What is the etiquette of ancient marriage?

Marriage custom of ancient Han nationality

Thirty percent:

Ask relatives for relatives: When a man reaches a certain age, his parents will ask for a good relative. First, find a matchmaker. After finding a good matchmaker, introduce the family situation, your required goals, give gifts to the matchmaker, show off your employment and so on. The matchmaker went to the corresponding home and said how to introduce the man's home. If the woman's parents agree, the man can go to the woman's house or the woman can go to the man's house for blind date (in ancient times, men and women could not go in person, but parents could go instead). Parents talk about two situations, and if both parties agree, they will give each other engagement tokens, such as Yu Pei. Or if the woman agrees, she will send the man a cup of tea, and then put the "tea money" (unlimited, but even) on the table to drink tea. Even if you agree to get married.

Engagement:

Ask the name; If there is no personality conflict between men and women, they will give each other a Geng card with their names, birthdays, ages and so on. Write it on it as evidence of engagement.

Najib: After the engagement, the man chose the auspicious day to give a big gift, and a few days later he formally saluted.

Gifts: Fifteen to twenty days before marriage, on auspicious days, the man sends dowry, hairpins and marriage certificate to the woman's house to propose marriage.

(Bedding): A few days before the wedding, a good married woman will move the wedding bed to the right place. Then, before the wedding, the good daughter-in-law is responsible for making the bed, laying the mattress, sheets and dragons and phoenixes on the bed, and taking out all kinds of happy fruits, such as red dates, longan, dried litchi, red mung beans and lily. After the bed is installed, no one is allowed to enter the new house and touch the new bed before the new couple enters the house on the wedding night.

(Dowry): The woman should prepare a dowry and bring it on the wedding day. Dowry is a symbol of a woman's family status and wealth. Dowry includes bronze mirrors, various ornaments, money and treasures.

(before marriage): the man worships his ancestors-before going out to marry the bride, he should worship his ancestors first, tell him that the marriage is settled and pray for blessing. A woman is dressed and covered with a red veil by her mother before going to bed.

Gift:

Wedding reception: Ancient weddings were held at night. The wedding reception is the climax of the whole wedding. The bride is taken out by her sister or maid of honor, given to her father, and then given to the groom. Before leaving the bride's house, the bride and groom bowed to their parents and in-laws. Big sedan chair. Six people, eight people and twelve people carry the bride to the man's house. The groom's wife will personally open the car door and let the bride off. Then a blessed elder of the man (mostly women) will tie more than a dozen red ropes for the bride and groom. The two of them took the red rope into the auditorium to avoid stepping on the threshold: the threshold represents the facade and the bride must cross the threshold. The girl holds a bronze mirror and shines it on the bride and groom, praying for happiness.

Meeting the bride: a formal part of the wedding. In front of the mourning hall, the bride and groom stood in worship of heaven and earth and their parents under the auspices of Yi Bin; Husband and wife worship, cheer up and complete the ceremony.

After the ceremony: The next morning, the bride and groom meet their in-laws, and the groom will introduce all the relatives in the family to the bride. Then the bride and groom will offer tea to their elders. On the third day, the bride and groom will go to worship their ancestors together, and the bride will formally become a family and the wedding will officially end.

After marriage, the groom should also prepare money to thank the matchmaker. This is called a thank-you ceremony, or he can make fun of the matchmaker to express his thanks.

The ancient wedding was called "Little Deng Ke", so the wedding dresses of men and women should be festive and solemn, mostly red dresses. Men usually wear a red silk towel or safflower, and the bride embroiders auspicious phoenix and phoenix patterns on her red dress, and rolls up her hair, which is also commonly known as "top" makeup and wearing a rockhopper.