I feel too traditional and think differently from my peers. How can I change?

I am a man, older than you. I think you should at least do a good job in life, and it is absolutely impossible to be obedient and virtuous. Whether it is because of modern women or not, women are first and foremost human beings and should have their own ideas. Relying on others to make decisions is irresponsible to yourself and your loved ones. Do a good job of being a "person" first (you must make your own decisions), and then be a woman (this is up to you. This society is diversified, there will always be all kinds of women, and there will always be all kinds of men who like all kinds of women. Don't worry at all. As long as you meet the standard of being a "person", even if you are like an ancient person, others will like you, so you just do what you like. So you won't be short of friends. As long as you don't become a burden to others, everyone is willing to make more friends, and you can stay alone, provided that you know whether your stay has caused trouble to others or whether others can't enjoy your help because of your stay. So being alone will make people feel that you are useless to them. As a result, you have to make your own decisions, and you may face the dilemma of no one to help you when you encounter difficulties. People belong to society, so your decision to do a good job of "people" is based on it. You should at least have time to help others, and you can't do nothing. Then do what you like.