What are the essence and dross of traditional weddings?

Guo: One month before the wedding, combine the time and personality of both men and women and set a date for the man's family to bring a "three-drink ceremony" to the woman's family.

Gifts: The man chooses auspicious day and brings gifts and cakes, coconuts, tea, betel nuts, seafood, three animals (including two pairs of chickens, two pairs of geese and two pig spleens), lotus seeds, sesame seeds, lilies, red dates, dried longan, glutinous rice flour, sugar chips, wine, a pair of dragon and phoenix bracelets, wedding rings and gold chains to the woman's house. When a woman receives a big gift, she will give some back to that man. This is called a "return gift". Usually half or more of the above items, plus a pair of lotus roots, a pair of taro, a pair of pomegranates, a pair of four-season oranges, a handkerchief, a son-in-law suit, a belt, a gift, a wallet and a paper fan, are written with the words "five generations under one roof, a hundred children and a thousand grandchildren".

Dowry: ancient women needed a big orange and a small orange to go to the man's house as a dowry, which contained 72 clothes, with cypress, lotus seeds, longan and holly; There is also a "Butterfly Qi Fei" that is relatively cut; "fertile land" bedding such as feet, dragon and phoenix quilts, pillows and sheets; Two pairs of slippers, two sets of pajamas and underwear; Children's bucket (spittoon) contains a pair of red eggs, two sweets, ten red chopsticks, two ginger and an umbrella.

Top: The top ceremony will be held on the morning of the wedding, and the time must be chosen. The man should leave half an hour earlier than the woman (the difference is about one hour), and the "good luck man" and "good luck woman" will hold it for both men and women in their respective homes. Both men and women should wear pajamas, and the woman should do it in the open window where she can see the moonlight. The so-called "lucky guy" and "lucky woman" are male and female elders. They choose their parents and children to live and have a harmonious marriage. Once upon a time, a woman was not allowed to walk on the ground after she reached the top. When she got into a sedan chair, she had to be carried by Sister Daikin. At the top, "lucky guy" and "lucky woman" will comb and say, "comb it, comb it to the end; Two combs, Qi Mei with white hair; Three combs, comb to future generations. "

Go out on a sunny day: opening the red umbrella means spreading the branches and leaves. Sprinkle red beans, mung beans and rice on the top of the umbrella to ward off evil spirits.

Return from the Three Dynasties: A newly married couple prepared the following items for their daughter's home: two golden pigs, a pot of wine, a pair of chickens, two boxes of cakes, two baskets of fruits, two boxes of noodles, pork bellies and two Jin of pork. The woman's family wants to raise her daughter and son-in-law for dinner. After returning home, the woman's family returned as usual, with cakes, bamboo poles, chicken, lettuce, celery, pig's head and pig's tail. Due to the progress of the times, everything is simple, and the gifts above can be replaced by benefits. Instead of pork, it is called pork gold. It's not cake, it's cake gold.

Taboo: Pregnant women and undertaker are not allowed to witness the couple go out and enter the house, and they are not allowed to touch the couple's clothes and everything in the new house. If the newlyweds want to "climb their heads" to get married, they must pass through the crotch of their unmarried brothers before they can go out.

1. Eat jiaozi: Before getting married, the groom will eat jiaozi with his parents, brothers and girlfriends in the boudoir to show his farewell. Mother fed jiaozi to her daughter, and the bride cried.

2. hi: after the groom meets the woman's family, he will hold a bouquet in the room for the bride to get married. At this time, the bride's girlfriend should deliberately stop the groom, but the condition is that the groom agrees, usually with a red envelope gift.

3. Farewell: The bride has to say goodbye to her parents, and the groom only needs to bow and salute.

4. Going out: The bride should be escorted to the limousine by a female elder with a bamboo plaque or a black umbrella, because the bride can't see the sunshine overhead, and the other party hopes to live a happy life like this female elder. (Note: Prepare a bamboo plaque and paste a happy word on it)

5. Gift car: Bamboo plaque can be placed on the back cover of the gift car.

6. Worship fans: Before the bride gets on the limousine, an auspicious little boy holds a fan (put it on a tea tray) for the bride, and the bride returns a red envelope to show her gratitude. (Note: Prepare a fan and bring two small red envelopes)

7. Never say goodbye: Never say goodbye to a woman's family when everyone leaves her home.

8. Throw a fan: After the car starts, the bride should throw the fan out of the window to show that she will not bring her bad temper to her husband's family. The little boy will pick up a fan and give it to her family. They will give her a red envelope to thank her.

9. Firecrackers: The limousine leaves the woman's house to set off firecrackers.

10. Touch oranges: A limousine will be delivered to the man's house, and a child with two oranges will welcome the couple. The bride should gently touch the orange and then thank the red envelope.

1 1. Guide the bride: When the bride gets off the bus, a lucky elder of the man will hold a bamboo plaque on her head and help her into the hall.

12. Avoid stepping on the threshold: cross the threshold.

13. Step on the tile across the brazier: After the bride enters the hall, she should step on the tile across the brazier.

14. Entering the bridal chamber: The newlyweds took the groom's trousers in advance and sat on the bench together, saying that they both wanted to have a boy in the future. No man is allowed into the bridal chamber. (Choose the time to enter the bridal chamber)

15. Don't bring a new bed: on the wedding day, no one can bring a new bed, and the bride can't lie down, so as not to be sick in bed all the year round. In addition, after going to bed, we should find an underage boy to sleep in bed with the groom until the eve of your's wedding.