Three successful cases of educating children

Parents are inevitably eager to educate their children, but don't encourage them to do so, so as not to get the opposite effect. The following are the successful cases of educating children that I have compiled for you. Welcome to read!

Successful cases of educating children 1:

? If someone hits you, you hit him. If you can't beat him, bite him. We would rather lose money than suffer. ? This is what many parents often say when educating their children. In order to correct this wrong view of parents, experts suggest that kindness education for children should not be ignored. Especially the mother of the child, should educate the child with love? Good advice? Let children cultivate virtues such as fraternity, sympathy and tolerance from an early age.

In life, many parents often give their children some special education, such as indoctrination? How can society cheat and intrigue, and how can people intrigue? Wait a minute. (Eight rules necessary to improve the quality of sex) Perhaps the original intention of parents is not wrong, that is, to warn children to learn to protect themselves and be careful. However, the scale of this kind of education is difficult to grasp. Imagine what kind of seeds we will plant in our children's hearts if parents are biased or even wrong in guiding their children.

Maybe in the eyes of parents? Never suffered since childhood? In order to better protect themselves. ? People are easy to bully? The new concept makes parents ignore the goodwill education for their children. However, experts say that children can't protect themselves well without kindness. Therefore, as parents, we must never give up the goodwill education for our children.

Experts say: the content of a good education includes four aspects:

1, protecting the natural environment and animals; 2. sympathize with and help the weak, and create opportunities for children to help those in need; 3. Be tolerant of others; 4. Spit out explosive force, don't provide children with explosive toys, stay away from explosive shots, and don't use explosive behavior when dealing with problems.

The core part is family education. Generally, there are four kinds of love with different relationships and different natures in a family. Only by living in such a sound environment of love can children enjoy care and cultivate a kind heart.

Love for children

Children's love for their parents is a response to their love. Children's self-esteem, self-love, filial piety, responsibility and other qualities are obtained from their parents' daily performance. Therefore, parents should give their children the right love and set a correct example.

Companion love

Seeing that parents and other elders love their companions, children will learn to love their friends. At present, most families in China have only one child, and they lack the opportunity to practice the love of brother and sister. At this stage, the study of love can only be made up by kindergarten, school or community environment. Parents should create more opportunities for their children to be with their peers. This is an education in itself, from which children will learn to understand, share, unite and help.

Love between husband and wife

A harmonious and happy relationship between husband and wife is also an education for children. Children can learn to understand, accept, appreciate, be sincere and affirm from the mutual care and care of husband and wife. Another concept that couples love to pass on to their children is loyalty. This is also the key to cultivating children's kindness.

Parental love

When children receive the education of the above three kinds of love, they will become a kind and healthy person. When they become parents, they can pass on the right love and kind heart to the next generation. So this kind of education is endless.

Successful cases of educating children 2:

I am in a hurry, but children are never in a hurry to learn. Before, I coached a child named Xiao Yong in our training center. He was just in the third grade when his mother took him to my studio for consultation. The child in front of him is thin and pale, lacking liveliness and aura. His mother looks strong and quick-witted, but her face is full of anger and helplessness. After the mother and son sat down, mother began to speak without waiting for me to speak. My child started primary school at the age of seven. Although I am also a teacher, the conditions in our school are poor, so I sent him to the best primary school in the city through my relationship. Although the school is far from home, it is worthwhile for me to suffer for his future competitiveness. The grade of the first grade is ok, and it has been kept in the top ten of the class. But in the second grade, his grades fell. The teacher also said that he looked like a different person, and his class movements were much more obvious than before. Education was effective at first, but now he is as thick as a wall. The more the teacher talks, the more anxious I am. After I got home, I was stricter with him. It turned out to be counterproductive. I coaxed him, coaxed him, praised him, scolded him and hit him in so many ways, but there were more and more problems in him, and even the teacher refused to take care of him. It has been said several times that this child should transfer or drop out of school. I spent a lot of time with him in the second semester of the second grade, even going to and from school, but he became more and more disappointing and stopped studying at school. He always plays with a few bad children, and he doesn't eat hard or soft at home. My worst fear has finally come true. In the final exam of grade two, I got 90 points in Chinese and mathematics, ranking sixth from the bottom on the spot. His father is also very angry this time. He took off his leather shoes and hit him. He even cried and shouted: There are others in the class who are worse than me, and some who got 20 points! ? His performance made me laugh and cry. Miss Wang, is it true that our teacher can't teach children well?

