What are the customs in Jiangyin?

Old times, men and women married at the behest of their parents, the words of matchmakers, I can not be autonomous. Marriage has the so-called "six rites", the program is very complicated:?

Na Cai male family Central media to the female family to propose marriage, the female family promised to discuss the marriage, the male family to prepare gifts to go to the marriage proposal.

Ask for the name The man's family asked the matchmaker to ask for the woman's name and date of birth, known as "ask for eight". If the woman agrees, she will ask the matchmaker to send the "geng sticker" (birth year, month, day, hour, and zodiac sign) to the man, which is called "sending the mouth to be born.

Naji male party will be "mouth raw" in the "God of the stove" in 3 days of peace in the house, and then ask the fortune-teller pinpointing, such as the two sides without "punch", then choose a day! "betrothal". "betrothal" is not limited to age, there are young children, teenagers, and even in the mother's womb on the betrothal, the so-called "finger for marriage".

Na levy by the male will be the name of the three generations of grandchildren written in the "Geng sticker", together with the bride price (gold and silver jewelry and clothing) in the bride price box, sent to the female side. The exchange of "big sticker three generations", the marriage is finalized.

Please before the wedding, the man chose an auspicious day, written on red paper, and prepare "pressure post" (gift money), to the matchmaker will be "day book" to the woman. Generally sent to the third time, the woman will accept. After the wedding date is determined, according to the woman's request, and then give the gift of money, called "big send silver", in order to prepare for the woman to place dowry.

Welcoming the bridegroom on the day of the wedding, the groom himself, the man to prepare the sedan chair to welcome the bride, the woman to prepare the trousseau to send the marriage. Both sides prepare a banquet for their relatives and friends. Please "full blessed people" (husband and wife, women with children) to make a new bed, called "warm room". When welcoming the bride, there should be two lanterns with the man's family name, and a "wangbang" is carried as a guide. The new son-in-law door to door, there is a request for "open the door reward seal" to let the door of the ugly rules, "sedan chair to the door, but also half a cow money. Over the door, parents should invite their daughters to dinner, the daughter must eat a little leftover, for good luck. Before the sedan chair, change clothes and wash face on the "head face", to cry goodbye to parents. Sedan chair up, the female family to the bride with the water to splash out, meaning "marrying out of the daughter splash out of the water", the future of the mother's family no matter. The male party to send people halfway to wait for the sedan chair, see the sedan chair cannon, to show welcome. Sedan chair parked in front of the male family, in the sound of firecrackers, lit candles, eat reunion, the bride assisted by the bridesmaids, footsteps on the bag (symbolizing the succession), rice firewood (symbol of the gold bar), into the husband's house door. Then, the bride and groom to worship heaven and earth, worship parents, but also to worship, collectively known as "worship". Hand holding a red and green scarf, by a pair of boys and girls hand-held red candles into the new room. The groom uses a scale to pick up the square scarf on the bride's head, symbolizing "satisfaction", and the couple performs fm radio and drinks the fm radio. Then, the couple will have a banquet for the guests and make fun of the new house. After the guests disperse, the whole family eats the "Hapa Joy", and the bride leaves the rice on the table, which is called "Leaving rice on the table". Afterwards, the new couple in the new room to eat jujube cinnamon (symbolizing the early birth of a son), lotus heart walnut (symbolizing even heart as intended) and five eggs (symbolizing the five sons). The next morning, the bride is introduced to her relatives and elders by her mother-in-law. The bride offers tea to the elders, who give her red paper "meet money".

The third day after the wedding, the groom with gifts to accompany the bride back to the bride's home, known as the "double back to the door", the woman hosted a banquet. The new son-in-law to meet the female elders, subject to "meet the money", the female side of the cake buns, boxed, brought back to the in-laws on the same day to tie the knot.

After the Xinhai Revolution, this feudal marriage system and the red tape of the wedding, mainly characterized by the man to pay the woman's worth, was impacted by progressive intellectuals, advocating free love, the implementation of civilized marriage. The bride and groom were accompanied by bridesmaids and groomsmen, and the marriage ceremony was held in the presence of parents and introducers from both sides, and local dignitaries were invited to witness the marriage. Ceremony has music, singing, witnesses read the marriage certificate, the new couple relative bow, in the marriage seal, exchange ornaments and so on. Officiating, the introducer, the newlyweds and guests to speak to show congratulations and encouragement, the newcomers also want to speak to thank, the ceremony is warm and grand, but the countryside changes little. Jiangyin fishermen wedding is the most simple, the general big brother sculling, the second brother to support the Penny, the bride boat and the male family boat and head close together, put a few firecrackers, the female side of the dowry with a simple move on, and help the bride covered with a square scarf stepped on the bridegroom's prow, drilled into the cabin, the bride boat that is the return of the wedding is the end of the wedding.