The custom of dowry and gift giving

Lead: Generally speaking, most things a woman marries are soft. Now it is more common for men and women to discuss and buy what they need according to the ability of each party. Generally speaking, the man will buy and decorate the house, such as furniture and bedding, and the man will buy it. In ancient times, there were maids.

Marriage is a lifetime thing, and we all hope to win a good prize in many things, so that at least we will feel at ease when we get married in the past. There are various dowry customs in all parts of China. In the past, when a woman got married, her parents would send many far-reaching dowry products. So what is the significance of these dowry products?

The following are some introductions to this problem: First of all, wearing wedding jewelry should mainly take its good meaning, because they have believed that wearing jewelry can bring good luck to people since ancient times. Secondly, I hope I can become the focus of attention at the wedding through jewelry and bloom the most beautiful moment of my life.

Among many kinds of jewelry, wedding jewelry is mainly concentrated in three kinds.

pearl

Pearl is? Are you happy? Represents jewelry. Pearl culture has a long history, regardless of eastern and western myths and legends, it is regarded as an auspicious treasure. Royal families, politicians and celebrities from ancient times to the present all regard pearls as a symbol of nobility and elegance. It is also a custom in China since ancient times to send pearl jewelry for weddings. Perfect? 、? Perfect match? .

Therefore, people hope that by sending pearls and wearing pearls, they can expect a round and perfect head. Round and smooth pearls not only represent perfection, but also mean that love, like the birth of pearls, went through an unforgettable process before reaching the marriage hall, which means that their love crystallized into a beautiful pearl after tolerance and running-in, and it is more meaningful to cherish and care for each other in the extension.

diamond

With help? Diamonds last forever, and one lasts forever? Diamonds are becoming more and more accepted as an expression? Dragon? Jewelry and affection.

golden

In the traditional wedding ceremony in China, both parents will give the bride a pair of dragon and phoenix bracelets. Dragon and phoenix bracelets are auspicious, and love is like oxygen, which is also a moral? Love is better than gold? .

The custom of giving dowry to China's daughter when she gets married.

A dowry is a gift. When a daughter gets married, she must first prepare a dowry. It is popular in some areas of Han nationality in modern times. Dowry is provided by the woman and can be divided into bedding, decoration, daily use and other items. Because the world regards dowry as the bride's identity, ordinary people have to spend all their money to arrange big events in order to compete for dignity. Most dowry items are clothes, mosquito nets, quilts, bathtubs, footbath, washbasin (frame), buckets, wooden cases, wooden cabinets, drawer tables, big tables and chairs, small tables and chairs, braziers, charcoal, tea sets and tableware. And many of them can reach elevators above ten floors. In order to enrich the display, 2 ~ 4 people will bring large pieces, and 2 people will bring small pieces together.

Due to the large number of people, the team is huge and spectacular. Many rich families have people who accompany Tian to accompany the mountain. There is also a custom in poor families. The man prepares a part of the dowry, quietly sends it to the woman's house in advance, and brings it back to the man's house together on the day of the ceremony. Due to the rich dowry, what are the folk customs? Give birth to a house full of empty girls? Said.

In the old Beijing area, after receiving the wedding gift from the man's family, the woman's family divided the dragon and phoenix wedding cakes and refreshments into several portions, put them in boxes, and gave them to the close relatives such as seven aunts and eight aunts in a friendly way, informing them of the date of the dowry and expressing their invitation. For ordinary friends, just send an invitation.

Write:? Really honored? Year? Month? For a little girl? Would you please come back when you get back? Equal language. Anyone who receives gifts or invitations should give some gifts and buy some dowry for girls, such as clothes, jewelry or shoes and socks. What is this called? Fill the box? . Some also give some red envelopes as gifts. A letter? Respect? Yuan? .

When a woman marries, she must marry him. There are many names, and her wealth changes with the wealth of her family. 1June, 924, Mr. Gu Jiegang published an article in the Weekly Ballad of Peking University, listing a wedding in Suzhou in the 15th year of Guangxu (1889). Eyes? There are copper, tin, porcelain, teeth, bamboo, wood and other utensils. According to rough statistics, there are 4 boxes, 24 pieces of bronzes such as pots, foot stoves and tea stoves, 4/kloc-0 pieces of tin utensils such as soup cups, flagons and tea bottles, 135 pieces of porcelain such as tea bowls, large pots and soup bowls, and 5/kloc-0 pieces of wood such as cabinets, dressing tables and bath barrels.

Did the woman marry him in Tianmen, Hubei Province? A class and a room? The rule is that the furniture in the hall and bridal chamber is accompanied by the woman, while the gift from the man's house is important? Whole pig and whole lamb? . So? A class and a room? 、? Whole pig and whole lamb? It has become the standard of gifts and dowry for local well-off families. In Jingshan area, in addition to household items, windmills, waterwheels, hoes, sickles, rakes and other farm tools are also very popular. In public security and other places, there must be eight big chairs in the dowry and put them in the main room to show the style of the bride's family.

