Only after job-hopping did I find that the original company was good, but was it a "good horse"?

Case 1: The future is more important than face. I left the company for half a year and came back. When I met my old colleague Salina, she began to think that I was revisiting my old place and politely went to get a disposable water cup to entertain me. When I told her that I came to work, not to be her boss, I saw that the glass in her hand was stagnant. With her embarrassed smile, I thought my expression was fake. Salina and I joined the company almost at the same time. At that time, the company just got a big project and was recruiting on a large scale. We both stand on the same side. The project manager is actually a salesperson with no employees. At that time, our boss came from Singapore and left our two sons there to work hard in Shanghai. The boss is very arrogant and always has a lot of dissatisfaction with us. His speech is half English and half "bird talk". Not to mention working overtime for free, and often being scolded. I am at least a professional counterpart with 3 years' experience. Don't say I was scolded by her just because she looked disdainful. I worked for this project and my boss for two years, but this project didn't make much profit. The longer the boss's face is pulled, the more "direct" he speaks. At the end of the year, I handed in my resignation letter with a poor bonus and thinking about my hopeless job in the coming year. When Salina found out, she angrily called me "out of my mind" and resigned without arranging a new job. She also called me for not telling her beforehand. I learned the face of "former boss" at that time: "I tell you, with such a boss, I don't want to stay in such a company for a day, and I have no money and no future." Salina agreed, but she is getting married and will not consider changing jobs for the time being. I remember saying something like "I won't come back once I leave this door". I didn't expect to come back again. I feel ashamed myself. After leaving the company, I went to a small company and I really became a manager. With my employees, I realized that the company is still quite good. The boss of the new company regards me as a talent, but the business of the company is small and the interpersonal relationship is very complicated. It is said that many people in the company have unpredictable backgrounds. The company treats them as grandfathers and dares not offend them. There are few people working, and they are often criticized by the living. I can't help but think of the advantages of my previous company: my previous company was very famous in the industry, with good income and benefits. Although the boss is not easy to get along with, the company has a sound system and relatively systematic management. In a small company, spending every day on trivial things can be boring to death. Just when I was gradually disappointed with the small company, I met the regional manager of the original company at an industry exhibition. He told me that many people left after I left, and the Singaporean lady had returned to China. Now the head office has many investment plans in Shanghai and is short of manpower. Please let me go back to the company. I know that a good horse never returns to the grass, but I think it is a small matter of humiliation and a great development of my personal career, not to mention that my position can be promoted after returning to my original company. But the situation is not as simple as I thought. The friendship with Salina not only no longer exists, although there are not many old employees in the company, but soon almost everyone knows that I left the company and returned to the company. Once, I heard my men say privately, "I'll go out and come back, so I don't want it." I don't think Iraq has any skills, otherwise, how could it come back here? Quite thick. " My eyes are dizzy. In fact, I have found that managers often assign some unimportant tasks to me when assigning tasks. Does this mean that he doesn't trust me? But at this point, I am in a dilemma. I can only bite the bullet. Case 2 wants to turn back, but what about the opportunity? I am in my forties and once worked as a director in a state-owned enterprise. I felt very good about myself at that time. I studied in America for three years, so English is a cinch. My boss asked me to be a translator when talking about projects with foreign businessmen, and I was indispensable for writing English plans. I have been in the company for five years. I can say that my work is not heavy and my income is not low. I feel quite good. My annual salary is 200,000. I have planned to retire in this company. Then it didn't last long, and I got a new boss. The new boss wants to adjust several English professionals in the department, so I don't have to participate any more. The company will put me in charge of a lot of logistics. I blew up as soon as I heard it. I rushed to the general manager's office to express my opposition to the company's decision. I can only say that it felt so good at that time. I thought I was meritorious to the company, with qualifications and interpersonal relationships, and a new general manager dared not take anything from me. I didn't expect the general manager to strike the table: "Do you need your consent to implement the overall arrangement of the company? This is a decision. You are willing to accept, you accept. If you don't want to accept it, leave. " At this point, no way back. I submitted my resignation letter. At that time, many colleagues were envious of my car-scrapping. A friend greeted the general manager for me, but the general manager later breathed a sigh of relief and said that he could keep me as long as he accepted the arrangement of the company. I don't think it's a problem to find a job by myself, so I refuse to bow to the general manager. But I didn't expect it to be so difficult to find a new job. I used to work in a small industry with few peer companies. When applying for a job, the employer either