The traditional marriage of a family in Yunnan

There is a similar rule, which is a little different from what you said.

There are three forms of Bai marriage: "adoption", "marrying a woman" and "returning to the door with the account". Bai people call the adopted son-in-law "visiting" or "inviting uncle". Young men who "come to the door" generally have more brothers or want to leave their place of residence. Generally, only young women recruit children. If the woman is the eldest daughter and there are brothers below, she will take the form of "returning the household registration", that is, on the tenth day after marriage, the wife and husband will go back to their parents' house with quilts and curtains. Responsible for supporting the elderly and taking care of brothers. The brothers can't go back to the man's house until they grow up and get married. In either case, the man is not going to hold a wedding, and all the expenses will be borne by the woman. On the wedding day, the woman's family organized relatives and friends to take all the clothes, shoes and socks of the "door-to-door lang" to the man's house to "pick up the relatives". The groom put on his clothes, bid farewell to his family and set off with the crowd. Come to the woman's residence in the sound of suona and enter the house in the sound of firecrackers. That night, the house was brightly lit and all the candles were lit, and the elders of the clan sat around the table to discuss changing the name of "Shangmenlang". Later, the elders regarded him as the son of the family, while his peers called him a brother. Children will be born with their mother's surname.

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