Suizhou custom, dowry has three, four and five heads. Everything is even, everything is household goods. Zhuxi area is divided into three, four, eight or even twenty-four lifts. Is there one locally? Eight pigs, eight sheep and eight dowries for girls? Proverbs spread.

After the founding of New China (1949), the traditional concept and custom of valuing dowry have not changed much. However, in the 1950s and 1960s, the supply of materials was extremely tight and the conditions were poor, and many institutions and institutions implemented the supply system. Bridal gift? 、? Dowry? I can't think about it. Often two single beds get married together. Even in rural areas, most young men and women do not deliberately pursue material conditions, but have the most basic daily necessities.

The dowry is still paid by the girl's family, but the girl has saved a lot of income for her family through her own labor for many years. If the bride has a fixed salary in a state-owned enterprise or commune, she will spend most of her salary on dowry with the consent of her parents. In ordinary workers or peasant families, the content and quantity of dowry are similar to the prevailing standards in the Republic of China, mainly personal necessities. But everything must be new and packed in two wooden cases. ? Dowry? It has become synonymous with the material preparation made by both men and women to build a small family life after marriage.

In the 1970s, things improved. Although some goods in short supply are still supplied by tickets, they have begun to enter the homes of ordinary people. With the continuous improvement of people's living standards, the traditional atmosphere of heavy dowry has begun to rise again. ? Eyes? It is the most direct representation of the living standard of an era. Really? Three turns and one ring. Thirty-six feet To get married and start a family, you should prepare bicycles, sewing machines, watches and radios. Three turns and one ring? , but also to prepare a double bed, wardrobe, wardrobe, bedside table, dresser, writing desk, square table and four chairs, these furniture always have 36 legs, the so-called? 36 feet? .

Do you pay attention to dowry even in rural areas in the suburbs of Beijing? Eight legs? This refers to the wardrobe and chest of drawers. In addition, there are televisions, refrigerators, bicycles, clocks, watches, electric fans, tableware, vases, porcelain tea sets, tablecloths, glasses, cosmetics, boxes of clothes and so on. In this case, the man's family gave her some gifts in advance, which made it possible for her to buy these dowry that looked rich in the countryside in advance.

Mr. Chen, a folklorist, attended the wedding of a relative and friend in the suburbs of Shanghai three times. 1979 marry a woman, the rural economy has just recovered, and it is necessary to marry a woman 1500 yuan; There are bicycles, sewing machines, six quilts and other bedding. The second daughter 198 1 spent 3000 to 4000 yuan when she got married. When the third daughter 1984 got married, she had a wardrobe, a chest of drawers, a sofa, a bicycle, an electric fan, a washing machine, a TV set, ten colorful quilts, two duvets and other bedding.

The dowry is in the hall, and there are two rooms in it. It is said that because the TV set is black and white, married women put a considerable sum of money in their lockers. The matter was lively in the local area for several days, and the record was quickly broken. A daughter who sells onion and ginger got married, called two taxis from downtown, crossed the Huangpu River and took a ride in the villages and towns. The banquet lasted for three days and nights, and the dowry quilt was 24 beds. You know, this is not a family recruiting a son-in-law, and the ostentation and extravagance of the men's family has not been counted.

In all dowry in some areas of Zhejiang and Hangzhou, a red painted toilet is essential, almost the first. What's the name of the toilet? Children's bucket? Obviously, the toilet is a symbol because it is often close to the reproductive organs, and because it is barrel-shaped, similar to a woman's reproductive organs and production channels. Put dates, peanuts, longan, chestnuts and lychees in the toilet. Have a baby early? 、? Five sons admitted to the department? Some people also put five red eggs in the toilet? Five sons admitted to the department? Meaning. Send? Children's bucket? Not only do I wish my family a child as soon as possible, but my relatives and friends who haven't had children for a long time can also ask my master for it? Children's bucket? Eat red eggs and pistachios in a bowl. It is said that eating it will make you happy soon and give birth to a boy.

In many places, the customary dowry can't be called out? Send? , avoid? The goods delivered to your door are worthless? This taboo, so commonly known as it? Dowry? . Dowry is the best time to show the elegance of a woman's family, so it is popular everywhere to make public and show off. Bright dowry? Some places say, this custom? Put on airs

The dowry scene in Guangdong is extremely hot, luxurious, ostentatious and complicated. The day before the wedding, the woman's family will send the dowry to the man's family, and the dowry will be paid by the man's family. Move the dowry? . Give a gift to the rich and powerful, and write it on a big lantern? From the government? Or? Fu Shuangxi? If not, hire a maid from a etiquette shop and tie all the brides with red ropes, or put them in the lower cabinet (just like a square table), or put them in a box, or carry them or lift them. The bride's dowry is everything from the furniture, bedding, wardrobe, kitchen utensils, toiletries and incense table tin in the hall. What is unique is that the person who marries him has a "Etiquette Record", which lists all the things he marries one by one to show caution and is not afraid of triviality.