Mother nagged, frowned and sobbed in tears. On the other hand, Xiao Yong sat opposite me and looked around as if his mother's tears had nothing to do with him. At this moment, two students who were resting came out of the classroom, and I motioned Xiao Yong to play in the yard with them. Suddenly, Xiao Yong slipped out listlessly. Soon, his hearty laughter rang out in the yard.

? Miss Wang, let me tell you the truth. I have taken my child to see a psychiatrist several times, but I have followed the psychiatrist's method and it has no effect on him at all. ?

? The child is not a psychological problem at all, he just changed his original learning attitude. In fact, teachers and parents are two different concepts. Do you feel uncomfortable when you hit your child? ?

? Yes! ?

? His father doesn't care much about children, because you think he is doing it in the wrong way, so people don't ask questions at all.

? Yes! ?

? You can hit the child, but you will feel distressed if his father hits the child. You protected the baby again.

? I didn't say that! Miss Wang, how do you know?

? I can feel that you are a very authoritarian mother and an authoritarian wife, and everything in the family is in your charge. ?

? Hmm! His father always cares about his children. Teacher Wang, do you think this child can be saved?

? It's hopeless! At the very least, the children around you are difficult to adjust! ?

? why

? Because you're a kid? Mom? ! ? I smiled and warned him.

? How about being a stepmother? ! ? Mother also smiled, gently wiping her tears, and didn't avoid her inexplicably.

? You are also a primary school teacher. What do you think of the outstanding students in your class?

? That is our pride as teachers! ?

? Ha ha! Excellent students are not necessarily taught by our teachers, but are induced by encouragement and appreciation. And when you treat your children, you lack this link, because your mother's desire is too high, and your child's grades can't reach your satisfaction. Although the child has reached the point where you should be proud, you added it to the back of pride? All of them? In two words, children have almost become your whole life, all your hopes, and everything used to show the value of a mother. Children have become tools to show others! I also tell the truth, if the child comes to such a mother, his growth can be said to be a hell. Although the child's grade in senior one is excellent, it can't reach your satisfaction, because your maximum satisfaction value is double percentage and the minimum value is above 95. The fluctuation of children's test scores can hurt your heart every time. In fact, children's test scores are all taught by you, not learned through hard work. Because of this, children have lost the opportunity to experience learning by themselves, and all they can experience is the unhappiness of learning. Just like a mother teaches her children to drive, but the steering wheel and throttle are controlled by her mother. The child is just a passenger. After a long time, children will doze off and even get tired of learning to drive and even learn to ride! ?

? Yes! Yes! Yes! Miss Wang, you are absolutely right. I am such a mother. Why didn't I understand this before? Richard. So what! ?

? Ha! Ha! Ha! You only appreciate the outstanding students in your eyes, but you haven't studied the parents of those students who don't study well! ?

? Miss Wang, I finally understand now that teachers and parents are not the same thing when it comes to educating children. When I was at school, I appreciated and educated my children with a normal heart, but when I got home, such a normal heart became quick success and instant benefit, and the advantages of my children became disadvantages?

? I don't know the true face of Lushan Mountain, but I am only on this mountain. Such a good boy, but you can't see his merits. You are a qualified teacher, but not a competent parent! ?

Later, Xiao Yong was transferred to his own school by his mother. Because his children have poor grades, bad study habits have been formed, and the cultivation of learning mentality is full of obstacles. It's just a coping style for children to go to school with schoolbags on their backs every day. He can't find the passion for learning, and his learning progress is slow. Habits that should not be learned always appear in children. Soon, Xiao Yong was sent back to our training center to help him with his learning mentality. Because he didn't learn the knowledge well in the second grade, and the frustration in the third grade was too wide, we finally adopted the induction scheme of taking retreat as progress. After one semester, the child successfully returned to school to take the final exam with excellent results. Now that three years have passed, Xiao Yong, like the names of other children I raised, is gradually forgotten in my memory. But in a parent training class this year, Xiao Yong's mother suddenly appeared in our parent school. She told me happily that Xiao Yong had successfully entered middle school, and her children's learning mentality had been very good. Her parents also became very worry-free. Now that children are older, adolescent education is very important. She came to class just to recharge her batteries!

