Guangdong people to prepare what to get married?

Guangdong wedding customs over the big ceremony . _

The most solemn ceremony of betrothal takes place about fifteen to twenty days before the wedding. The man's family chose the auspicious day, carrying gifts and a variety of gifts to the woman's home. Today, due to the time-consuming and cumbersome nature of this traditional wedding ceremony, the full set of [three books and six rituals] is rarely used, and is mostly simplified, with the most widely recognized and important one being the big ceremony. _

The male family's rites of passage are as follows: . _

- Two boxes of dragon and phoenix cakes and one box of western-style cakes. _

- Double happiness eight kinds of fruit jizi basket (raw and fierce). _

- Two pairs of Coconuts (for the bride), two pairs of Dragon and Phoenix Candles (for the bride). _

- Two pairs of hot-stamped couplets for men and women, two boxes of tea and sesame seeds (for women's chastity and faithfulness). _

- Double happiness hot stamping gold seal two (for bride price). _

- Two hundred-year good-luck three animal seals (chicken, fish and pork gifts can be replaced by three animal gifts). _

- Double happiness sticker box (walnuts, clothed lotus seeds, lily, red dates, shelled peanuts, dried lychee, dried longan, red beans, green beans, sesame seeds, tea, ten auspicious Beijing fruits). _

- One pack of lentils, two packs of Double Happiness Hot Stamped Li Shi Seals. _

The woman's family returned the following gifts:. _

- A boat of golden lotus root (a perfect match), a pair of pomegranates (many children, many blessings). _

- Ginger, taro, hibiscus, cypress, tangerine, two packs of Double Happiness hot gold envelopes, a pair of Double Happiness He Wei towels. _

- Big Tea Gift (Big Fat Muffin, Money, Longli, Pan-fried Pile, Red Packet, etc.) {Yau Ma Tea Gift}. _

Moving the dowry. _

After receiving the dowry, the woman's family is required to deliver it to the man's family no later than the day before the wedding. The dowry is a symbol of the status and wealth of the woman's family. In the past, Cantonese people liked to use camphor wood to send the dowry, taking the meaning of its strength and durability. The dowry can be categorized into [sending] and [welcoming]. [The woman's family sends the dowry to the man's house, and in addition to the dowry bearers, the woman's family invites a few friends and relatives to follow her to take care of the dowry, with the greater number of people representing the woman's family's wealth. After the dowry is carried to the man's home, the man's family will invite friends and relatives to come out to welcome the dowry, which is called [welcoming the dowry]. In addition to expensive jewelry and gold ornaments, the dowry contains many other symbols of good omen. The phlegm Meng is used as a pail for children and grandchildren in the hope that the daughter will have a large number of children and grandchildren. The red ruler as a ruler of children and grandchildren, has the meaning of good land; vase on behalf of the blossom of wealth and prosperity; copper plate and shoes means that they will grow old together; silver purse with the meaning of the waist of ten thousand; scissors mean butterflies flying; dragon and phoenix quilt, bed sheets and a pair of pillows, the blessing of the new couple's love and lingering; pieces of sugar is a metaphor for the sweetness and happiness; dragon and phoenix bowls and chopsticks as clothes and chopsticks have the meaning of rich clothes and sufficient food (the bowl placed in a letter of lai Si, which can be used to replace the dowry of 72 sets of clothes). _

Bridal dowry supplies: . _

o Hundred Years of Happiness Tea Set (one plate, one pot, four cups). _

o Hundred-year Harmony Clothes Bowl (one pair of bowls, chopsticks, plates and spoons). _

o Hundred Years of Good Fortune Lidded Cups (a pair). _

o Silk Embroidered Concentric Chopsticks Set for Two, Double Happiness Red Bucket for Children and Grandchildren (Sputum Meng). _

