Chinese and Western attitudes toward love and their differences

Differences between Chinese and Western attitudes toward love

Love plays an extremely important role in a person's life. There are even "love supremacists" in society, who take the pursuit of love as the highest goal of life. This point of view is certainly excessive, but also from the other side of the lovely and honorable love. The concept of love in today's society has both the influence of the western culture's concept of love and the deep traces of the traditional Chinese concept of love. It would be interesting to compare the Chinese and Western concepts of love.

In the eyes of Westerners, love is the most joyful thing in life. Without love, life loses its infinite interest. That's why Westerners call the paradise of the religious, "the eternal honeymoon," which means this. Westerners believe that when one is in love, the object of one's admiration is like an angel, perfect and absolutely pure. Therefore, a true love will make a person's soul to be purified, moral sublimation. With the Chinese words, a true love, will make people die and live a lot, really make people have a sense of transformation. This is why the Western literati and scholars and artists, all attach importance to love, and even fell in love many times in their lives, in order to find inspiration and passion. Goethe had a good poem for every love affair, which is a proof of this.

The Chinese are also aware of the beauty of love, but they also know that love cannot be confined to the physical sphere, so they combine love with filial piety and fraternal duty, and propriety and righteousness. In the past, Chinese people relied on their parents' orders and the words of matchmakers to decide on marriage. Once engaged, although the man and woman have never met, or only seen one side, but know that each other is his or her lifelong partner, so it is not inevitable to often guess, speculate, inquire, so that the heart belongs to the lifelong trust, over time, there will still be the pain of longing for each other, and will still produce pure love. Although there is no tangible object of love like the Westerners, but the intangible object is easier to make people think, so that people beautify each other, easier to produce a pure sense of beauty. "Love makes a man noble", the traditional Chinese way of love will still make people have a deep experience of this, and more than the Westerners more y engraved.

Secondly, the Chinese concept of love, not only men and women should be intimate, water and milk, but also love and respect. Love and respect, so that the realm of love can be expanded. Western male and female couples just love and love. Only love, no respect, easy to make each other as his private property, produce a possessive. What's worse, depending on the other side of my favorite items, weekdays can certainly be like a favorite collection of things to be appreciated, play, once the time has changed, no longer love each other, naturally, you can give up on her (him) and go, like abandoning an item as no pity. This is why one of the reasons for the high divorce rate in Western society is only love without respect for the shortcomings of the concept of love. Imagine how easily we can abandon our respected elders, leaders or idols? Can you bear to abandon them so easily? I am afraid not. Not only will not, and to our respected people, but also to follow a lifetime, emulate a lifetime.

The Chinese have long understood this truth, and have advocated that couples should love and respect each other, and honor and love each other, in order to make the relationship between husband and wife long-lasting. The Chinese idiom describes the relationship between husband and wife as "raising the eyebrows, respecting each other like a guest", but not "love each other like a guest", and this is the reason. In the Book of Songs, it is said that "when you are newly married, you will be like a brother, like a younger brother", because brothers should respect and understand each other. Ancient Chinese couples were often referred to as brothers, but not so in the West. Ancient Chinese couples, but also to Junqing call, then the meaning of respect is even stronger.

As for some people in the community that love is purely a combination of male and female flesh, lust, such a concept of love is even more equal to the next, not worth a refutation.

The Chinese sincerely hope that couples can love each other for a lifetime and grow old together. I wish all people's love will last forever. "In the sky wish to be Bijie bird, in the earth wish to be Lianliang branch" "May all lovers in the world become lovers!" . Chinese concept of love, how beautiful!