Why do we work harder and get more anxious?

In today's increasingly fierce competition, many young people will always feel a lot of invisible pressure while struggling. Some of these pressures come from economy, family, workplace and so on, but more often, we don't know where these pressures come from. If we feel puzzled, we will be anxious, and the whole person will slowly get lost in the anxious days every day. On the one hand, anxiety can indeed be transformed into a potential driving force to realize the ideal of life to a certain extent, but on the other hand, if you continue to fall into anxiety and slowly lose yourself, you will eventually be overwhelmed and exhausted. Psychologists point out that being in an anxious mood for a long time will make our life out of order and fall into a state of panic, tension and even collapse. Then, in the face of anxiety, we need to constantly debug our inner pointers and find our own sense of rhythm.

There are as many dreams as anxieties.

Anxiety is as much as white hair.

Now the network platform, outdoor screen media, mobile phone terminal? Every day, we are faced with a mimicry environment constructed by various news information, and sometimes we feel at a loss.

At the beginning of 20 17, Alpha Dog became a master and finished 60 victories. Some people marvel that artificial intelligence has surpassed thousands of years of actual combat drills and made a prediction that "robots will replace more jobs and lead to more unemployment".

In the news industry, the first batch of robots have been produced to edit simple information, and artificial intelligence is increasingly used by various industries.

When more and more media workers choose to leave the traditional media and join the media or the capital market to realize another value of life, many media people feel anxious, anxious about the limitations of their own development, and anxious that their former colleagues and friends will become middle-level listed companies with an annual salary of one million yuan.

"Our future has everything, and our future has nothing." Dickens's remark became a lot of self-mockery of the post-80s generation. "My dreams are as much as my anxiety, and my anxiety is as much as my white hair." Under the fierce competition, we are in a hurry and have no time to talk to him.

A post-80 s netizen who is starting a business wrote in the WeChat circle of friends:

"Looking back on the past few years, which day was not anxious? Whether it is forced by public opinion or because of its own competitiveness, there is not a day when it is not anxious. When you have no money, you worry about where to find money, and when you have money, you worry about how to make more money, which is worth investing. Just like an injured hand, if you hold it too tightly, it will turn wildly. But why on earth are we anxious? "

This post-80s white-collar worker who works in a public institution in Guangdong has not achieved much in the eyes of his classmates. After graduating from graduate school, I was admitted to this institution with a monthly income of more than 1000. Dapeng's hometown is in a mountain in Hunan. In his mind, the simplest and happiest time is when he is young.

"At that time, my goal was very small. My dad told me that you want to go to college, find a job to eat public grain after graduation, and stop growing food in the fields like your parents. "

"I have been working for six or seven years now, have a family and bought a house, but this is my most anxious time. Society is very realistic. I'm afraid I won't get the promotion. I'm afraid I have no bargaining chip. I will be 34 years old soon. I don't want to be confused, but there seems to be no better way. Middle-aged anxiety seems to come earlier? "

The best perfection

Is to accept imperfection.

Zhou Xuhui, director of the Alcohol Addiction and Internet Addiction Center of Hunan Brain Hospital, said: "Anxiety symptoms are different from anxiety disorders. Anxiety symptoms are called anxiety disorder to some extent, and anxiety disorder is a disease. Many people have anxiety, which is an emotional state brought by a premonition of crisis, and the core symptom is excessive worry. Nowadays, social competition is fierce and anxiety is easy to occur. "

According to the statistics of the World Health Organization, 80% of anxiety patients have insomnia.

"People in their thirties are in a stage of rapid development, which brings great pressure. Many young people have high expectations of themselves, and at the same time they are faced with the pressure of buying a house, getting married, raising children and supporting the elderly. These factors are mixed together to double the psychological burden. " Zhou Xuhui said.

Sheng Mingke, dean and professor of the School of Public Administration of Xiangtan University, believes that, on the whole, these anxieties are the anxiety and insecurity of young people in the social transition period facing many uncertainties.

The first is the distribution of social resources. Although the total amount of resources is increasing, the distribution of high-quality resources (education, medical care, development opportunities, etc.). ) not balanced enough; Second, the social mobility slows down and the stratum tends to solidify; The third is the psychological anxiety caused by the difference of living environment between generations.

Sheng Mingke said that if young people don't have parents to rely on now, the housing pressure may be even greater. The negative emotions of young people under the pressure of life easily breed prejudice, division and opposition, which brings challenges to national governance, social integration and individual survival.

"The best perfection is to accept imperfection." Zhou Xuhui said, "After the anxiety, first ask: Do I have to think so? Can you think from another angle? Then try to relax through yoga, swimming, etc. When the body relaxes, the degree of anxiety will decrease. In addition, to establish good interpersonal relationships, join some community organizations. When people are in different environments and have different hobbies and like-minded friends, anxiety will be alleviated. "

When your talent can't support your dreams.

A post-90s mainland girl who worked hard in Hong Kong left a message on WeChat: "I am only 24 years old, but I am in such a hurry. I want to do something, but I am worried that my talents can't support my dreams? "

"I see more and more young people eager for success. First, because of the information society, a large number of successful people appear, constantly stimulating them and making them have a strong desire to succeed; Second, this society has a single standard to measure success. It seems that only' spring breeze is proud of horseshoe disease, and you can see all the Chang 'an flowers in one day' can prove yourself. It seems that only' an annual salary of over one million is the peak of life'. " Sheng Mingke said.

Jia Pingwa once said that we have never felt so rich or so anxious. On the one hand, people's creativity is great, on the other hand, people's desires are also concentrated, so there are many social contradictions. These contradictions are social problems, legal problems and cultural problems.

A post-80s cadre in Hunan said: "In officialdom, promotion has become the only criterion for many people to measure their success. Once there is no hope of promotion, there will be a lazy mentality. Although some people are young and mature, they think about mixing circles and engaging in relationships all day, but they lack the enthusiasm of the officers. "

"How can a person find elegance in the upheaval of society? First of all, we need to enhance our own value and make our hearts stronger and firmer. Then, learn to vent and get along with positive energy friends. In addition, it is recommended to give yourself an hour of daze every day to think about whether you want what you are pursuing or compare with others. " Zhou Xuhui said.

Jiang Xun, a writer, said in Four Lectures on Fun that "fast is not necessarily beautiful, but slow is sometimes beautiful". "When a person has no choice in many materials, he will be in a state of panic, and this state of panic just constitutes an unattractive phenomenon. Slow down, you may find beauty again, find peace, and find yourself? "

In this era, each of us feels that we have more opportunities, conditions and possibilities to realize and pursue our dreams than ever before. We will struggle and work hard to realize our dreams, and we will also be uneasy and uncertain because of our dreams. This is the cause of anxiety. What is there to be afraid of? Enjoy the anxiety. This kind of anxiety is not anxiety or illness, but the vitality of our times and social progress. Therefore, control your anxiety reasonably, enjoy it, strengthen yourself, and let this anxiety become the driving force for you to realize your dream.