o Double Happiness Mandarin Ducks Noodle Plate, An Bed Jing Fruit Plate. _

An bed. _

On the auspicious day a few days before the wedding, the Good Fortune Wife will set up the new bed in an auspicious position favorable to the newlyweds, then spread the dragon and phoenix quilt, and sprinkle red and green beans, lotus seeds, red dates, cinnamon, walnuts and other joyful fruits. After the bed is set up, relatives are not allowed to sleep in the new bed, and pregnant women, those with filial piety and women with menstrual periods are not allowed to enter the new bed. In addition, after settling the bed, small children should be allowed to jump on the bed and eat the happy fruits, which is anciently known as [Pressing the Bed], and has the meaning of opening branches and spreading leaves. [The most important ceremonies and etiquette before the wedding are the [Shangge] and [Shangtou]. The [Shangge] is a period of time before the bride-to-be gets married when she stays in a corner of her home, usually in her boudoir or attic, accompanied by a group of sisters and close friends from her bosom, to get rid of her usual habits for a while, and to prepare herself psychologically for the unfamiliar living environment of the man's family. The bride will be until the day of marriage and leave the attic, therefore, commonly known as the girl to get married as [out of the attic]. In modern times, there is also an event similar to the [Shoukaku], where the bride invites her sisters and close friends to stay at the woman's house for the night before the wedding to talk to each other about their problems and to prepare for another stage of their lives tomorrow. Although there were occasional tears from the sisters, the overall atmosphere was one of joy.... _

Birthday of a child: . _

(Red dates [early], peanuts [raw], dried cinnamon [precious], lotus seeds [son]) . _

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Modern marriage rituals, before welcoming the bride, both male and female families will still separately perform the ceremony of Shangtou. The ceremony is held on the night or day before the wedding. On the first symbolizes a pair of couples formally into adulthood, to organize a new family, shoulder the mission of spreading the leaves. A good time must be chosen, with the man half an hour earlier than the woman, and the man and woman must first bathe and be washed by a [Quanfu] person (commonly known as a good fortune man/good fortune woman, an elder in the family of the man and woman, who must have healthy parents and children, and who is in good harmony with the husband and wife) with pomelo water (the pomelo leaf is said to be able to wash away dirt). After that, the bride puts on new underwear and pajamas and sits by a window with a view of the moonlight and has her hair combed by a good fortune man or woman. The bride's hair is put into a bun to signify her transition into adulthood. While combing the bride's hair, the good fortune man or woman will say auspicious phrases that rhyme with each other, such as, "One comb to the end, two combs to the gray hair, three combs to the children and grandchildren, four combs to the four silver bamboo shoots, all labeled together." The symbolism wishes the new couple to be together and happy marriage. Finally, the Good Fortune Man or the Good Fortune Wife needs to tie the flat cypress and the red headband on the head of the bride or groom, so as to complete the ceremony of the head. Since the ceremony is a blessing of the parents for their children, it is more important.... _

The man's head. _

Before the head should be bathed in green pomelo leaves, and then put on brand new underwear and pajamas, to take the meaning of a new beginning, the case should be prepared in front of the three bowls of dumplings (nine grains per bowl), mirrors, red headbands, pointed combs, descendants of the ruler, the dragon and phoenix scissors, to the head of the good fortune of the person on the head (combing the hair), and sincerely to the sky to pay homage to the head of the head is completed, then you can eat the dumplings with the family and the brothers to share the joy of the wedding.... _

Men's Auspicious Haircocking Set:. _

(Pointed comb, mirror, dragon and phoenix candle, son and grandson ruler, red head rope, dragon and phoenix scissors, etc.). _

Lady's head. _

Before the head should first bathe in green pomelo leaves, then put on brand new underwear and pajamas, and then choose a window where you can see the moon, light up the dragon and phoenix candles, along with three bowls of dumplings, fruits, roasted meat, chicken, and sincerely worship the sky, and even more should be prepared for the wooden combs and comb instead of combs, sewing kits, and red silk scarves; while the dragon and phoenix scissors on behalf of the favorable, the descendants of the ruler, the mirror is to take the meaning of its bright after that, namely The so-called [dragon mirror, hinged scissors ruler]. _

Women's auspicious on the head set:. _

(comb, grate, needle, thread, dragon and phoenix candle, dragon and phoenix scissors, mirror, red head rope, descendant ruler, etc.). _