When a man receives a dowry, he should check the records of the documents and must return a copy? Dear Chu, Yu's son-in-law worship? A red invitation, which says. The Book of Documents is covered with silk, the first two pages are covered with golden red paper, and the rest pages are printed with gold thread on red paper. The first two pages usually say? Chai Jing skirt cloth? Or? Jingbu family style? Four words. Then there are categories: tinware, silverware, household goods, ancient embroidery, glass, vases, mirrors, clocks and watches, boxes, bedding, sanitary ware and so on. There are also deeds, deeds, pawnbrokers and maids. Small families also have food baskets, rice baskets, lunch boxes, knives and scissors, scales and so on.

In Jinhua and Yoichi Higashi, Zhejiang, dowry is paid on the wedding day. One happy morning, the bride's family moved all the dowries to the yard one by one, from wooden furniture to bamboo products, from daily necessities to household appliances, all tied with red silk, with pine and cypress, evergreen, red and green pieces of paper on it, tied into shoulders, lined up, and then set off firecrackers. Hearing this, the villagers came to watch the comments one after another, which was very lively. It's auspicious time. The matchmaker led the makeup team sent by the man's family and entrusted her to the man's family first? Give the woman a red envelope, pay for cooking, boiling water, combing her hair, sending beggars away, and then send gifts such as pig hearts and red candles. At this time, the woman raised firecrackers, let the dowry be set off and sent to the man's house.

Interestingly, the matchmaker has to carry a few bamboos on his shoulders. What is this called? Children and grandchildren bamboo? Set off firecrackers all the way in front of the guide and walked cheerfully to the man's house. In Huzhou area, the woman's family sends a dowry to the man's family, and the man will pack it according to the amount of the dowry. Okay, a wedding bag? Give it to the person who marries him, then spread out the objects he marries, put them in the hall, set off firecrackers and invite relatives, friends and neighbors to watch. Bright dowry? .

Speaking of. Bright dowry? The customs in Lipu, Guangxi are the strangest. According to the local custom, bright dowry is carried out in the bridal chamber, commonly known as? Dowry opener? . After the wedding reception, the ceremony will be held after the couple have finished the tea ceremony, presided over by uncle (if there is no uncle, it will be replaced by uncle or uncle). Before unpacking, my uncle sang: left box, right box, bright gold and silver? . After singing, I opened the box, took out the items in the box and sang the name of the dowry.

Singing one by one, every time I take out something, I bring out some banknotes and coins taken from the box surface. The whistle falls to the ground and flies around the house. To the crowd? Oh! Oh! ? There is a warm atmosphere in the bridal chamber in her voice, which shows the wealth of her family. My uncle took the dowry out of the box, gave it to a special receiver, and spread it on the bed, table and floor of the new house for everyone to watch to show their dignity.

In addition to precious and soft things, hand embroidery, clothes and daily necessities, there are several essential dowry items in the box: a small match, a small packet of salt, a small bottle of oil, vinegar and sauce to show that the bride is diligent and capable and has a good housekeeping. At the same time, show off the full compensation of the family, and there is nothing to worry about.

Shanghai Nanhui area, the day before the wedding, the dowry was paid, was it? Fill the box? Custom. According to local custom, the bride's red and green quilt must be sewn by her sister-in-law. Quilt heads, homespun, clothes, headscarves, etc. in parents' hands. Then she married her daughter one by one, and the sister-in-law mended the bedding and put it in the dowry box, indicating that these things were married to her daughter with the consent of her brother and sister-in-law, so as to avoid conflicts at home in the future. Fill the box? .

Then the dowry is placed in the main house and red candles are lit. When the man who marries the dowry arrives, he will pay for all kinds of masters for the woman, and then the uncle will start to pay the dowry. First of all, send a offspring bucket, say something when you send it, and take the baby to have a look (that is, bring something)? Then everyone can move the dowry.

Interestingly, according to local customs, you can't choose a dowry, you can't carry it, and you can't carry it. Take the dowry and go to the southeast. The dowry cannot be changed on the way, and the obviously light items should be loaded with heavy ones. Not far, but it's a long way. Take a dragon? , in fact, is to show off, intentionally? Put on airs

Conclusion: From the above introduction, I think everyone knows what a woman should use as a dowry. Many of us women are thinking about how to go to the man's house without being angry and be taken care of for life. In fact, dowry has many functions, and the custom of dowry is different in every place.

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