What is real emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence refers to the individual's emotional intelligence, that is, the individual's ability to manage his own emotions and to recognize, unde

Emotional intelligence refers to the individual's emotional intelligence, that is, the individual's ability to manage his own emotions and to recognize, understand and respond to others' emotions. The following are my understanding and examples of real emotional intelligence:

1. Self-awareness and emotional management ability

The real EQ is first manifested in the individual's self-awareness and emotional management ability. This means that individuals can accurately identify their emotional state, understand their emotional reactions, and take appropriate measures to manage their emotions. For example, when a person feels angry or depressed, he can be aware of his emotional state and take some positive ways to relieve his emotions, such as walking, listening to music or communicating with friends.

2. Emotional identity and empathy

The real EQ is not only the individual's self-awareness and emotional management ability, but also the individual's emotional recognition and empathy ability. This means that individuals can accurately identify the emotional state of others, understand their emotional reactions, and take appropriate measures to deal with their own emotions. For example, when a person's friend feels depressed or lost, he can realize his friend's emotional state and take some positive ways to support and comfort his friend.

3. Social skills and conflict resolution skills

Finally, true EQ is also manifested in personal social skills and conflict resolution skills. This means that individuals can effectively communicate, cooperate and resolve conflicts with others. For example, when a person has differences or contradictions with colleagues or friends, he can take some positive ways to communicate and solve the problem, such as seeking compromise, understanding each other's positions and needs, and so on.

In a word, true EQ is a person's comprehensive emotional IQ, including self-awareness and emotional management ability, emotional identification and empathy ability, social ability and conflict resolution ability. The higher a person's EQ is, the more effectively he can manage his emotions and cope with others' emotions, so as to better adapt to society and life.