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The whole process has three major stages: climbing relatives, betrothal, marriage.

One of the three stages of the process is the marriage ceremony.

The man asked his friends and relatives in a person for their own adult man "said marriage", the "said marriage" person is called "matchmaker". The male matchmaker is called "Zhou Gong" and the female matchmaker is called "Matchmaker".

The matchmaker and the woman's parents are at least familiar with each other, and they are the ones who "get along". First, they explain their intentions and tell the

man's family (property, population, and the man's character), and then, if the woman agrees, they write the "eight characters" (a test of the "eight characters" can tell you about your future destiny).

"Bazi" has a fixed content and format, the woman's age is not more than sixteen called "flower girl", beyond sixteen called "Kunzao". "Eight" posted for the size of the red envelope, brush vertical book, the number of words must be a double, every single is added at the end of a "lucky" word. If the woman does not agree, then find an excuse to reject.

Matchmaker booked to the "eight" to the male side, the male family will be "eight" pressed under the incense burner, after a period of time, such as peace in the home, it is believed that the girl's life, such as the family has not been good, it is believed that the girl's life is not good, and then return the "eight". The "eight characters".

There is usually no problem with the fate of the "eight characters". But "with eight characters" (two people's birth year, month and day of each row of eight characters with each other) by the fortune-telling blind say, with a good match is a success, with a bad match is returned. "Eight characters" back, the two sides do not publicize, keep each other secret to prevent others from ridicule.

Two, betrothal.

"Eight characters" after the match, the two families even climbed the pro, after a period of time, the man chose an auspicious date, the matchmaker will be engaged to preview the date of the woman, and to seek the woman's views on the engagement gift.

Engagement day male by the matchmaker will be engaged gifts (clothing, food, etc.) sent to the woman, the woman invited friends and relatives to accompany the table, entertaining the male and return gifts (shoes and hats, etc.), so that the two sides of the family and friends are aware of the affair is open, the engagement is complete.

Three, marriage.

The marriage program is very complex, before and after *** there are twenty basic procedures.

1, look at the age. That is to ask the blind fortune-teller to choose the day of marriage.

Folk believe that May is the "poisonous month", July is the "ghost month", therefore, the first half of the wedding date

always in the first month to April, the second half of the total in August to the waxing of the month.

2, communication. Also known as the "next book", "next gift".

The year is selected, the man wrote a "red book", prepare a table of food, sent by the matchmaker to the woman's home, officially

inform the date of the marriage, and delivery of the "red book" and gifts, gifts.

The content and format of the "red book" is also fixed: the cover book four-character couplets, such as "Zhu Chen Jie

good, Qin Jin marriage", "Zhu Lianjie Bijie, Hua Hao Yueyuan " and so on. Inside the book: "add marriage spring XXX (male father's name) Duansu Tengshou worship" and other chants. And then, the woman opened the gift list.

The content of the gift list is roughly: gift money (do dowry), "seal" (happy money), dowry class, jewelry, cosmetics, food (including tobacco and alcohol), but also the mother's mat and so on. If the man thinks that the woman's gift list is too heavy, the matchmaker will offer a discount, called "deducting money", and if the woman continues to increase the gift list, it is called "raising the estimate". "Rise estimate" is rare, "buckle money" often.

3. Preparing for marriage. The female side for the preparation of the wedding busy, its wooden utensils East Township is generally to go to Zhenjiang or Bao Yan purchase

Place the finished product, South Township, most of the good craftsmen to build. Wedding dresses please tailor-made, tent flowers, pillow flowers, shoes, flowers by the girl to be married to embroider their own.

4, please marry. Before the marriage of the girl's relatives and neighbors invited the girl to dinner, for the girl to be married farewell.

5, take dowry. The day before the marriage, the man sent to the woman to take the dowry, the matchmaker rate line, the number of people

double, the money listed on the list of gifts to the woman, the woman set up a banquet hospitality. If the woman finds that the actual gifts are not enough, she will make a request to make up for it, otherwise the dowry will not be issued.

Dowry after lunch, the dowry are: boxes, cabinets, floors, tables and stools, pots, measurements, performance of hemp barrels, toilets, needle and thread plaques, copper lamps, copper teapots, copper stoves, mirrors and boxes, blankets, pillows, tents, clothing and so on. One of the mirror box and the toilet is not issued on the day, the next day before the bride on the sedan chair by the female party to send someone special.

