet the right opportunity and both appear at the same time, a liar is born.

? The deception process used by swindlers is to anticipate the enemy plane first and get emotional. Please go to the urn, improve the story, win the trust of others, play hard to get, push your luck, escape and root out the root cause. The main means is to expect the enemy plane to search for the target first, then tell the perfect story, and finally successfully and decisively escape.

? Collecting suitable targets is the first step in the cheating process. In the vast sea of people, they use keen insight to discover the life background, psychological state and personal desires of people around them. After casting a net on a large scale, collect specific information, and then select the target that meets your needs.

So what kind of people will be the target of scammers?

Pie eater.

A person who especially trusts others.

People who are at a low point in life and psychology.

Just like the emotional swindlers that women encounter in life, most women's emotional life is not smooth, and they are extremely eager to have a "He Han" who cares about themselves in front of them. Liars seize the target's psychology, specifically talk to such women, give them the missing psychological warmth, set a trap step by step, and let the target fall into the trap of the liar.

? A few years ago in Nanning, Guangxi, the police received an alarm from four women, claiming that they had been cheated by their boyfriends. It turned out that the man wore an officer-style military uniform and lied that he was a soldier. He interacts with different women through online chat to meet their psychological needs, gain women's trust, and make unsuspecting women lose money and lose color. After the swindler was arrested, according to the account, the police initially estimated that the suspect had "interacted" with at least 40 women and successfully defrauded more than 200,000 yuan.

Weaving a perfect story and winning the trust of others is an important means for scammers to succeed in cheating. A successful liar is a master storyteller, who uses human weakness and leads his goal into the routine of perceptual thinking through emotional offensive. Psychologist Seymour? Epstein pointed out that rational thinking will bring "correct" choices, legitimate influences and correct actions. On the contrary, emotions make us think in an "absolute, personal, concrete, unthinking and action-oriented" way.

? I have seen many cases of cheating the elderly, all of which are offensive to win feelings and meticulous care. First, they lure the target group to take the bait, and then they promote the product and make it magical. Old people are also willing to be cheated, and sometimes they are deeply trapped, thinking that they have not been cheated, but they just lost their luck.

Listening to her husband's story about his grandfather being cheated by a middle-aged woman makes people feel that the liar is so hateful. Grandpa went out to buy eggs and bought five catties of eggs. Because he had no change, he gave it directly to the egg seller 100 yuan. The egg seller took the money and looked at it. He said there was something wrong with the money, so he changed eight pieces in succession. The money went through a cycle in the hands of swindlers. Later, grandpa came home and told me what this 800 yuan was about. His father-in-law showed it and found that it was really fake money.

Grandpa said she looked like an honest person with a child. How can she be a liar? My money has just been withdrawn from the bank. My father-in-law said that the egg seller dropped his fake money and grandpa's real money, saying that grandpa's money was fake and kept asking him to change it. When grandpa bowed his head and took the money, the liar changed the real money into fake money and lied that grandpa's money was problematic.

Running away is the perfect ending for a swindler to succeed. How can we make him disappear smoothly after cheating? In the book, the author introduces the reasons why cheaters can disappear smoothly. Liars know a lot about human nature. They take advantage of people's attention to reputation and evaluation, so that the deceived people don't want to say anything or call the police for their own reputation. They just told themselves to spend money to buy a lesson, and finally everyone knew that their evaluation would make them unbearable. Either the liar asks you to keep a secret and dare not reveal it, or the deceived person doesn't want to threaten his reputation and let the liar get away with it.

Liars in life are so hard to prevent. A liar will not wear a liar on his head and let people know that I am a liar. Some scammers are quite kind, and if they are not careful, they will fall into the trap carefully designed by scammers. This requires them to practice their own eyes, identify the routines of scammers, and prevent being deceived.

"Why Are We Cheated" analyzes the cheating methods of swindlers in great detail, and it is a book worth reading. I hope I can see through the scam in the future and not give the liar a chance.

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