The Way of Being a Man

The twelve paths of traditional Chinese culture: being a man, handling affairs, cultivating oneself, and wielding power are all classic!

The greatest claim of Confucius on being a man is to be a gentleman. "

The biggest idea of Confucius in terms of human behavior is to be a gentleman.

The gentleman has four major cultivation:

Introspection - "the gentleman seeks his own, the small man seeks others", encountering problems first look for their own reasons, rather than only know blame others.

Self-denial - "To restore oneself to propriety is to be benevolent", to restrain one's own desires and incorrect speech and behavior, and to consciously abide by the ethics and rules.

Prudence and solitude - "A gentleman is prudent in his solitude", and maintains the same integrity, character and demeanor when and where others cannot see.

Forgiveness - "bow to the thick, but thin responsibility for others" "Do not do unto others what you do not want, do not do unto others", all things should be pushed to do unto others, put yourself in the shoes of others.

2. Lao Zi - the way to deal with things

The traditional Chinese culture of the twelve paths: for people, deal with things, cultivate themselves, power and strategy, the road are classic!

"The way of the sage is to be and not to strive." This is the last sentence of the Tao Te Ching. Laozi has always advocated: retreat, guard, weakness, and softness. Preserve yourself, and so gain a foothold on the undefeated.

"Goodness is like water", people all take the top, water alone in the bottom, but can run forward, and eventually become the sea. Put yourself down, in order to be able to compete with the world, and so the wide collection of thick accumulation.

"Do not argue" appears frequently in the Tao Te Ching, and occasionally as "do not criticize", perhaps representing Laozi's most superficial requirements for people, that is, the language of non-argumentation, non-argumentation. Control their own mouth is the basic cultivation, especially easy to speak at the moment, learn to shut up is a learning experience.

3. Zhuangzi - the way to nourish the nature

Nurturing the nature of the noble in easy and calm. Zhuangzi said: "Easy and calm, the worry can not enter, the evil can not be attacked, so the virtue of the whole and the God is not lost." Once a person is controlled by selfishness, it will lose the normal human mind, become insatiable, it is bound to harm the body and life.

If a person can maintain an easy and calm state of mind, reduce selfishness, then the evil can not be invaded, will not be form of labor loss of essence led to the accumulation of disease. Only the heart is open, calm and relaxed, with a normal attitude towards life, contentment, can be beneficial to life.

4. Mencius - the way of the king and his subjects

Mencius said: "The king's view of the minister as a hand and foot, then the minister regarded the king as the heart of the abdomen; the king's view of the minister as a dog and horse, then the minister regarded the king as a man of the country; the king's view of the minister as a mustard, then the minister regarded the king as a foe." How the king treats the minister, the minister will return to the king what, all the superior and subordinate relationship is not so, and is still applicable.

The best hierarchical relationship is that "the king makes his ministers polite, and the ministers serve the king with loyalty".

5. Xunzi - The Way of Learning

The most important thing in learning is to have the right attitude. As Xunzi said: "Tiqi a leap, can not be ten steps, incompetent horses ten driving, the work is not give up." "Perseverance, rotten wood does not fold; Perseverance, gold and stone can be skeletonized." To reach the other side of the victory, it is valuable to be persistent. Pestle and mortar can be sharpened into a needle, relying on the will of perseverance; a small drop of water can penetrate the hard stone, by virtue of the indomitable spirit.

"Xunzi" said at the beginning of the book: "Learning can not be already." Reading is a process that requires long-term perseverance, and it should be easy before difficult, from shallow to deep, step by step, water dripping, water penetrating. As the saying goes, "You can't make a thousand miles without short steps; you can't make an ocean without a small stream." In reality, many people have had the experience of studying for a long time, accumulating small steps to make a large number, and finally achieving a fruitful harvest. We modern people study Xunzi, we should set up a correct view of lifelong learning, develop good learning habits, cultivate good learning quality, and constantly summarize the experience, learning to use.

6. Sun Tzu--The Way of Towers

The 4 core ideas of Sun Tzu's Art of War:

Sun Tzu's Art of War is not to teach us how to win against the strong with the weak, but how to win against the weak with the strong. "The military is a major event of the state, the place of death and life, the way of survival, and must not be ignored. "So we should only fight battles that we are absolutely sure of, and never bet on small probability events. Do career should also be so, only do their own ability to do things within the scope of things, do their own can do things, slowly wait for their own strength is strong, and then improve the difficulty. Otherwise, it is a gamble, and in the long run it is bound to be a flop.

"Knowing that one can fight and not fight, win." Everything should first calculate the cost, can not just think of winning, to be able to calculate the total account, is it worth fighting? The so-called kill the enemy a hundred, since the loss of eighty, win how much benefit you can get? If you lose, it may be the destruction of the country and the family. The workplace, the mall as the battlefield, should also be so.

The twelve paths of traditional Chinese culture: people, handling, cultivation, power and strategy, all the paths are classic!

"More calculations win, less calculations do not win. "Calculate yourself first, you can 100% defeat your opponent before waging war. Usually, you just focus on practicing yourself, instead of thinking about how to take out the enemy. Li Ka-shing in the acquisition of other people's businesses, are in other people's financial situation is not good, usually just focus on strong themselves.

"The good warrior, can for the unwinnable, can not make the enemy must win." Victory and defeat is a common thing in the military, look at man-made also look at the will of God. Sun Tzu's Art of War is not first of all to teach you how to win the battle, but first of all to teach you how to admit defeat. Admit defeat is the root of the win, can truly accept defeat, only with a strong heart, in order to be indomitable, will smile to the end.

