Sense of boundaries at work

The word "sense of boundaries" really got me thinking. I'm listening to an open class on storage and sorting.

On that day, a middle-aged female trainer with silver hair, a pearl necklace and a black flat-topped hat, dressed in fashionable clothes, passionately described to us the bright future and broad market demand of the warehousing and finishing industry through the screen. But for me, at first, I was more concerned about what dry goods she would teach us, such as wardrobes, shoe cabinets and even how to store them in each room. But after listening to her class, what impressed me the most was the idea that everything in the family has its boundaries. If we give every item a definite location, draw a good line and the whole family reaches an agreement, then the house will always be clean and tidy.

The sense of boundaries well summarizes the essence of storage and arrangement, but the sense of boundaries not only exists between objects, but also needs boundaries when people get along with each other, and the sense of boundaries can also be understood as discretion.

There are two main kinds of sense of boundaries in the workplace: between superiors and subordinates and between colleagues.

There needs to be a sense of boundaries between superiors and subordinates. No matter how competent the subordinates are, they should be modest and pay attention to their discretion in front of the leaders, otherwise they will make the leaders feel uncomfortable and will be excluded over time and become a thorn in the side of the leaders and colleagues.

A colleague, Xiao Li, has a strong working ability. When he first arrived at the company, the leaders attached great importance to him. Many important decisions are discussed with him, and his views are often adopted. Leaders often praise Xiao Li publicly. Slowly, Xiao Li felt that he was very powerful, and sometimes he was far-sighted and even irreplaceable than the leader. Once the leader arranged an important dinner, and he invited another person who didn't want to attend without asking the leader's consent. Embarrassed, the leader didn't know about it until he got to the scene.

Xiao Li gets along with leaders. If he doesn't grasp the proper boundaries, he will fail in the workplace. Leadership is leadership, even if some facilities are inferior to subordinates or even if you were brothers, once the relationship between superiors and subordinates is determined, you must find this boundary and don't cross it. Only in this way can we get along more harmoniously and for a longer time.

Of course, the sense of workplace boundary exists not only between superiors and subordinates, but also among colleagues, and the sense of boundary between colleagues is even more important than that between superiors and subordinates. Because there is only one direct leader, but many colleagues.

The relationship between colleagues, some close, some far, different degrees of relationship correspond to different boundaries. Even if you are close, you should pay attention to the boundaries of getting along. If you cross the line, you may be alienated by your colleagues and even leave a bad reputation.

There is a male colleague around me, who has not grasped the boundaries between colleagues and has been alienated by colleagues. Once, he borrowed money from a female colleague and said that he would pay it back the next day. But the next day, the lesbian incident message asked him if the reimbursement had arrived, and he replied "yes". And then it was gone. The female colleague had to take the initiative to ask him when to pay back the money. Male colleagues don't know if they are joking, so they just answer "no". It happened that the female colleague was very serious, so she said, "It's easy to borrow, but it's not difficult to borrow again."

This male colleague is probably joking. After all, it's only a few thousand dollars, and he won't default. However, he didn't grasp the boundary. Finally, word of mouth made his colleagues think that he was a person who borrowed money and didn't pay it back.

How to grasp the boundary with colleagues? The relationship between colleagues mainly exists in the working day, where we exchange work problems together, or talk about gossip at work after dinner. If it's closer, let's talk about family situation.

Usually, the relationship between superiors and subordinates or colleagues depends on the work content, and there is little contact after work or holidays. This kind of relationship, except for specific circumstances, such as after one party leaves his post, often has few follow-up contacts.

Therefore, when dealing with relationships at work, we should grasp the sense of proportion and pay attention to the boundaries.

Of course, in addition to the above two relationships, there are many relationships, such as customers, partners and so on, which have corresponding boundaries. On a larger scale, in addition to work, there are also relationships in life, family and school that need to be well defined.