Love and marriage under the concept of love

The difference between love ethics and marriage ethics is taken from Cao Jing's On Love Belief.

The ethical relationship of love is self-generated. In the whole world, there is an inevitable relationship between two people (same sex or opposite sex) and love, which is based on the voluntary love beliefs (beliefs) and voluntary love beliefs (ethical relationships) of both parties. It belongs to voluntary ethics, and there is no controlling party. Voluntary ethics is something that originates from emotion and transcends it.

In China, the ethical relationship of marriage is currently registered by the Civil Affairs Bureau, with the intervention of the third party control (different countries have different marriage systems in different times), which is generated by marriage control and counted by marriage control. Belongs to control ethics. The essence of marriage belongs to the category of control. Or choose a loyal object under limited conditions.

From Cao Jing's On Love Belief, the real essence of marriage is the mechanism to control the relationship between lovers, and marriage is not necessarily related to love, life, family and childbirth. Marriage points to control ethics, while love points to voluntary ethics. In ancient times, almost the whole world was engaged in arranged marriages, emphasizing that marriage ethics (management ethics) dominated the relationship between men and women. For a long time, influenced by ancient ethics, love ethics has been eliminated and turned into "love prepares for marriage". Its logic is that love is only a preparation process, and it is not sacred until marriage. In fact, as long as you are willing, love itself can produce sacredness. When you look at the ancient classics and the Christian Bible, you find that there are basically descriptions of arranged marriages, but there is no description of love. Ancient Christianity was basically arranged marriage. Later, the idea of "love prepares for marriage", a variant of Christianity, influenced the whole world. However, in this concept, love is not recognized as a kind of sacredness, but a selection process. Today's so-called wedding vows are actually a kind of love vows, which can be sworn before the birth of marriage and can also produce a sense of sacredness. If the real essence of marriage is control, then arranged marriage may be the true face of marriage. After the arranged marriage, the control over the marriage is the weakest. The word "arranged marriage" was invented by later generations. Ancient people may think that marriage is arranged.