The ritual of "dingxiao" demonstrates the fine tradition of filial piety and obedience to one's parents, so why don't we inherit and use it in today's society?

In ancient times, after the death of their parents, the children must be in accordance with the rituals of filial piety for three years, the three years can not be married, otherwise it will be taken as the relatives of the inauspicious, the people need to resign from the government to observe filial piety, which is the "Dinwu". In the Han Dynasty, it was even stipulated that if a person made music during the period of "Ding Wu", or if the mourning period was not yet over, he or she would be regarded as "unfilial", and would be punished by severe criminal law. Ancient people attached great importance to filial piety, and those who were unfilial were subjected to the most cruel punishment.

For court officials, in addition to observing the general behavior, they were required to be dismissed from their positions of authority. If they acted recklessly during the period of the dingguo, there were harsher penalties than for ordinary people. On the other hand, during the period of mourning, if the "Dingxu" was outstanding in mourning and filial piety, he could be promoted to a higher rank and be honored by the imperial court.

While this is a fine tradition in feudal society, today we are socialist and it is clearly not working. Nowadays, the times are rapidly evolving,and no one can afford to waste three years of one's life. Three years can change a person and an era.?

So this Tingyao has become a cultural practice to be discarded. It's not that by abandoning the dingxiao, we become unfilial sons, in fact, it's not the case that a person's filial piety can't be manifested through these aspects. And we are now talking about a scientific society for those feudal superstitions we should not.

And the dingy will be a great waste of human resources, on the development of our whole society is extremely unfavorable. Love is beautiful, it should not be colored by feudal superstitions. And no one's time can be wasted, for modern people, time is the most precious thing.