thinks I am old or knows the reason why I left my original company. I have repeatedly hit a wall for three months, which completely destroyed my self-confidence. A colleague called to ask about me. I was worried at first, saying that several opportunities were being weighed, and then I asked them to introduce me to job opportunities. A colleague said, "You'd better put in a good word with the general manager and go back to your original company." Hearing this, my heart moved. I don't know if the general manager is willing to consider it. Let her say hello to the general manager first. I know it's hard to face, but now I really realize the "benevolence" of the original company. I am eagerly waiting for my colleague's reply. A week later, I called my colleague, who faltered and said that the general manager said that he would not take in the abandoned general. Those who go out can't come back. My hopes were dashed, and my heart was filled with regret. Case Analysis "Good Horse" needs to be cautious. Expert: Jane Wise, Senior Vice President of Worry-Free Human Resources Service Company, "Good Horse doesn't eat grass back" means that a group of horses compete to eat grass on the grass, and only when their competitiveness is weak and they can't beat other horses will they eat grass back. Therefore, in China people's mentality, there are two meanings: First, there is no face. If I know today, why should I know? Second, it is considered that talents are limited and it is difficult to convince the public. A recent survey on this attitude found that 40% people think it is not appropriate to go back even if the original company really wants him to go back. Mainly because others can understand their repeated choices, but they can't forgive themselves. In addition, the new company accepted itself and then jumped back. Although free to come and go, what do new and old companies think of their own personality? Now I'm in a new company, and I'm trying to make new achievements. If you are really dissatisfied with this company, then choose another new company. The original company will definitely not go back and can't afford to lose people. However, if the only reason that makes you hesitate is that the concept of "a good horse doesn't eat grass again" is at work, and people feel that they left resolutely at the beginning and now they have no face, then it is unnecessary. Nowadays, people know job-hopping, the market is changing, and the road of enterprise development and personal development is also tortuous. Even if the original choice was a mistake, it was not a big mistake in principle. In fact, if we consider the profit, those employees who return to the company will work harder than before and cherish this regained job opportunity more. In many cases, how to treat the employees who have left the company is not only the embodiment of corporate culture, but also the consideration of benefit and efficiency: a person who is familiar with corporate environment, workflow and corporate culture will be more likely to enter the role. More importantly, the former employee's decision to return to the "old employer" was made after careful consideration, which objectively guaranteed his will and efforts. Many enterprises in Europe and America regard "job-hopping employees" as valuable resources. Many people in the workplace have had this experience: their former employers suddenly called them and told them that the enterprise urgently needed their ability and experience, and even said that "the enterprise can't live without you" and hoped that they could "return to their hometown". Faced with this compliment, there are indeed many people who make the decision that "I have to go back and save them". More and more domestic enterprises gradually realize that leaving employees is a fortune. The "return" of talents is also an incentive for on-the-job employees to take greater initiative in human resource management. Personally, my opinion is that a "good horse" needs to be cautious when turning back. First of all, is it an objective condition or a subjective reason for you to leave the enterprise? If it is an objective reason, then whether these conditions have changed, whether they will return to their original posts, whether they are the same as before, and whether they have the psychological endurance to bear the comments and possible setbacks behind their colleagues are the basic conditions for deciding to turn back. Secondly, is there really no future for the new enterprise, or is it a misunderstanding? The difference between the two enterprises is mainly due to the remuneration and income, or the environment for successful career. If it is the former, you'd better be cautious, because the pursuit of material benefits is infinite, and colleagues in the original enterprise will also have a view of "mercenary" for you; If it is the latter, it may be understood. According to the survey results of carefree future, some good horses who want to go back to grass are also facing difficulties. Relevant experts remind people who want to go back to grass like this: "Before giving in to vanity and heroism, you must remind yourself that this is a company you are trying to leave, especially considering whether to accept this job from the perspective of your career development." Once a person leaves a place, he often forgets the bad things there and just wants to remember the good things. Therefore, in order to get rid of the illusion caused by familiarity with the environment, before making a decision, you should at least communicate with the employees of the original company to understand some new changes that have taken place in the company since you left, such as the new adjustment of organizational structure and how to play your new skills when you go back. For example, a few years ago, many talents jumped from traditional, slow-developing large-scale media to emerging, network-based media, and returned to traditional media after experiencing the low tide of industry and enterprise development.