Why is Liu Popo in Peacock Flying Southeast so tired? What did Liu Lanzhi do wrong?

This title should be somewhat doubtful: "Why is Grandma Liu so annoying in Peacock Flying Southeast?" ? What did Liu Lanzhi do wrong? "I think it should be the mother-in-law Jiaomu in Peacock Flying Southeast. Why are you so annoyed with Liu Lanzhi? What did Liu Lanzhi do wrong? " .

From the present point of view, Peacock Flying Southeast is a human tragedy, because a naughty mother-in-law broke up a loving couple, which led to the suicide of Jiao Zhongqing and Liu Lanzhi. Jiao Mu measures the happiness of marriage according to feudal standards, women's status in society and feudal values. One is that "a woman without talent is virtue", and the other is that "there are three great unfilial".

Let's look at Liu Lanzhi first:

"Thirteen will weave, fourteen will learn to cut clothes, fifteen will play, and sixteen will recite poems. Seventeen years old is the wife of a gentleman, and her heart is often bitter and sad. Since you are a government official, you are loyal to your chastity, and your concubine keeps an empty room. You often don't see each other often. Chickens crow into the weave and can't rest every night. It's too late to tame five horses in three days, my Lord. If you don't knit late, your wife will have a hard time! I can't be driven away, but I can stay and do nothing so that I can go home in time. "

He is not only versatile, but also frugal and very conservative. The husband is busy at work, the wife is a full-time wife at home, and the family is in good order. Although he served his in-laws carefully, he was not recognized and had to be driven out of the house. This result is actually due to Liu Lanzhi's own reasons, because in the eyes of her mother-in-law, if her son doesn't come home, it must be her daughter-in-law's fault, not her son's. This is human nature, especially in ancient times. Even now, once there are no children after marriage for many years, the mother-in-law will blame her daughter-in-law instead of doubting her son.

I believe Liu Lanzhi's mother-in-law suffered a lot in those years, so should her mother-in-law. If she has some psychological problems, I believe many people will not have opinions, and her own husband's attitude towards her will also affect her decision. A woman will be "jealous" when she sees her son getting too close to her daughter-in-law or feeling too good, and this phenomenon also exists now, which is one reason why Jiao Mu hates Liu Lanzhi.

But Jiao Mu wouldn't say that to her son. Her reason is:

"He Naitai just! This woman is rude and makes her own decisions. I have been angry for a long time, so you can't be free! The master has a virtuous daughter named Qin Luofu. She's pathetic. My mother wants to see you. Send it here quickly, and be careful not to stay! "

In fact, it fully embodies the cultural differences between Jiao Mu and Liu Lanzhi. The so-called virtuous woman she likes should be a typical person who has no knowledge and culture and accepts the traditional education of "women without talent are virtue". When I arrived at my in-laws, they must be "women who stayed in the kitchen for three days and washed their hands to make bride soup. I decided that it was not my mother-in-law, but my husband's little sister who should have the taste of Fiat", putting her mother-in-law's needs first, while Liu Lanzhi's performance was even worse, not only pursuing the feelings between husband and wife.

Of course, the most important thing is that the traditional thought of "30% unfilial" is at work:

In fact, the fundamental reason why people with conditions in ancient times married "three wives and four concubines" was to reproduce. They believe that the prosperity of population is the first condition for family inheritance. For example, Liu Lanzhi has been married for three years and has no children, so her mother-in-law will not blame her son for being busy at work, but for finding a wife. Once she couldn't have children or boys, now many mother-in-law will look down on her daughter-in-law, not to mention ancient times. If she had a room full of children and grandchildren, I believe Jiao Mu wouldn't be so radical.

Finally, I think there is a natural dislike between people, which also exists. Maybe in Liu Lanzhi's eyes, she doesn't like her mother-in-law for a long time, but she just doesn't dare to say it. They are like natural enemies, and it is possible. So Jiao Mucai showed willingness to drive her away.

Marriage and love are two people's business. Although the opinions of parents and relatives should be considered, it is husband and wife who live together for the longest time. On this issue, we still have to follow our own feelings. When this contradiction arises, we should not take extreme measures like Jiao Zhongqing and Liu Lanzhi. After all, there is only one life, and such an ending is also what Jiao Mu doesn't want to see.

Jiao Zhongqing is also responsible for this result, and his final decision is actually a great harm to the focus mother.