What are the four interpretations of filial piety in A Dream of Red Mansions?

Filial piety has always been a topic often mentioned in our lives, because we are growing up and our elders are getting old. How to be filial to them is necessary. A Dream of Red Mansions is based on four big families under the feudal traditional ethics. Because emperors ruled the world with filial piety, "filial piety" became the value of ancient society. Among them, its four interpretations of filial piety still have important practical significance.

First, it is normal to support and respect parents and serve them. Respect is the key to filial piety. The simplest layer is to support and respect parents. It seems simple, but it is not easy to do.

Parenting is parenting. Granny Liu has been a widow for many years. Because she had no son and no one to take care of her, her daughter took her over after she got married. You Laoniang is the biological mother of Second Sister You and You Sanjie. She had no children, so Second Sister You secretly married Jia Lian as a second wife, and she followed Second Sister You all the time, and Second Sister You always took care of her.

There was no one in A Dream of Red Mansions who kicked their parents out of Jia's family, so everyone could take care of their parents in the society at that time. It is common to serve parents, and it is most important to let parents be respected.

Jia Mu is the oldest elder in Jia Fu, so Jia Mu has absolute voice and weight in Jia Fu. Jia Zheng and Jia She are both masters of Jia Fu, but they still respect Jia Mu when they meet her. Jia Zheng tried to hit Baoyu, but no one could stop him, but Jia Jia said that Jia Zheng quickly kowtowed and apologized, promising never to hit Baoyu again. This is Jia Zheng's absolute respect for Jia Jia.

Jia she is the same to Jia. He wanted Yuanyang to be with Jia, but Jia flatly refused, and Jia could not say anything. He went to see Jia. He just asked Mrs. Xing to say hello to Jia every day. As long as Jia is alive, he will never touch Yuanyang.

The authority of Jia Mu in Jia Fu is not just talk, but real rights. As long as she speaks, everyone must obey. A parent can have the right to speak at home because of her children's respect for her.

Mammy Lai is the mother of Lai Da and Lai Er, two big housekeepers in Jia family. She served Jia's mother, so her status is higher than that of the general young master, but in her own home, her status is also very high. I dare not teach my grandson Lai Shangrong or my daughter-in-law to show her respect. These are all respects from her family, so that she can enjoy wealth and happiness in her later years.

The traditional concept of filial piety not only requires children to do their duty to support their parents, but more importantly, children have a loving heart for their parents. In the traditional concept of filial piety, respecting relatives is a higher level of filial piety than raising relatives.

Second, obedience and persuasion are the real filial piety to parents. Many people may understand that to be obedient, parents and elders will do whatever they say, even blindly. They call it obedience.

But this obedience is not always good. In A Dream of Red Mansions, such children, such as Yingchun, her father Jia She insisted on marrying Sun Shaozu, the "Zhongshan Wolf". Jia Zheng spoke for Yingchun twice, but Yingchun never argued. Her obedient marriage was really abused by Sun Shaozu, and she died in just one year. Yingchun's absolute obedience to her parents' orders hurt her.

My parents are older and more knowledgeable than us, but they also need to have their own opinions in some aspects. Parents sometimes make mistakes. At this time, knowing how to "advise relatives" reasonably is the real filial piety.

Aunt Zhao has always been a confused mother. Because she is not smart and wants to fight for justice for herself, she is often used as a gun. If Tanchun always follows her words at this time, then Aunt Zhao has long been cursed by malicious people, so Tanchun's role is to persuade Aunt Zhao from time to time to do her own thing well. As long as she is in the proper treatment, she will never be less.

Although I still won't listen, Aunt Zhao will be more restrained, and Tanchun will pack less things for her. As long as Tanchun is here, everyone will give her a little face and not embarrass Aunt Zhao. What she was most afraid of was that Aunt Zhao, who was married, didn't know, which would make her life in Jiafu difficult, so Tanchun advised her many times, hoping that she could take care of herself.

There is a little girl named Chunyan in Baoyu's room, but she is good at "persuading relatives". Her mother is Fang Guan's foster mother, Mrs. He. Although she is a nobody, the scenes she plays are extremely impressive.

What woman took Fang Guan's monthly money and let Chun Yan wash her hair first? Chun Yan didn't want to tell her mother that it was not good. Later, Fang Guan blew soup for Baoyu, and Mrs. He tried to intervene and was scolded. Chun Yan told her, but she wouldn't listen. Chun Yan's mother and menstruation blamed Chun Yan and chased Da Chun Yan. Baoyu finally got angry and wanted to kick the woman out, but Chun Yan begged her to stay and told her a lot about how to behave in Hongyiyuan.

After "learning from mistakes", Mrs He believed Chun Yan's words very much, and they lived happily ever after. Chun Yan's advice to his mother is gradual. If she doesn't listen at first, let her suffer a little, and then persuasion will be much better.

At the moment of "absolute authority of patriarchy", Jia Lian also "admonished relatives" to Jia She. Jia She fell in love with an ancient fan for a while, and he asked Jia Lian to find it. Jia Lian did find a man named "Shi Chi". There were many such fans at home, but he would rather die than sell them, so Jia Lian gave up.

When learning about Jia's love, the stone nerd was sent to Jia after his property was destroyed. Jia She called Jia Lian "useless", but Jia Lian looked down on Jia Yucun's behavior at this time, and ruined his family's home for a few fans. Jia Lian disdained it and refused. Jia Lian's exhortation was naturally denied by Jia She, and he also gave him a good beating. Although he was beaten, he could see that Jia Lian's three views were correct.

