What is the meaning of the old rural saying that "the old man is not liked, dead owes three years"?

Five thousand years of China, the ancestors left us more than just material wealth, but also spiritual wealth. Those traditional virtues, teach us how to behave, so that our nation continues to develop and grow, more harmonious society. When examining a person's character, the least we can do is to honor our elders and be courteous to the elderly. But as one of the traditional culture of the proverb, why did it come out: "the old man invites people to dislike, after death owes three years"?

In theory, the old man for the children, laboring all his life, and then wait for the children to grow up, have the ability to take care of themselves, it is the time to enjoy the blessing, mother and son, filial piety, the joy of heaven and earth. But existence is reasonable, since the proverb can be passed down through thousands of years, which has its own theory. First of all, let's first understand its meaning, "the old man invites people to dislike", it is very easy to understand, literally means that people will be disliked by their family members when they get old, especially the children and grandchildren. Why this would happen in ancient times, when Confucianism was revered, is also well explained. In ancient times, technology is not developed, do things basically rely on manpower, productivity is low. And when people get old, no strength, can not do the work, mobility becomes slow, to be taken care of, which will add to the family mess, for eating white rice, some people at home naturally look at him in the wrong way. And the ancient natural and man-made disasters are also a lot of droughts and floods or insect plagues, those young and strong people can not even eat their own food, sell their children to sell their children, and even more can not care about the old man.

"Three years after the death of the owe" literally means that the old man is alive and disliked, but also owed after the death of the old man. In fact, not, the old man for the children hard life, did not get due treatment, and how will still owe them it? Here is the ancient elders died, according to the rules of the younger generation have to be for them to keep filial piety for three years, but did not keep, said the children owe the old man, which is quite in line with the traditional Confucian morality.

Parents have worked hard all their lives, please treat them well in their old age, after all, when you are small, nothing can be done in the situation, they did not dislike you, but also care for you to grow up. And then there is how you treat the elderly now, your children will also be modeled, how to treat you, please do a good example.