When I returned to my studio, I had an impulse, so I wrote about Xiao Yong in words. I hope more parents and friends can establish a new understanding of family education and family rearing. Children's poor learning has a lot to do with their parents' educational methods. In life, many parents have the same feelings as Xiao Yong's mother, that is, their children are not active in learning at all, and parents worry about everything: their children are not slow to eat. Late for school, children are not in a hurry, parents are in a hurry; Children are not in a hurry to write homework, and parents are in a hurry; Even after graduating from college, children are not in a hurry to find a job, while parents are running around like ants on hot bricks! There are of course many reasons for this situation, but one of the fundamental reasons is that there are few children at home now. When parents see that their children are useless, they always want to step in to help them, or even replace their instinctive labor and ideas, which leads to their children being passive instead of subject in life. Subordinate? Location, parents, everything? Urgent? In the front, of course, children don't have to be in the back? Urgent? Yes

Successful cases of educating children 3:

Every parent in the world has the same desire, eager for their children to grow up. Especially in the contemporary era, science and technology are changing with each passing day, knowledge economy is becoming more and more obvious, and social competition is becoming increasingly fierce. People have higher expectations for their children. They also pay more attention to family education. Facing their children, many parents have changed their educational concepts, improved their educational methods and made gratifying achievements in educating their children under the new situation. However, there are still many parents who have outdated family education concepts, cling to the past and adopt inappropriate methods. Although I was worried about my child's growth, it broke my heart, but the result backfired, and even there were deviations and mistakes that I regretted.

A child's young mind is like a blank sheet of paper. Different family education can draw different pictures and shape children's different personalities. At all times, there are no children who can't teach well, only parents who can and can't. It can be seen that whether the methods used by parents are appropriate directly affects the effect of family education.

Family is the cell of society, they are different; How can family education succeed in these different families? Where is the road to successful family education? How the hell should I go? Combined with the actual situation of my family, I think parents can explore and practice from the following aspects.

First, the subtle influence on children.

Scientific research shows that children's earliest learning begins with imitation. From a very young age, they will "melt" what they see, hear and feel in their developing brains and unconsciously imitate them in their later lives. So the famous Soviet educator makarenko said? Parents are the first teachers in their children's lives, and their words and deeds, every move, a look, and even the intangible spiritual world will have a subtle influence on their children.

Usually we will see the scene of "training children" on the road, in the yard and in the corridor. These parents think that "training" is a father's privilege, and what's more, it is accompanied by punching and kicking. The result of "training" is often counterproductive. They gain nothing except increasing resistance for their children. "

For example, in a small mountain village in Henan, the three brothers Lin became doctoral students one after another. They come from poor families. What is the secret of their success? Parents lead by example and teach by example. The Lins influenced their three sons by their studious behavior before they entered school and during their study. The reading atmosphere of two generations continued until all three sons went to college. What is even more remarkable is that they were so poor in those years, but they subscribed to literary magazines and passed on world famous works for a long time, so that their three sons not only read them several times, but also discussed them several times. Their poor walls are plastered with all kinds of notes, on which are written famous sayings and aphorisms of being a man. The three sons grew up in such a poor but noble atmosphere, which had a profound and far-reaching impact on their cultural literacy, life perception and personality sublimation.

The touching thing about Mr. and Mrs. Lin's godson lies not in the cultivation of the three doctors, but in his perseverance, self-improvement and studious spirit in poverty. This spirit deeply infects every son, casts their indomitable character, and promotes them to keep forging ahead and give full play to their learning potential.

Second, let children learn how to be human.

Being a man is the foundation of a child's life. Therefore, in order to make children successful, teaching children to be human is the primary task of family education. Parents who don't know this can't cultivate children who know how to honor their elders, let alone become national pillars and social elites.

Many parents, when considering their children's life, often only pay attention to how to make their children become so-called useful people, just like those powerful country people in the era of warlord melee, who only work hard on how to make connections and how to build cannon fodder, and never know how to care about other more important aspects and needs of their subordinates. Such parents only urge their children to study hard in knowledge and skills, and do not actively influence and educate their children in quality and character. Therefore, the next generation they trained is really no different from cannon fodder on the battlefield, and it doesn't matter to anyone in the future. I don't deserve to be the master of this world. It should be noted that integrity and kindness are the useful foundation. Only with lifelong excellent quality and sound personality can we become useful talents with social autonomy. Instead of the future, one's life will be controlled by cannon fodder or soulless robots, and the mass-produced screws that deviate from modern civilization are actually equivalent to walking dead without independent thinking and creativity, which is very unfavorable to the progress and development of society and the happiness of families, and only conducive to irresponsible use and tightening of one's own screwdriver. Moreover, there are countless negative and unfortunate examples, even around us, valuing wisdom over morality and killing people.