Obedience and exhortation are not two opposite things, they are completely compatible, but if parents make mistakes, they can't "obey" even if they are beaten, but because they point out their parents' mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes, including parents. In order to avoid the great influence of one's own mistakes, being a child is filial piety.

Third, bereavement and sacrifice, keeping in mind and the sense of sacrifice ceremony are two things that cannot be ignored. Parents are the ones who gave birth to us, but they will eventually leave this world before us. We have done our filial piety in front of them. How can we pay homage to them after they die?

Daiyu was the first lady in Jiafu to feel the death of her loved one, because her mother died when she was five years old and her father died when she was about ten years old. Daiyu experienced the death of her parents in just a few years. Before Daiyu's parents died, Daiyu kept by their side to serve soup. After their death, Daiyu continued to be filial for them for three years.

Although they died in Daiyu's heart, they have always lived in Daiyu's heart. Daiyu will miss them from time to time, pay homage to them on their deathday, and work hard to live and take care of herself so that they can get peace of mind under the grave. Daiyu was very sad when she saw the tuqin sent by Baochai, because she was homesick and missed her parents. When her parents were gone, no one prepared these things for her anymore.

The basic meaning of filial piety is "parents", including "things happen" and "things die". Whether our parents are here or not, we will treat them equally. This is the best filial piety.

For individuals, honoring their deceased parents is a kind of commemoration and mourning, but it is more grand and formal for the whole family to pay homage to their ancestors.

Jia's ancestor worship is very serious. Jia Jing, who often lives in the Taoist temple, will go home for the New Year, which means that everyone in Jia's family will be present, even Baoqin, who has just been identified as her adopted daughter, will attend.

Because the ancestral hall is located in Ningguo Mansion, Jia Zhen and others have already cleaned the ancestral hall, invited the portraits and memorial tablets of their ancestors, and prepared all kinds of sacrifices. On the day of the sacrifice, everyone stood up according to the rules, handed food and incense, and so on, but everyone should follow the rules and be quiet.

It is the mind of the younger generation to treat and take care of life before death; It is a custom and a filial piety to worship ancestors solemnly in the ancestral temple. How to be filial is actually in the dribs and drabs of life. Taking it seriously is filial piety.

Fourth, make contributions to show your parents. Family is not an obstacle to personal development. Families and individuals often "pull one hair and move the whole body." Everyone can't live without his family, but how to balance the relationship between family and individual needs to be learned.

In ancient times, men were given the mission of shining the lintel at an early age, which was an invisible burden for them. They can't say no, but do it well. For a woman, if her parents need it, marriage is also a bargaining chip for her family. If ancient children were born into a big family, their fate was largely like this. They enjoy the honor that others can't, so they have to bear more pressure.

Yuan Chun entered the palace as a female history when she was very young, and later became an imperial concubine. Her fate is closely linked with Jia's family, who is the patron of her palace. There is no particularly outstanding man in Jia's family who can take on the heavy responsibility, so the burden at home needs her. Life in the palace is never easy. Yuan Chun died in a court battle in his thirties.

Tanchun is her own sister, and her fate can't escape the end of sacrificing for her family. Tai Fei Nan 'an went to Jiafu to find a woman who could marry and kiss far away. As a result, I chose Tanchun. For the long-term interests of the family, she had to obey, so the tragedy of Tanchun began.

Yuan Chunhe is two excellent girls in the Jia family. This is their fate. Born in the Jia family, they had no choice. It was their inescapable fate to enter the palace as a princess and marry a vassal. If Jia Fu was still strong, they might be able to marry a Mr Right like their aunt Jia Min, but the defeat of Jia Fu doomed them to pay for it.

Sacrificing for one's family and taking the honor of the lintel as one's duty are the deep-rooted thoughts of most people, but Baoyu doesn't think so. Everyone is an independent individual and should have a life he wants to pursue. The burden of family should not be entrusted to him.

Baoyu's open-mindedness may also include escape, but his epiphany also made him resolutely become a monk after Jia's defeat. He returned to his hometown because he had no cause and no reason, and his earthly fate with Jia family was exhausted.

Win glory for parents and families, and extend the life span of parents and families. Children within the scope of family ethics is the highest requirement of traditional filial piety. This is an invisible shackle that binds many people's dreams and actions to pursue the life they want. Therefore, instead of making it difficult for yourself to do such meaningless things, it is better to "govern by doing nothing." Everyone's family and individuals have their own destiny and cannot be forced. Why not let nature take its course? Eventually, they will have their own way.

Generally speaking, there are four interpretations of filial piety in A Dream of Red Mansions, which tell what filial piety is and how to do it from different levels and dimensions. This is the leading place of thought in A Dream of Red Mansions. It has the tradition of ancient feudal filial piety, but it also conveys a message that everyone should critically inherit filial piety, so the filial piety thought in it is still applicable in modern times.

Supporting parents is an obligation, and making parents respected is the goal; Persuading relatives is the deepest obedience. We should listen to our parents and elders and do whatever they ask us to do, but when they make mistakes, we should also say that this is a virtuous circle; Whether parents are alive or dead, we all need the same filial piety; Finally, we should understand that families need personal protection, but they also need their own way of life. Don't be bound by the overall rules, which is not worth the candle.

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