Will young people follow the traditional human rules in the future?

We should treat all kinds of "rules" dialectically. Good rules need to be conveyed in a good way so that young people can learn to abide by them. Out-of-date bad rules don't need to be followed, on the contrary, they should be thrown away like garbage. If the rules are good, but the elders teach young people in the wrong way, young people can listen to the useful parts, and the elders need to consider improving the methods.

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First, what is a "rule"?

The "rules" in daily context generally refer to the habitual rules and regulations that people should know and abide by. These "rules" are part of social order. If you don't obey the rules, you may break the original order. Many folk sayings, aphorisms and aphorisms can be regarded as rules formulated by the ancients.

Some of these rules are still useful now, while others are out of date. As a social custom, rules should keep pace with the times, not adapt to the backward rules of today's times, and should be swept into the garbage dump of history; However, some rules that are not outdated and still have practical significance should still be observed and maintained.

Rules are sometimes synonymous with "rules". "Without rules, there will be no Fiona Fang". Everyone keeps the correct "rules"-following the general social rules, a more harmonious and friendly society will emerge. In modern society, there is a close relationship between people. No one can live in a vacuum. No one can do whatever they want. If he can't do it, he can't obey any rules.

Second, why don't young people like what their elders call "rules"?

Young people dislike "rules", often not the rules themselves, but the attitude of their elders when they convey them. For example, the elders are too fond of being teachers and look serious as teachers. Good things should have been exported to the younger generation, so be sure to use the command/mandatory tone of "You must/you should/you honestly give me something", which will make the younger generation feel that they are not respected and stimulate rebellious psychology. This situation is that the elders themselves are not enough, or the way of speaking lacks artistry. If the elders are good at self-cultivation and have been able to educate the younger generation, they will naturally set an example. Therefore, the elders should set rules for the younger generation, and it is better to set an example by themselves and be tactful and silent.

Sometimes the younger generation hates the so-called "rules" of their elders because those rules said by their elders are really old-fashioned and outdated, completely out of touch with the present, and there is no need to abide by them at all. For example, young people are naturally disgusted with the legacy of these feudal ideas; Another example is the concept and behavior of filial piety, such as "feeding mosquitoes with blood" and "lying on ice as carp". Of course, young people will also be disgusted and disgusted.

The elders often strictly forbid what the younger generation can't/can't do, but rarely tell the younger generation what they can/can do, and the elders rarely tell the younger generation what they can and can't do. These are also ways for elders to educate their children.

Is it useless to put aside those outdated "rules" and temporarily ignore and tolerate the bad attitude of elders when "lecturing"? Not exactly.

There are some "rules" that young people nowadays should know but don't know or know but don't do. Good and necessary rules should be observed. You must insist on not following these rules, which may not kill you, but it will definitely ruin your luck! -the elders think that you are too uneducated, "you can't be taught by a willing son" and "you can't carve a dead wood". If you have a good growth opportunity, I won't raise you. Give those plastic ones.

When an elder tells us a rule, if it is true, the younger generation can first think about why the elder said so. If you don't understand, you can ask the elder the reason for the rule. If it is really reasonable and beneficial to them, they can fully understand the sharing of their elders and then share it with others. Such a rule is actually the life experience of the elders.

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3. What "rules" should young people follow?

The first category is basic social etiquette: as a middle-aged uncle born in the 1980s, he may be able to pretend to be an elder in front of the post-90s and post-00s. I have found many times that many young people have no basic rules at all, and some of them can even be said to be seriously uneducated. For example, some younger generations sit next to their elders and put one foot on someone else's stool. When we were young, if we had such behavior, we would be reminded by our parents at first, and then we would be severely educated. If we don't change our teaching, our elders will hit us with sticks or even poker, and our legs will really be broken. In modern behavioral linguistics, it is very impolite to step on other people's stools, which belongs to the act of arbitrarily occupying other people's territory.

Some young people face their elders, cross their legs and point their toes at them. Or keep shaking your legs like a cramp, which will give people a frivolous and unreliable impression.

In daily conversations with elders and seniors, the honorific "you" is often used; When colleagues, relatives and friends have dinner, wait for people to arrive at the hour before moving chopsticks, wait for the elders to move chopsticks first, and clink glasses as low as possible ... These are the default social rules. Many fledgling young people have to be kicked and locked up for a long time to understand these basic rules.

The second category is personal safety: for example, if you go out alone, don't have sex with men and women. On the surface, this rule sounds a bit old-fashioned, as if it limits people's free love. But in fact, many troubles and disasters in the world are due to the love debt between men and women. Don't flirt casually, meet mysterious and complicated opposite sex, even if they are attractive again, try to stay away and don't get involved easily. When we hear the rule of "be cautious about the relationship between men and women" instilled in us by our elders, what we should absorb is to find a reliable and normal boy/girl and fall in love seriously.

For another example, in public, it is best to do less activities that are too immersive, such as not using headphones for a long time on buses and subways. Girls walk alone at night or on a complicated road, try not to listen to headphones. Because, when the ears are blocked, people will lose their vigilance against the surrounding environment and their judgment will become dull. At this time, it is difficult to have a quick response time when encountering roadblocks or even bad people.

The third category is family relations: filial piety should be emphasized when people come from a family, and couples in a small family should treat each other equally and treat customers with respect. These are not outdated rules. Before marriage, we should respect our parents, be filial to them, be brothers and sisters like brothers and sisters, and be brothers and sisters like brothers and sisters, so that family relations will be harmonious and individuals can relax and develop themselves with a stable rear area. But if an elder says that you should obey your parents unconditionally, it may not be correct. My personal opinion is that people should be filial, but they don't have to be tactful all the time. Filial piety refers to respecting parents' personality and feelings and being grateful for their upbringing. They are more concerned about their health when they are self-sufficient, but they can't support themselves when they are self-sufficient ... However, each generation has its own ideas and each generation has its own destiny. When it comes to personal marital happiness and career, if parents disagree with themselves and can't reconcile, and finally listen to their hearts instead of their parents, that kind of "disobedience" can't be called. On the contrary, individuals always believe that young people should have their own opinions. If this generation can constantly surpass the limitations of the previous generation, the whole society can make faster progress.

In the past, the rule was that a father was a son and a husband was a wife. This concept has long been regarded as a feudal legacy. The rule of the new era should be: after marriage, husband and wife should respect each other and treat customers as the first priority. There is no need to argue about what milk powder to buy and what diapers to buy. Major issues are divided into fields, and whoever specializes in which field will focus on his opinions. For example, the husband knows more about education and culture, while the wife is better at investing and managing money. Therefore, children should give priority to respecting their husbands' opinions in study and listening to their wives' opinions in family finance.

A "hidden rule" that needs to be known is that apart from giving each other enough trust, leaving some private space for each other and not checking each other's mobile phones, it is not necessary for couples to live seriously all the time. In the private room, try to keep the interest of first love and wedding, and there should not be too much seriousness on that occasion.