Ma Yuge, a small reporter in CCTV's Big Windmill column, is an excellent pupil with the same name and surname on the Internet. She is famous all over the world and enjoys a high reputation at home and abroad. On her growth path, her father Ma devoted a lot of efforts to the healthy growth of children's body and mind. The horse exerts a subtle influence on the children and is conscientious and responsible in his work. Both inside and outside, Ma is very concerned about everything that is beneficial to society. Serious and selfless, he believes that parents should first work hard in this regard if they want their children to become the kind of people they want. On one occasion, Yu Ge was seriously injured while cleaning the classroom. She couldn't move in bed for five days in a row. No one took the initiative to see her. How she wishes her classmates could come to see her and talk to herself. Father knows his daughter's mind best. He told her, "We shouldn't care what others think of us."

Ma's "moral" education is "ugly" in the eyes of some eager parents, but it is not. Many people think that the 2 1 century is facing the challenge of the "new technology" revolution, but just at this time, UNESCO put forward the "moral and ethical challenges" that people face in the 2 1 century.

Modern western educators find that virtue has a direct impact on people's career success from another angle: 65,438+0. If you give something to others, others can feel it, so you are more easily accepted by others, which makes you have better interpersonal relationships. And interpersonal relationship is an important guarantee for career success. People with high moral character are often open-minded and optimistic. Because they think little about themselves, they are swayed by considerations of gain and loss. And this positive emotion is very helpful to the success of the career. People who are willing to help others often have a sense of accomplishment, because they also gain self-worth from the rewards they get from helping others. This sense of accomplishment is an important driver of life efforts. Malik Hony, really teaching children how to be a man is not the way to be a man, but the only way to succeed in life. What happened to Ma Yuge? Interested parents may wish to search the student's name online and see a series of live introductions about her growth, especially recently. The result will definitely surprise you. There is only one person named "Ma Yuge" on the Internet, which is very easy to find. It is suggested to search for "Ma Hongyi" and learn about his systematic educational thoughts by the way. Don't neglect the moral education of horses. There is not a hint of fashionable and corrupt political preaching in him. It can be said that Ma has created the most successful family education case of our time. The cultivation of EQ is not inferior to IQ, and the information is complete, cordial and touching. His educational idea transcends the ideological ignorance barrier and is far away from any harmful political prejudice. It is very simple, reliable, great, successful, rare and vital.

Third, promote the all-round development of children's quality.

A child is like a seedling, which needs water, soil, sunshine and nutrients during its growth. The implementation of quality education requires schools, society and families to comprehensively train the younger generation in accordance with the educational policy and promote their healthy physical and mental growth.

We are in the 2 1 century, and children are facing opportunities and challenges in the era of knowledge economy. They need not only knowledge and skills, but also a sound personality, a stronger physique, a more active spirit of innovation and a stronger practical ability, all of which need to be cultivated from an early age.

Zhang Chi, the youngest doctoral student in China in the history of Cambridge University, is only 22 years old. His growth and cultivation are beyond the reach of ordinary people. When talking about family education for his son, his father Zhang Mingshan said several "yes" and "no" in succession: "Before studying, we must cultivate children's self-confidence and curiosity, cultivate children's good study habits and ability to overcome difficulties, and don't push them to school. Don't let children blindly rely on their parents' guidance and don't dampen their confidence. " Therefore, he paid attention to the following points in practice: 1, the cultivation of children's good habits; 2. The cultivation of children's learning emotion; 3. Educate children to learn to be human and cultivate love; 4. Cultivation of independent consciousness; 5. Communicate with children on an equal footing and "face-to-face" communication. 6. Actively hint at children; 7. Praise and appreciate children in a timely and appropriate manner, 8. Cultivate self-confidence; Cultivate children's labor consciousness, hard-working spirit and hard-working spirit; 9. Cultivate and improve comprehensive quality; 10, the implementation of home-school education is consistent. The practical experience and achievements of this family prove that Daniel, a professor of psychology at Harvard University in the United States? Gorman's words, "People's success, IQ index only accounts for 20%, while emotional intelligence and other factors account for 80%. "

Fourth, give children freedom and space.

In the process of physical and mental development, children have a wide range of interests and strong thirst for knowledge. These are the internal motivation of their study. To protect this curiosity and cultivate children's creativity, it is necessary to give children a space for free exploration and choice.