Wedding Vacation Customs in Yingzi District, Chengde City

A, marriage proposal

That is, the male family commissioned the matchmaker to the woman's home to propose marriage, if the woman agrees to discuss the marriage, then the male family went to the woman's home to ask for a marriage proposal, commonly known as "matchmaking". In the old days, the heavy "door to door" and "life to choose", circulating "door to door, door to door, open mouth on the fence," the ballad. Generally speaking, the man entrusted matchmakers to propose marriage, first of all, their own identity, land, property and their own children to do a comprehensive consideration, and the situation of the woman's family with whether or not, that is, both sides of the conditions are almost the same. But there are also matchmakers who receive heavy gifts, false. If the female parents are interested in, they will ask people to listen to the male situation, if the portal is considered equivalent, the two men and women will do the sticker. Geng stickers are made of red paper, written on the married children's names, years, three generations, the place of origin, commonly known as "four Geng stickers", the two sides later exchange.

Second, ask the name

Commonly known as the discussion of eight. "Eight" is based on each person's birth year, month, day, time, each with the heavenly stem, the earthly branch of the two words match, four **** there are eight words, so called "eight". Superstitious people believe that according to the eight characters can be projected out of a person's fate is good or bad, everyone belongs to the five elements in a "life", such as gold, wood, water, fire, earth, etc., where the five elements of each other can not be married. Matchmaker first held male sticker to the female home, the woman's birth date, along with the bride price written on the back of the male sticker, brought to the male by the matchmaker, the male party please life Mr. "Heshao", divination, such as men and women in eight years Geng no "punch lucky," both parents agreed, can be engaged. Of course, there are other say, such as "female big one can not be", "wife big two have a pair of", "wife big three hold gold brick" and so on.

Three, for posting

Men and women's marriage is said to be finalized, to hold a posting, posting the date of the date to choose an auspicious day. Men and women first send the matchmaker to the female side of the negotiation. The male will be negotiating the bride-price and the groom's gung sticker into a small box, and red cloth or red damask will be wrapped in a small box, together with the bride price (including coins, clothing, food), by the matchmaker to send to the woman's home. The female family received the bride price, bride price and male gung stickers, the female out of the gung stickers into the original box, together with the return of the dress dowry and wedding fruits, etc. forwarded by the matchmaker to the male family, this procedure is called for stickers.

Four, over the ceremony

This is the ceremony in which the man sends the bride price to the woman's family after the marriage contract is concluded between the man and the woman. Sent the bride price of the marriage contract is considered to be officially effective. In the old days, the general male family to give the female family 100-200 yuan of cash Yang, clothing, bracelets, rings and other gifts. Before the wedding, but also "carry food bucket" (with three rectangular planks into the shelf), at least three food bucket to send, stacked with rice, noodles, steamed bread, pork, etc., by a number of people sent to carry the female family.

Five, wedding preparations

Marriage before the wedding to choose the day of marriage, choose double double day, such as the fourth of April, August 28, etc., or three, six, nine auspicious days. After the selection of good, the male family prepared gifts and clothing, red invitation stickers written on the date to meet the date to be forwarded to the female family matchmaker, notify friends and relatives of the date of the wedding. And began to clean up the courtyard, painting, decorating the new room. The new room hung on the happy painting, there are unicorn to send a son, five sons, etc.. Window decorations are often made of magpies, mandarin ducks, swallows and lotus seeds. Home plastered all over the happy couplets and red "happy" characters. The happy couplets are mostly "a hundred years of harmony", "white heads together", "flowers bloom side by side", "绾结同心", "suitable room suitable for the family" and so on. After receiving the man's red invitation sticker, the woman's family starts to purchase dowry, welcome family members, and invite both men and women to return guests. The elders of the family invite their daughters to eat the "Lei Niang Mian".

Sixth, marriage

The day of marriage, both sides have "aunt does not come, aunt does not send" of the taboo, and transport both sides shall not be entrusted to the widow, the second head of the marriage or the phases of the bride and groom of the person who are incompatible. This day is the male family's big day, in front of the house, in the yard and outside, all with water to splash the ground, cleaned spotless. Hanging red lanterns in front of the door, the yard, under the eaves of the house is full of friends and relatives sent hanging scrolls, clothing, quilts, everywhere presenting a warm and joyful scene. When the wedding firecrackers, red lanterns and umbrellas, drums and gongs. Conditional also invited the honor guard, suona accompaniment. To the front door of the woman's home, the woman's home will deliberately prior to the male party, "refused to the door", to be the male party will be "over the door gift" from the doorway stuffed in before opening the door to meet. Then lead to the guest room to eat refreshments and "down the horse noodles".

The bride in the sedan chair before the open face (also known as open face), that is, with a line will be strung on the face of sweat hair. After combing with relatives to say goodbye, and then covered with a red scarf, red scarf sewn on the corners of the dates, peanuts, copper (that is, the auspiciousness of the early birth of a son), hanging a mirror in front of the chest, in order to "avoid" the evil light. In the welcoming song, by his brother back people in the sedan chair, and a small brother or son of the inverted generation followed in the sedan chair, known as the "sedan chair children". From the woman's home, the groom rode in front of the male companion, the male married guest, followed by the northern horse. By the female party elders or two male relatives of the same generation, followed by the groom sedan chair around, the hands of the sedan chair pole with the line, escorting the dowry, commonly known as the "sender". Female sender in the sedan chair after riding a horse or car to follow.

