Is it really a tradition of China people to urge marriage?

I chatted with a friend who went back to my hometown yesterday, WeChat. I knew that she had talked about a good boyfriend through blind date before, so I casually asked her if she wanted to go home with her this year to pay a New Year call. Who would have thought that the two had already broken up. So it is conceivable that my friend will be forced to get married again this Spring Festival. The other party wailed, "I have taken five pictures." Previous big data shows that more and more young people are resisting the bondage of marriage, and the marriage rate and fertility rate have hit record lows. But even so, for unmarried young men and women, urging marriage is still an unavoidable problem when they go home during the Spring Festival. My friend was born in 1995 and is 27 years old. When I was the other person's age, I also experienced many blind dates. Most blind date partners added WeChat without a few words, or came out to meet for a meal and died. Even after seeing the photos, I repeatedly refused the kindness of the introducer. The oppressive feeling brought by urging marriage during the Spring Festival may also be an important reason why more and more young relatives are unwilling to visit relatives and friends. Many people say that the dating agency with close ties at home is more "painful" than the sense of suffocation at work. The blind date link in each place is also very different. For example, in Shanghai, after the general introducer matches the bridge, the two sides add WeChat to each other and then communicate by themselves. My friend's blind date link is that the man visits the woman's house accompanied by his family, and then the two sides communicate simply under the witness of relatives. This picture is a bit embarrassing just to think about it. Strangely, in this era when free love is clearly advocated, why do so many people prefer the traditional marriage mode of blind date even if they are unwilling? Marriage, in the eyes of many people, is no longer a holy place for love and marriage, but a task to be completed. The friend mentioned earlier, I met a young man in this blind date. According to her description, the other person, including his appearance, is entirely in her aesthetic point. Hearing this, I am of course sincerely happy for my friend. I said that if it goes well, I can have her wedding reception next year. As a result, at the end of WeChat, my friend's voice gradually darkened, saying that if it goes well, I might get married this year. I can't help being surprised. After all, you must be careful about getting married. My friend explained that because of the breakup with her boyfriend, her mother is a little depressed now and has some problems with various functions, so she just wants to speed up the process in order not to worry about her anymore. Should we make do in marriage for our parents' choice? The parents of many friends around me have long been disappointed in their children. Instead of staring at their wedding events all day, it is better to go out to eat, drink and have fun together. Of course, many young people like this enlightened idea, but isn't it the helplessness of parents behind it? It is filial for a friend to compromise because he understands his mother's difficulties, but if he decides the marriage event too hastily, he will regret it for life in the future. Finally, I want to say to the uncles and aunts of the older generation that children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren. Marriage is not the only important event in life. Children are good enough to soar in many fields. I also want to tell those children who indulge their parents blindly that fate is wonderful, although it comes late. I chatted with a friend who went back to my hometown yesterday, WeChat. I knew that she had talked about a good boyfriend through blind date before, so I casually asked her if she wanted to go home with her this year to pay a New Year call. Who would have thought that the two had already broken up. So it is conceivable that my friend will be forced to get married again this Spring Festival. The other party wailed, "I have taken five pictures." Previous big data shows that more and more young people are resisting the bondage of marriage, and the marriage rate and fertility rate have hit record lows. But even so, for unmarried young men and women, urging marriage is still an unavoidable problem when they go home during the Spring Festival. My friend was born in 1995 and is 27 years old. When I was the other person's age, I also experienced many blind dates. Most blind date partners added WeChat without a few words, or came out to meet for a meal and died. Even after seeing the photos, I repeatedly refused the kindness of the introducer. The oppressive feeling brought by urging marriage during the Spring Festival may also be an important reason why more and more young relatives are unwilling to visit relatives and friends. Many people say that the dating agency with close ties at home is more "painful" than the sense of suffocation at work. The blind date link in each place is also very different. For example, in Shanghai, after the general introducer matches the bridge, the two sides add WeChat to each other and then communicate by themselves. My friend's blind date link is that the man visits the woman's house accompanied by his family, and then the two sides communicate simply under the witness of relatives. This picture is a bit embarrassing just to think about it. Strangely, in this era when free love is clearly advocated, why do so many people prefer the traditional marriage mode of blind date even if they are unwilling? Marriage, in the eyes of many people, is no longer a holy place for love and marriage, but a task to be completed. The friend mentioned earlier, I met a young man in this blind date. According to her description, the other person, including his appearance, is entirely in her aesthetic point. Hearing this, I am of course sincerely happy for my friend. I said that if it goes well, I can have her wedding reception next year. As a result, at the end of WeChat, my friend's voice gradually darkened, saying that if it goes well, I might get married this year. I can't help being surprised. After all, you must be careful about getting married. My friend explained that because of the breakup with her boyfriend, her mother is a little depressed now and has some problems with various functions, so she just wants to speed up the process in order not to worry about her anymore. Should we make do in marriage for our parents' choice? The parents of many friends around me have long been disappointed in their children. Instead of staring at their wedding events all day, it is better to go out to eat, drink and have fun together. Of course, many young people like this enlightened idea, but isn't it the helplessness of parents behind it? It is filial for a friend to compromise because he understands his mother's difficulties, but if he decides the marriage event too hastily, he will regret it for life in the future. Finally, I want to say to the uncles and aunts of the older generation that children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren. Marriage is not the only important event in life. Children are good enough to soar in many fields. I also want to tell those children who indulge their parents blindly that fate is wonderful, although it comes late.