6, the pressure of the bed. In the old days, the new bed is a wooden bed in front of the floor above the ground, the face of the bed

up and down the right and left panels are carved patterns, commonly known as "flower plate bed", the first night of marriage, the male party asked one or three parents to sleep with the groom for one night, called "pressure bed". The first night of the marriage, the male party asked one or three children of both parents to sleep with the groom for one night, which was called "press the bed". In the four corners of the mattress under the master of the pre-positioned candy and cooked eggs, who found it to who.

7, sedan chair marriage. Carrying the sedan chair must be four "boy" (unmarried), must be "fresh mother

fresh master", that is, both parents, and is the biological parents.

The matchmaker who leads the sedan chair must be a man, and if the matchmaker is a woman, she is replaced by her husband or son. When the sedan chair goes out

the number of people in the sedan chair is odd, and when it returns, the bride is added to make an even number.

The sedan chair team members: matchmaker, sedan chair four people, two gongs to open the way two people, cannon two people, blowing hand four to five people, lanterns two to four people, playing the flag two to four people, torches two people, tube sedan chair a person. When the sedan chair returns, it does not go the same way.

8, "small open door", "big open door". Sedan chair into the women's village boundaries, the cannon preview, the women's side of the bolt on the door, the sedan chair was rejected outside the door, the matchmaker shouted the door, the door of the people ordered to be happy sugar, happy cigarettes, happy money, bargaining, plus or minus, often have to be tossed for half an hour long, until the gatekeepers are satisfied with the party opened the door to meet the guests, this is a "small open door".

After entering the house host hospitality, in addition to smoking tea and pastries, there are sweet soup, cooked eggs, commonly known as "three-way tea". At this time the matchmaker will be happy money red envelope to the host, this is the "big open door", sometimes the matchmaker will be privately cut off part of the happy money (allowed by customary rules), such as excessive, there will be disputes between the main media and even quarrel, folk known as "noisy hair noisy hair," not to hurt the elegance.

9, the bride on the sedan chair. The bride did not get up that morning, before the sedan chair in the elders gave the money to get up

Party to get up, which is called to count the "get up money".

The same day at noon, the female party hosted a banquet for male guests, in order to catch up with the male party to repeatedly sound the gongs and cannons "catalyze

Palanquinquinquinas".

To be the bride on the sedan chair before the empty sedan chair to the front of the hall, the female side of a person holding a red candle in the sedan chair up and down to shine once again, known as the "shine sedan chair" (folk sedan chair as a "funeral door", rather than auspicious, so to drive away evil spirits).

The bride on the sedan chair when the soles of shoes can not be stained with dust, in order to prevent take away the wealth, generally by the bride's father or brother to hold on the sedan chair.

The bride's mother or sister-in-law after the palanquin to "cry palanquin": one is to express to the daughter of the guilt, the daughter did not eat well at home, wear good, but also for the family to do a lot of things for more than a decade of mothers and daughters to spend time together, it is difficult to part with, and so on. The second is to tell the daughter to the husband's home to abide by the way of women, filial piety and respect for in-laws, considerate of her husband, sister-in-laws and sisters-in-law to live in harmony, to be the glory of the mother's family and so on.

The bride sat in the sedan chair, cover the top of the sedan chair, hang up the sedan chair, lock the door, tie up the sedan chair, sedan chair on the shoulder

will be line, the female family one person to a bowl of water, the bowl on the mouth of the put a chopper, and then will be splashed with a bowl of water in front of the door, which is the folk "married out of the girl splashed out of the water" of the proverbial girl married to the husband's family, is good or bad. is the husband's family, at least have to live a lifetime, can not be "back to the furnace", the knife is to cut off the meaning of the retreat, encourage the girl to work hard to strive for excellence, not to be repatriated by the husband's family because of the error.

10, send son bucket. The woman asked two people will be toilet and mirror box (toilet with red eggs, red

jujube, red peanuts, etc., mirror box containing mirrors, combs, comb, grate, rouge, pollen, etc.) to send to the male side, must be in the male sedan chair into the village before leaving the male family, the way to meet must be detoured to avoid. The male party set up a small banquet to entertain the barrel people, and there are happy money and rice dumplings to thank.

11, the sedan chair makeup. Bridal sedan chair taboo certain phases of the genus, the presence of those who are jealous of consciously leave. Sedan chair door open, a girl to a cup of red water, the square head of a chopstick split horizontally and vertically, dipped in red water in the bride's face according to the order of the upper left and right under the point of watermarks, while pointing and saying:

One point of the makeup of a long life of wealth, two points of the makeup of gold and jade.

Three-point makeup three yuan and the first, four-point makeup four times as expected.