7. Pipe - the way of management

Management should be people-oriented. Guan Zhong said, "people-oriented, the original rule is the country solid, the original chaos is the country dangerous." "The rise of the government, in obedience to the people's heart; the abolition of the government, in opposition to the people's heart." Managers can only be so popular to meet people's needs, to get their proximity and support, management activities can have significant results.

The management should know the people. "No gold is perfect, no one is perfect", Guanzhong advocates in the management of talent to use people's strengths, to allow their shortcomings. Regardless of the selection, use, assessment of people, can not be a moment of gain or loss to make a conclusion to the person, to make a great cause must learn to tolerate people to make mistakes, and a deep understanding of people, learn to stand in the perspective of others to see the problem.

Traditional Chinese culture in the twelve ways: for people, handling, cultivation, power and strategy, Dao Dao are classic!

8. Han Fei Zi - the way to control

Han Fei Zi, "the seven arts of the imperial ministers", the most important is to observe, punishment, reward, listen to the four arts.

Observation - listening to the subordinates and observing their behavior, you can understand the truth; do not listen to biased beliefs, you will not be subjected to subordinates blindfolded.

Punishment - leaders can not be too kind, subordinates must be severely punished for mistakes, in order to establish their own authority, to ensure that the system is implemented, to avoid the following to violate the supremacy of the majesty.

Reward - the performance, ability to outstanding subordinates should also be rewarded, otherwise it is difficult for these people to be loyal, for me to use, lasting and exhaustive effect.

Listen - listen to all the opinions, fools and smart people will be clear; supervise the subordinate action, mediocre and capable people will not be confused.

9. Guigu Zi - the way of power

Guigu Zi said: "The way of disobedience, you must be able to know from the material Rui, the amount of length of the near and far who do not know, it can be in, it can be out, it can be vertical, it can be horizontal."

A person must have self-knowledge, not underestimate themselves, not to mention overestimate themselves, know their own wisdom geometry, ability size. Know how to speculate on the five factors that measure both sides: long, short, far, near, and know.

Long: is the strengths, advantages, better than others.

Short: shortcomings, shortcomings, not as good as others.

Near: is whether the relationship with the person is in place, whether it is close.

The twelve paths of traditional Chinese culture: people, handling, cultivation, power and strategy, all the paths are classic!

Distant: it is whether the relationship with people is strange and distant.

Know: that is, whether there is a full understanding of the situation on both sides, the so-called know your enemy and know yourself.

By measuring the above five aspects, and then to decide their own is in, is back, is vertical, is horizontal.

The reality of the game in the workplace, the loser is how to fail? In fact, it is very simple, on both sides of the forces forces of the assessment is insufficient, sometimes overestimated their own, underestimated others. Or a flavor of adventurous, do not know how to retreat, and ultimately ended up in failure.

10. University - the way to cultivate oneself

"University" cloud: "From the son of heaven to the common people, one is all to cultivate oneself as the basis." Dismantled, it is eight times, eight realms: material, Zhi Zhi Zhi, sincerity, correct heart, cultivate oneself, Qi family, rule the country, and level the world.

The first realm: the material. Explore the truth of things to correct the behavior of people, if not thoroughly, the growth of the latter achievements are floating clouds.

The second realm: knowledge. That is, to obtain knowledge, contains two aspects, learning methods and learning attitude. The learning method is the learning method, coupled with the attitude of continuous improvement, in order to Zhi Zhi Zhi.

The third realm: sincerity. One word and action should come from sincerity, not to deceive others, nor self-deception.

The twelve paths of traditional Chinese culture: people, handling, cultivation, power and strategy, all of which are classic!

The fourth realm: the right mind. The first is to make sure that you have the right mindset and get rid of the evil thoughts. In short, it is constantly introspective, choose good and evil. If you don't have the right mind, the more powerful you are, the greater the harm, not only harming others but also destroying yourself.

The fifth realm: cultivation. The first thing you need to do is to improve your character, your mind and your vision.

The sixth realm: family. A good family. From this step onwards, we start to do things, realize the unity of knowledge and practice, and enter the world to practice.

The seventh realm: governance. It's not necessarily about governing a country, but rather about "being able to help the world", doing bigger things, dealing with more complex relationships, and benefiting more people.

The eighth realm: the world. It is also not necessarily the achievement of hegemony, but a realm of life where you can contribute to more people in a certain area, improve their lives, and do your best for the well-being of the world.

11. I Ching - the way of heaven and man

"Zhouyi" cloud: "the way to establish the sky, said the yin and yang; the way to establish the earth, said the soft and hard; the way to establish the human being, said the benevolence and righteousness; both the three talents and the two, so easy to six paintings and become a hexagram."

Heaven and earth, "the way of the three talents", is a major discovery of our ancestors: people can learn from the sky, the earth, the way of man can be with the Tao of Heaven, the Tao of the earth, through the law of heaven and right itself, respect for the time to keep the position, know the constant and bright change, in order to open up the things into the business, to build a career and to change their destiny.

The wisdom gained from this law of heaven and earth is "benevolence and righteousness". The only way to change one's life with virtue is to act according to benevolence and righteousness.

12. Zen Buddhism - the way of life and death

Traditional Chinese culture in the twelve paths: people, handling, cultivation, power and strategy, the road is classic!

Zen to be, is eight words: "clear mind, see nature, get rid of life and death." To be more clear: life, to live freely; death, to die freely.

"Bodhi has no tree, the mirror is not a platform; originally there is nothing, where the dust." People are born irresistible, people can not be recovered from death, only things with fate. People who are obsessed with chasing desires can't be calm in the world, and often create karma when they are born, and fear when they die.

Let go of all destiny, the pursuit of their own true spiritual wealth, the realization of self-awareness is the Buddha's righteousness, and not to pursue the external pomp and circumstance, is the way of life's liberation, the achievement of all beings of the line.