Small stickers: . _

Can be everything from the simple, to LiYao instead, write (over the big gift LiYao) can be. Such as instead of pork (pork gold), instead of the former material (clothing gold), but some important gifts, you should try to find personally, including: a pair of dragon and phoenix cake, Tang cake several (about eight), a pair of dragon and phoenix candles, a pair of couplets and fruits and so on. The items in the bride price are meant to be auspicious, and the number of items must be in pairs, avoiding the use of odd numbers. The female family received the male family's bride price is not all accepted, which belongs to the male family's goods, you need to return the gift; gifts can not send handkerchiefs, because there is a breakup of the meaning of the . _

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- Manners before the Wedding. _

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1. Send bride-price: Before the wedding, the man will have to go to the woman's home to send bride-price to welcome the bride. The custom in Guangzhou is to send chicken (meaning that there is anger), coconut (masters and sons, the blessings of heaven), gift cakes (to the female relatives), but also to send gifts of money, meaning that the man's family has money, will allow the woman to marry over to enjoy the benefits. 3. An bed: in the night before the wedding, the woman will find a blessed man (family, parents alive, have a son) to the new room of the new bed, and peanuts, jujubes, walnuts, etc. means that the early birth of a child and other good intentions of the food on the bed.... _

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4. Dowry: Before the bride gets married, she will put the dowry prepared by her mother's family in a red suitcase and wait until the next day to bring it to her mother-in-law's home.... _

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5. Head: The night before the wedding, an auspicious time will be chosen to worship the gods, heaven and earth, and pray for happiness, and the man will be notified to do so at the same time.... _

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6. Combing Hair: The bride will ask a blessed elder to comb her hair.... _

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7. Eating Tangyuan: It means that you can have a successful marriage and complete happiness.... _

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Wedding day etiquette. _

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1. Welcome the bride: on the morning of the wedding, the man's receiving team will come to the woman's home to receive the bride. Nowadays, the bride is a big climax of the whole wedding. The first level is the "entrance". If you want to successfully receive the beauty, you must go through a series of intellectual and physical ability tests, if necessary, plus songs of love, but the most important thing is the rich "open the door to the market", the sisters are satisfied before opening the door. The groom should welcome the bride with a flower ball (the bride cannot make her own flower ball). _

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2. Looking for red shoes: the groom will look for red shoes for the bride in the room where he receives the bride, and put them on the bride before he can take the bride away.... _

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Getting Started. _

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After arriving at the man's house, the bride will be assisted by her husband to enter the man's house. A charcoal-burning fire pit (copper or iron) is placed outside the main doorway, and the bride has to cross the fire pit, which is called "crossing the fire pit", taking it as a means of generating prosperity and chasing away evil spirits. The next step is the worship ceremony, which is divided into three steps: the first is to worship Heaven and Earth, the second is to worship the ancestors, and the third is to pay homage to the family's ancestors. After worshipping heaven and earth and kneeling to the ancestors, the couple will bow down to the groom's parents, and the bride will offer fragrant tea to the family's elders and aunts, and then one by one, according to the seniority of each member of the family and the age of the elders, and whether they kneel down or not will depend on the preference of the honored and the honored. After kneeling to worship parents, the new couple will pay respect to each other, the big realities of the sister constantly say some auspicious words, in the mutual rent to pay respect to each other, pay respect to the hall before the ceremony.... _

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For traditional Chinese people, honoring tea is a very important ritual. After the bride and groom have paid respect to their ancestors, they must offer tea to their parents, which not only represents a thank you to the parents for raising them, but also signifies that both parents have accepted the bride or groom as a new member of the family, which is a symbol of confirmation of their identity. Two red dates and lotus seeds are usually placed in the fragrant tea used by the newlyweds for the tea ceremony, symbolizing the auspicious omen of an early birth. After drinking the bride's cup of tea, the new family weng, family aunts and elders will send gold bracelets, jade and other jewelry as a gift for the new daughter-in-law, and will put a letter of lishui on the plate (commonly known as the "betel box") that holds the fragrant tea, as a reward for the big realities of the sister-in-law.... _