The bride married back, to the village string of villages, is not allowed to go the original way, said not to go back. Along the way, the sound of firecrackers, suona constantly playing, very lively. Sedan chair to the men's home stopped at the door, the groom dismounted to the sedan chair three bows, known as the worship sedan chair God. Bride by the bridesmaids to help out of the sedan chair. After the bride pulled color into the door, the first from the fire pit across. Symbolizing the days after the wedding "fire fire". Then step on the red felt into the hall to worship the marriage. At this time, by the pre-existing invited people of high moral standing as bridesmaids (master of ceremonies), presiding over the wedding ceremony.

This is the bridesmaid out of the class first sang: "bridesmaid bridesmaid, two steps a zhang, dragon and phoenix mandarin ducks, harmony a pair." Then read the happy song, the lyrics are auspicious language, such as "luan wind and singing", "flowers and moon", "the new room a flash of red flowers, the family has a gold bucket for the Dragon", "Siangfu hanging colored silk on the door, Miss Qianjin with the king's waiter" and so on. Then sing in turn: the bride and groom a worship of heaven and earth; two worship high hall (parents); three worship ancestors; four worship Cailang; five worship land; six worship Chunxuan; seven worship friends and relatives; couples worship. After the bride and groom performed eight rites, and then exchanged cups. Only to hear the bridesmaid and sang: "two and good, husband and wife to old age. Look at the groom - the head of the golden flowers to present auspicious, clad in landscape embroidered mandarin ducks: Wu boots white bottom red flower lining, a cool cast in all directions. Look at the bride - colorful phoenix crown inlaid, purple cape east flying phoenix. Her willow eyebrows and almond eyes are covered with red silk, and her golden lotus is hidden under her skirt. Husband and wife in front of the Hall of flowers and candles bright, a pair of mandarin ducks coincidentally become a pair, then the music class played the song of the dragon and phoenix, in the music song, the bridesmaid sang the auspicious song: "green mountains and green water forever reflecting the room in the laughter and talk about the heart; Flower Terrace points to the ground of mandarin ducks spectrum, the lucky star shines brightly in the four times of the Kang. "Bridesmaids sing, the people have laughed back and forth, so that people feel the wedding custom interesting, and kindly amusing.

Then, by the male family members on the ground in the next transmission of the sack phase store, so that the bride from the upper walk through, each for the succession, leading the bride into the bridal chamber in this way. The end of the cave before the groom holding a bow and arrow, through the bride's head to the cave even shot three arrows, meaning to drive away evil. There are also places to the bride's head to raise the grass festival and so on, then the bridesmaids sing: "into the bridal chamber to lift the head, the unicorn sends a son to follow up" "a handful of corn a handful of jujube, daughter and child running all over the place," a kind of happy song.

Before entering the bridal chamber, we must invite a woman with both parents and a living husband to the new room for the bride and groom to put the bedding. And a handful of five-colored grain sprinkled under the mattress, to catch a grain harvest of good luck. A few red jujubes are placed under the bed, meaning that they will give birth to a son early. Pillow put a few peanuts, meaning boys and girls "flowers" inserted "birth". When the bride into the bridal chamber, the groom unveiled the bride's "cover", when the neighbors began to "make trouble in the bridal chamber". The custom of haunting the bridal chamber has a long history, and all households believe that the more people come to their own house to haunt the bridal chamber, the better, the more people show their own decency and honor. As the saying goes: "no size of the bride for three days", this day, regardless of men and women, young and old can enter the room "to see the new daughter-in-law," teasing the bride, regardless of meat and vegetarian together, intended to try to make the original shy girl into a generous splash of daughter-in-law. At night, there are people lurking on the window of the cave to listen to the bride and groom to say private words, commonly known as "listening to the room". If there is no willingness to go on rainy or snowy days, the mother will gently lean a broom under the window to complete the ritual of "listening to the room".

This day, the male family married back, in addition to entertaining the family and friends, but also enthusiastically entertained the female guests, and show dowry, that is, the female representatives of the elders of the family and friends will be rewarded with a show, delivered to the male representatives to accept, commonly known as "set the table". At this time, there are good children and nephews, to the groom's mother or aunts, sisters-in-law face black, in order to tease and make fun.

Seven, after the wedding rituals

The next day, the bride and her relatives to see, ancestor worship, graves, the female family rate of relatives to the male family to recognize their relatives, to take back the new couple, called "back to the makeup" commonly known as "back to the face! "The bridegroom was treated to a good meal. The good thing about the elder brother and sister-in-law, sister-in-law often wrapped in dumplings with chili peppers and other things, in order to laugh at the groom. Return to the male family on the same day.

The third day, the newlyweds, carrying gifts, sedan chair (or car) to the woman's mother's home, commonly known as the "three Chao back to the door". Male family sent people to send buns in the female home, called "satchel basket", and the groom back. After two days, the bride's parents and then send their daughter to the male family, so-called "two back to the three live. Six days later, and then pick up the female back, after the full moon and then send the female in the male family, called "over the month". This is the end of the marriage ceremony.

The first year of marriage during the Spring Festival, the bride and groom to the bride's parents to pay tribute to the New Year. The time is usually on the second or third day of the first month. There is a folk song sung: "the first day of the first day of the year, after the second to the third; small two couples, cleverly dressed, with New Year's goods and pastries, rushed a donkey joyfully to pay homage to the New Year." When you go, not empty-handed, you must bring some New Year's loans, souvenirs, as the folk song sings: "Drinking wine, smoking cigarettes, New Year's cake with a big basket." This also indicates that the married daughter does not forget her parents' nurturing.