Five o'clock make-up for five sons, six o'clock make-up for six roads.

Seven o'clock make-up for the reunion of the seven sons, eight o'clock make-up for the gods of the eight caves.

Nine dots of makeup for nine generations, ten dots of makeup for generations of good luck.

After the end of the makeup, the bridesmaids carry a basket containing an axe ("generation of axe" harmonic "generation of rich", that is, generation after generation of rich), a bunch of cypress (longevity), a tree (husband and wife a hundred years of good luck, the evergreen), handed over to the bride.

There are two ways for the bride to get out of the sedan chair, one is the groom will carry the bride directly into the bridal chamber; the second is to assist the sedan chair, prepare a pair of large size shoes for the bride to wear, assisted by the bridesmaids into the bridal chamber.

12, sitting rich. Bride and groom and sit on the edge of the bed, the bridesmaids handed two cups of sweet water, two dumplings, eat dumplings, drink sweet water, meaning that couples love sweet reunion.

13, worship. The main hall and put two eight immortal table, the table put cakes, incense and candles, under the table spread a new mat, the mat on a new quilt (folded into a rectangle), the bride and groom kneeling, first to the outside to worship heaven and earth, and then to the inside to worship the family hall (God), the local custom of worship worship worship (blessing), but not to worship the parents, couples do not pay tribute to.

14, rolling groom. Pass the wine, send room dishes on the table, the groom on the seat, cousins accompany

sitting, and light the candles, while pointing to say happy words, such as: "Candle take up, everyone is happy, the red paper unsealed, the children and grandchildren." The candles are not only for the purpose of the ceremony, but also for the purpose of the ceremony." "Candle tip to candle tip, wealth and prosperity for ten thousand years, candle head to candle head, generations out of the lords." The couple will love each other for a hundred years.

This glass of wine is to the earth, the time is right, the people are as they wish,

Marrying the bride is a great joy, happy and perfect together.

This glass of wine is full of joy, the groom holds a glass of wine to honor his father,

Father drank the wine in the glass, son and daughter-in-law are really happy.

This glass of wine is full of joy, the groom holds a glass of wine to his mother,

The mother drinks the wine in the glass, and her mouth is always smiling and happy.

One cup of wine is full of plum blossoms, the Tang Emperor is playing Chang'e in the Moon Palace,

Guo Lao rides on a donkey to congratulate the bridegroom, and the son of the bridegroom is enrolled in the university.

The second cup of wine is full of apricot blossoms, Shan Bo is in love with Zhu Yingtai,

Dongbin is holding a sword and the God of Wealth has arrived, and Zhang Xian has sent his son to the door.

Three cups of wine and peach blossoms, Zhengde (Ming Wuzong) hotel play luanfeng,

The fairy goddess lotus flower fragrance overflowing, the heavenly gift of the jade girl with a golden boy.

Four cups of wine, rosebuds, Wushan Goddess play Huan Wang,

Zhongli shook the fan of the fairy wind down, luan and phoenix and music music new room.

Five cups of wine and pomegranate, the golden dragon is the only one who occupies the jade hall,

Uncle of State holds the Yunyang board, a song of love to congratulate the new couple.

Six cups of wine and lotus blossom, the golden lotus molests Uncle Wu Sung,

The treasure comes out from the basket of Caihe, and the newlyweds bring the whole family happiness.

Seven cups of wine with fresh diamonds, the dragon maiden lost her temper to play with the white lotus,

Xiangzi's blowjob comes to congratulate the happy couple, the talented couple and the beautiful woman are sweet and honey.

Eight cups of wine with the fragrance of osmanthus, Xu Xian met the White Maiden,

The iron crutch gourd poured the immortal wine, and the couple loved each other for a long time.

After the handing over of the wine, the groom is sent to the bridal chamber, and the bride and groom drink the cup of wine together.

Next is the "irrigation Lun", that is, the rice wheat melon seeds and other things into the bride's collar inside, and there are words of joy: irrigation Lun irrigation more than the wedding night happy, irrigation Lun irrigation full, gave birth to a son as a big official.

Followed by the "spread tent", peanuts, melon seeds, rice and wheat, etc. to the tent to throw, and there is a spread tent song:

Spread the tent east, like the Wushan twelve peaks, a heart of peace into the Taoyuan Cave, picked flowers a little red.

Spreading the tent west, like the flowers bloomed in the branches, the son of the return to the home day, the peach is knotted at an early age.

South of the tent, five-colored clouds on the upper end of the house, the blessing from heaven has the blessing of the Holy Spirit, Huafeng three blessings to celebrate more men.