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Going out. _

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After arriving at the girl's home, the first hurdle is to enter the door. If you want to successfully receive a beautiful woman, you have to go through a series of intellectual and physical tests, and if necessary, you also have to read out the declaration of love (the contract of sale), but the most important thing is to give all the sisters a generous opening of the door to the market, and open the door only after the satisfaction of all the sisters. After the door is opened, the bride is brought out by the eldest sister or the maid of honor to the bride's father, who then hands the bride over to the bridegroom and formally performs the rite of passage for husband and wife. After the bride and groom first worship heaven and earth, and then worship ancestors, and then to both parents to serve tea kneeling, to receive the bride ceremony is completed.... _

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Completing the above ceremony, the bride needs to be supported by the bridesmaids or the big menstruation sister and play the red umbrella, which means to spread the leaves, the other sisters must also be walking around and scattering the rice and red, green beans, gold paper crushed, commonly known as "feeding the golden chicken", it is said that can prevent the golden chicken pecking the bride. On the float before the bride to send off friends and relatives bow, to show appreciation. Must pay attention to is to accompany the bride through the door to the male family, in addition to the big sister, must be unmarried women, and the bride's brother can not accompany the bride through the door, if the bride earlier than the elder brother to marry, must be the elder brother's pants hanging in the doorway, by the new man in the crotch of the pants under the through, if earlier than the sister to marry, then send a skirt to the unmarried sister, unmarried siblings can not witness the new man out of the house or through the door, should be temporarily shunned.... _

Third Dynasty. _

The return of the door, although not listed in the three books and six rites, is an extremely important traditional Chinese wedding ceremony, and must not be taken lightly. Once upon a time, a bride would return to her parents' home on the third day of her marriage, accompanied by her husband. The bride in the door, to wear China's traditional bridal dress (skirt) and pull on the new red bridal bag, skirt on behalf of the bride's identity of pure and pure, only the yellow blossom girl can wear. At the same time the male family must send back a golden pig to show the bride's chastity. The female family received the golden pig that is distributed to relatives and friends, neighbors to enjoy, that their daughters do not dishonor the family lintel. Traditionally, the mother-in-law needs to leave the bride and son-in-law home for dinner, but nowadays most couples choose to return on the same day in order to save time, that is, the bride and groom in the man's home to worship heaven and earth and offer tea to the aunt, then immediately carry out the ceremony of return to the door, and then go back to the man's home or directly to the restaurant, the bride and groom can also be returned to the door on the second day, but must not be more than the third day, which means that the man's family is not satisfied with the bride, does not approve of the bride to return to the bride's home. Nowadays, most of the gifts are replaced by liyi, with the exception of the suckling pig. _

Homecoming gifts: 1 (from the man's home to the woman's home): a golden pig, two boxes of cakes, two bottles of wine, a pair of chickens, pork belly and pork two catty, two baskets of fruits (on behalf of the fierce), a head of lettuce (Feng Sheng Shuiqi), green onions (loose moving), two boxes of noodles (on behalf of the love of the lingering), a head of the end of the sugar cane two.

Return gifts: 2 (from the woman's home to the man's home) a golden pig's head, tail, arms and legs, half of a pig's tongue, a box of cakes, a head of sugar cane, a head of lettuce. _

Wedding taboos. _

1, the wedding day, the bride went out, sister-in-law can not send, because [sister-in-law] and sweeping star homophonic, inauspicious. The bride out of the clothes avoid having pockets, so as not to take away the bride's family's fortune.... _

2, the wedding is not organized, no one can not sit on the new bed, and the bride is not allowed to lie down, so as not to be sick in bed all year round.... _

3, the bride must wear new shoes on the day of the wedding, meaning that the old things will be thrown away.... _

4, the bride must wear earrings when she goes out to show obedience, no ear piercing can wear clip earrings.... _

5, the bride and groom's elders, such as those who have died, in the tea, he (she) should sit on the position of the new bride and groom on the tea, after the tea incidentally move a stool, and then let the next one seated.