Tibetan traditional tool patterns

Mainland friends may go sightseeing in Tibetan areas, including young people living in cities, and they will encounter taboos in communication, diet and behavior anytime and anywhere. If we understand and master these basic common sense, we will get different gains from others. Tibetan young people have a greater obligation to inherit these customs and civilizations.

(A) social etiquette

Banquets, conferences and other places where many people gather, the seating arrangement is exquisite. Generally, they are arranged by age, with the older ones above and the younger ones below. And so on. Men and women sit separately in the same order as men. If there is a living Buddha, even if he is only a few years old, he will be placed on the highest table, and everyone else present will bow their heads. There are also officials or important guests who come from afar, and they will not be arranged according to their age, but will generally be arranged in an important position. There may be no stools on some occasions, and people in agricultural and pastoral areas like to sit on the kang or on the floor, which is covered with carpets and blankets. Men generally sit cross-legged, and behave in a dignified manner to prevent them from staggering and looking around. Women should put their legs together, knees forward, feet under their thighs and take a kneeling position. Both men and women are not allowed to show their legs in public. Don't even scratch your feet. Be patient even if you feel uncomfortable. It is convenient to have a stool, but you should also be careful not to cross your legs or squat in a chair at will. When a long person or an important person enters the venue, people will consciously stand up, watch the guests sit down, and then sit in their seats.

1. interpersonal communication. When people meet for the first time, the way of greeting is no different. Just say hello to strangers. Acquaintances are much more casual. You can ask, "Where are you going so early?" "It's really cold today" and so on. Always find something to talk about when you start to get in touch. It is best to introduce yourself or your feelings. You can also ask each other's names and where they come from first, and then talk about the weather changes this year. Don't always ask each other what they usually do, what they eat, how many acres of land they have, how many livestock they have, and so on. Don't judge the quality of housing, diet and clothes at will, which will immediately arouse the other party's disgust. If we already have acquaintances in Tibetan areas, Tibetans are always joking, and it is inevitable that they will speak some humorous language, sometimes involving themselves or each other. They like to describe each other's behavior in an exaggerated way, and then make everyone laugh. Don't think this is a personal attack at this time, and don't get angry. You can also find the right words to respond to each other. If you really can't find the right one, then smile with everyone, giving people a warm and easy-going feeling. If people of the same sex are together, you don't have to be afraid to talk about sex-related topics. However, it must be noted that it is forbidden to talk about sexual relations between men and women between different sexes and relatives, especially in the presence of father and daughter, mother and son, brothers and sisters.

You can't step over or step on other people's clothes. If you find other people's clothes in your sitting or walking aisle, you should start to pick them up and put them in the right place, then sit or pass. You can't put socks and pants on other people's hats.

2. Dietary etiquette. At the banquet, it is inevitable to propose a toast and serve tea to persuade food. We can see the guests holding a small wine cup, touching the wine with their forefinger and bouncing it three times, which means to respect heaven, earth and people. Then drink it yourself. If you can't drink, you can politely decline. It is a misunderstanding that society says that "not drinking is unfriendly". Don't believe it. In some places, the host will personally pick up the food on the plate for the guests to eat. At this time, he should enthusiastically catch the food with both hands and then put it back. But in order to prevent picking with one hand, don't smell food with your nose, because the other person will think you are an uneducated person. Tibetans usually eat meat with knives, and all meat plates are equipped with knives. Most of the meat on the dining table is large pieces of meat with bones and joints removed. It is generally not easy to break the meat with bones (outside the frozen meat column) with an axe or machete. In this way, it is considered ugly to place, and it is important to insert bone fragments into the meat, which is not convenient to eat. When eating meat, use a knife and cut it into small pieces (be careful to cut it into your hand). Never grab a piece with your hands and bite it with your teeth. This is uncivilized and will also cause people to laugh. However, if you eat half-baked fresh blood sausage, that is another matter. We can grasp it directly with both hands and pinch both ends of the intestine with two fingers according to our food intake (to prevent the soup from flowing out of the clothes).

Pay attention to other details during eating, such as coughing, sneezing, wiping your nose, spitting or farting, and try to avoid food and people in front of you. It is also necessary to prevent food from being stuffed with your mouth and making indecent sounds when chewing. After dinner, we can use napkins or wash with water. (To be continued)