Spreading the tent to the north, snowflakes look like white flakes, willow flakes because of the wind to spread a good story, Susanna Tao is the only one who has the whole family music.

Venus and silver stars fill the sky, sending the room to the happy announcement of a great success, all friends and relatives please exit, the bride and groom accompanied by flowers

Candle. The people exit, the end of the room (Jurong dialect: North, color, music, out, candle, all rhyme.)

The end of the nightmare is over.

15, open the table. Many friends and relatives, the banquet to set up more than a dozen tables, not enough room in their own homes can be borrowed from the neighbors

Opening, the first one can not open, you can wait for the first one after the end of the second one to continue to open the folk known as the "flow

Water Seat".

Sitting is very delicate, especially "new relatives" seat (maternal guests), in accordance with the new relatives of the seniority peer companion, if the companion arrangements are not appropriate, the new relatives will blame the host family, or even make a scene, there is a lack of suitable companion must be explained in advance and the new relatives of the family, with the consent of the new relatives to coordinate and solve the problem.

Next is the "point seat", "point seat" is to designate a person to sit in a certain seat a seat, seat level there are high and low, the seat is also divided into up and down the size of the point seat can not be wrong, it must be in line with the rules, to be leveled, otherwise it will also lead to conflict. "Point seat" mainly for the new relatives and old relatives of the elders, if the smooth, point seat is completed, the guests into the seat, can be opened.

Seat the new relatives to send a representative accompanied by the male party, with happy cigarettes, candy to the cooking cook thank you kitchen, the master of the male side of the table to toast to the new relatives and friends and relatives, the groomsmen in the Zhougong (matchmaker) under the leadership of the bride to toast to the new relatives and all the friends and relatives, the bride does not come to the table by the bridesmaids will be sent to the new room meals.

16, will kiss. After the new bride ate the banquet, the host invited the new bride and the old bride in the elders to meet, the new

bride also participated in the matchmaker will be introduced to the old bride, and then the old bride to the new bride to recognize each other, this link is known as the "will be kissed". At this moment, the female parents usually modestly claim that their daughters are young and uninformed, and hope that the in-laws more guidance, as a daughter, the male parents ask the female in-laws to rest assured that the words after the end of the meeting kisses. The new bride will leave immediately. Even if it is late and the road is far, the new bride must go home, never stay in the male party.

17, in-laws. After the new relatives began to make in-laws (new relatives did not go can not be made), the main problem in-laws,

family and friends to find a broken straw hat and ash rake so that the eunuch with a hat to carry a rake, with the bottom of the pot black ash smeared on the face of the eunuch

and will be forced to push into the new room, this time the eunuch scandalous, attracted the crowd of friends and family hilarious.

However

However the eunuch can not be angry, folk custom, big happy big, haunted hair haunted hair, the so-called "three days without young and old", how to haunt are not taboo.

18, the bride open face. The next morning, please come to the experienced women for the bride "open face". First in the bride's face, neck powder, and then two cross each other with a fine line, in the bride's face stranded, stranded face and neck hairs, trimming sideburns, trimming eyebrows, which is called "open face", folk commonly known as "stranded face".

19, one month after the wedding is not empty. A month after the marriage of the bride shall not rest outside, even if it is "back to

door", but also must be rushed back to the in-laws before sunset on the same day.

"Back to the door" is the next day after the wedding, the bridegroom took the bride back to her mother's home, the mother's family hosted a banquet for the new aunt, the bride and parents talk about the heart, and in the afternoon the couple said goodbye and went home.

20, thank the matchmaker. Ten days and a half months after the wedding to choose an auspicious day, the couple with joss sticks, firecrackers, and gifts, to the matchmaker's home to thank the matchmaker, gifts, including socks, date packets, sugar packets, cakes plus money, the matchmaker to host a banquet.

As the saying goes, "the newcomer enters the room, the matchmaker puts over the wall", but not in the local area, the young couple for three consecutive years of the New Year's head to give the matchmaker to send packets of New Year's Eve to show gratitude to the matchmaker's gift.

In addition to the rural "point of makeup", "rolling groom", "handing wine", "spread tent" has not been In rural areas, in addition to the "point makeup", "rolling groom", "handing wine", "spread tent" has not been popular, the rest of the links are basically retained, only some links have been simplified. In the city to get married, the program has changed greatly, do wine into the Grand Hotel, not at home to set up a feast, the wedding banquet using a combination of Chinese and Western forms, many of the traditional links have been omitted.